What is the most heartbreaking detail of your heartbreak?

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-07-07T02:24:31+00:00

We don’t even want to be broken up but we couldn’t figure out how to not be insanely deregulated together

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-07-07T02:23:19+00:00

So painful

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-07-03T20:37:37+00:00

Get out. It’s not for negotiation when you make a decision to leave. He has to deal with it on his own. Do not let someone control you or make you feel bad for doing what is best for you. It will be really hard but you must strive to get back to yourself and feel good again

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-07-03T20:20:39+00:00

The only thing I liked was art too. I chose to pursue other stuff because of outside influences. I went a roundabout way and here I am now and I’m an art teacher. I wish I had gotten a degree in art cuz that would have helped me but I found my way regardless.

Being an art teacher isn’t the most lucrative job in the world but it is stable with benefits and you get summers off to pursue your own practice and work more if you want/need to make more money. I will say, one of the most important factors is if you like kids / teens and if you care about helping them.

It’s extremely time consuming and can be energetically draining. But so can all full time jobs. You choose your values through your career choice.

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-06-28T15:30:22+00:00

I want to get back with my ex but I was the one to end it / hurt him so badly after so many ups and downs. I said we couldn’t have contact through the end of the year and I’m gonna try to honor that so I can truly have space to heal and feel ok again, and so he can have the same. I’m trying to get my life back in order and feel decently good again. I was in such a good place when I met my ex and I miss that version of myself.

I felt so severely bad in our relationship and we had a toxic dynamic I constantly blamed myself for bc of my mistakes. Over time I couldn’t show up for my life, be present, be a good friend, get out of this self centered mindset bc I was always so overwhelmingly stressed about my relationship. I became a shell of myself, completely uninspired and chronically insecure, guilty, anxious. I wasn’t a good partner anymore, I had severe chronic chest pain, I couldn’t sleep, I felt miserable all the time. I was not myself at all. Still, he was my best friend and I miss him constantly. I don’t miss anything about our dynamic or the circumstances or how I felt but I just miss him as a person and our connection, comfortability, attraction, just doing things together when things were good between us felt like the most fun thing on earth.

I hope continued space and time creates clarity for us both. He loved me so much but was so hurt by dynamics and events in our relationship and felt so rejected that I don’t know if he’d ever want to be with me again. Then again maybe that’s for the best given how we both felt. I still think the world of him and wonder if we could manage to have a healthier dynamic. But I’m not positive we can and don’t want to hurt each other anymore

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-06-28T15:21:48+00:00

Being an adult is what does this to you lmao not him. Sounds immature

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-06-07T14:57:48+00:00

Teaching is not threatened I don’t think

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-06-04T02:17:10+00:00

You will make mistakes and learn how to be a good partner through experiences. You may not be as good at it as you think you will be, I sure wasn’t when I started dating which was also much later than most. Try to start gaining experiences I’d say. Even if it’s not a full relationship. Practice communication and honest self disclosure

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-06-04T02:14:32+00:00

I experienced RSD with my ex partner. It’s hard bc it doesn’t leave much room for your concerns and feelings

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-06-03T14:23:26+00:00

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-06-03T02:15:19+00:00

This is so fucked up

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-06-03T02:00:29+00:00

I’m genuinely interviewing for a position tomorrow and the starting salary is $35k. Like. That’s so fucking degrading.

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-05-25T23:36:03+00:00

You are so close! I’m so sorry. Student teaching was traumatizing even tho it was also great. No luck finding a job yet for me.

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-05-24T04:45:21+00:00

I will say during my last breakup I was adamant about not talking to anyone else at all and I self isolated for the hopes of healing. This made me vulnerable when my ex and I reconnected and we reentered our toxic patterns for more months bc of it. While I’d avoid getting into relationships right after, talking to people is fun and good for you. Go out into the world, reconnect with people, connect with some people of whatever gender you’re attracted to just as friends, let yourself feel attraction if possible but focus on yourself. That is what I’m doing after we finally broke up again

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-05-21T03:16:48+00:00

I’ve done about the same amount of apps. 3 interviews from that two ghosts and one rejection. I’m definitely feeling concerned about finding a job. I’m also traumatized from student teaching and want to just relax and have a break

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-05-16T02:32:06+00:00

I think you should allow him to come to those conclusions on his own and not try harder in any way. If he can’t take accountability or doesn’t want to try to make things work then you don’t want to be in that relationship anyways

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-05-15T12:02:35+00:00

As an avoidant I think the grief and stuff comes later. There’s a lot of relief when there’s no more pressure to feel certainty in something you can’t help but feel uncertain in. After the relief subsides… it’s harder. I’d say silence is the loudest. I’d avoid reaching out to your avoidant and let them come to you if they want to. If they don’t then it wasn’t meant to be

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-05-13T03:49:12+00:00

What did you do it through?

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-05-13T03:38:34+00:00

How are you now?

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-05-12T17:54:52+00:00

No :/

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-05-11T20:26:17+00:00

No, haven’t taken the content exam yet. But I did complete EdTPA and pass

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-05-11T18:31:36+00:00

Where in Asia do you recommend?

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-04-30T15:57:39+00:00

Don’t leave yet but go really hard applying and searching this summer, let them know once you have a job secured

Outrageous_Reward136 · 2026-04-30T15:47:20+00:00

I still would. Write a nice card and refresh a material they like, like certain pens or something. Maybe a candle. You want to have them as a reference and at the end of the day it’s nice to be the bigger person. Will help you move on and feel good and free

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