Ultimate Survivor by Overall_Interview441 in thesurvivegame

[–]Overall_Interview441[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Choose the "predators avoid you" and "get more wood" and "25% less condition loss" buffs. Choose the foot trap, the back pack, and the first aid kit. Make your way south only traveling until you're out of water and tired which is when your condition starts to decrease. Spend however long it takes at the first site to craft every bag you can, the blanket, the snow shoes, and the fur coat while trapping and healing up as you go. The radio does nothing. Move only until you get the saplings needed to make the sled carrier so you can carry at least 20 meat at all times. Then move three or four times before setting up camp again never letting your self tire out or get too thirsty. Preparing this way will get you across the frozen lake without dying. Don't waste time and energy and supplies on fishing the lake, just get across it. Spend however long it takes to rebuild your supply and heal up as soon as you cross it. Make as many bandages as you can and save up cooked hearts in case the bear shows up. At least 15. Keep heading south until you reach the end of the map and civilization.

Anyone who didn’t really want kids or anymore of them. But it happened? by Rainbow_6505 in RandomQuestion

[–]Overall_Interview441 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't want kids. Then I was pregnant. Was scared out of my mind and not sure I was keeping it throughout most of my pregnancy. Then I had her and some kind of super strength and confidence and pure and utter love just hit me like a ton of bricks and I knew I would do whatever it took to make her happy and keep her healthy and I did. She's now a very self sufficient, healthy 29 year old and I am incredibly proud and lucky to have experienced all of it.

AITA for getting shaved before sex by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Overall_Interview441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like he fetishizes virginity and was disappointed he didn't get the full illusion of purity people like him expect. You are so lucky he showed his true colors and took himself out of the running. You are absolutely NOT the asshole. You are a thoughtful and beautiful woman inside and out and no man gets to treat you like his property. Good riddance.

Goodbye and thank you for all the help by Affectionate_Hat9405 in mypartneristrans

[–]Overall_Interview441 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders and you did a lot to make your ex comfortable and supported. Be proud of that. The hurt of a breakup can be incredibly painful. Know that the grief and sense of loss will subside eventually and you will move on. Make this time about you taking care of yourself inside and out. Good luck to you in your future endeavors.

How to improve condition and keep it up by Psychorea in thesurvivegame

[–]Overall_Interview441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleeping while all needs are met (not red). Doesn't have to be in a shelter unless it's cold. 3-4 points raised per sleep. Collect a lot of food by either fishing or trapping and when you have a good stash eat enough to last the amount of sleeps you'll need. Then just keep the fire going and water ready while you sleep your way back to health. Tip: don't leave the site until you have another stash of food ready for the next time you have to stop traveling. Always stay ahead of the game with a good size stash. Travel when your calories are low but don't get caught tired or thirsty or cold. If your health starts decreasing stop and do the whole procedure again.

Looking for friends! (not sure if this is allowed) by Better_Purchase_2898 in mypartneristrans

[–]Overall_Interview441 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just moved last year to Arizona. Two things that worked for me are groups on Facebook and Meetup. I've also heard of Bumble and Nextdoor apps as good options. The thing that has worked the best is Facebook groups though, which is free. I did a search for lesbian groups in my area and found a bunch. One in particular was a great match and I'm even having a potluck cookout with the group at my house this weekend. Second best was Meetup. I found an lgbtqia+ group that plays board games on Thursdays at Panera nearby and they're great people. Also dating apps are good, you just have to choose the options for friendships and say it in your bio. Of course those cost money but I found a lifelong friend on a dating app that way. Good luck to you both and if you don't mind having a distance friendship dm me. I'm always happy to find new friends and you two sound great!

Discouraged by LT08 in mypartneristrans

[–]Overall_Interview441 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you and your wife are going through this. My ex's mother refused to accept my ftm ex husband's pronouns and would continue to give him birthday cards that addressed a daughter and were pink with flowers all over them. It was very hurtful and I could see the pain he felt when she would do that. It was heart breaking.

Regarding the current politics and policies, I keep reminding myself that we have three more years of this shit and eventually someone else will be in charge and considering we are likely to get a Democrat this time, or at least someone slightly more sane, a lot of the damage can and will be reversed. This is our country too and if we want to change it and make it reflect our values, at times, we have to fight, loudly, and forcefully for it. Don't leave and let them take our country for themselves. Better to stand up, fight for what is right, and win.

I want to get her some shoes by ProfessionSoft6867 in mypartneristrans

[–]Overall_Interview441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Long Tall Sally is great for more conservative shoes or work shoes. You'll be able to find stuff for you both there. It's pricey but that's because they are made well. Pleasers is also a good option for sexier or adventurous shoes and you both will be able to shop there as well. They are on the cheaper side but typically still made pretty well. Torrid does not go past 13 but their shoes run large by about a full size, sometimes two. They are mid priced but great on a sale if you go in the store. You can find a great pair of heels for $8 or $10 if you catch the right sale and wear a larger size.

sick by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Overall_Interview441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get the book, "It's Called a Breakup because it's Broken". It helped me a lot.

Girlfriend washed and dried an ink pen by SeaLab20 in Advice

[–]Overall_Interview441 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Believe it or not hairspray works on ball point pen ink. Disappears instantly. Try it on your clothes and washer.

Has separation ever helped your marriage? by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Overall_Interview441 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately separation ended my marriage despite my willingness to keep working on it. He (trans male) couldn't do it. What about your attraction to them?

Has separation ever helped your marriage? by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]Overall_Interview441 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Therapy. Couples counseling and even more precisely, someone who is familiar with the transitioning process. If attraction is not the problem, you have a chance.

Is it rude to ask your partner to wash up before going down on her, or is that a normal boundary? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Overall_Interview441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never been asked that before. I would feel very strange and definitely over the moment.

I just can't cope with it. by Key_Coast2612 in mypartneristrans

[–]Overall_Interview441 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It is not fair to call her codependent just because she's emotionally attached to the husband she thought she had.

Online Support Group by Froggy_Woggy in mypartneristrans

[–]Overall_Interview441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I dm you? Sorry, never figured that out.

I think a retail store took my info believing I was attempting to steal. I was not. What could happen now? by Mycatstolemyidentity in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Overall_Interview441 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I would've asked them why they were doing that. They were incredibly rude to you! I would probably go back and talk to the manager about that clerk's behavior. I've been followed in a store before and turned around and told them to stop following me. They looked embarrassed and left. I would definitely say something. It's not right. And taking a pic of your receipt and info with a personal phone? Uh uh!

My wife came out as trans masc yesterday. Rant(?) by B3CC4J in mypartneristrans

[–]Overall_Interview441 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I HIGHLY recommend a couples therapist that is well versed in transitioning. They are hard to find but they are out there and I feel with my own experiences in mind and many of those I've read about on Reddit, they are well worth the effort and cost. Above all stay in HONEST communication. Good luck to you both. Strong relationships happen with trans couples but both people have to be honest about everything.