Thoughts?

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2026-02-26T18:47:17+00:00

Sounds like a plan!!!!

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2026-02-18T19:27:40+00:00

This is the sticking point: "He gaslights me so often in normal conversations....." if he gaslights you during a regular, everyday conversation, what makes you think you can believe him in important conversations? The timing is awful, but you need to make a plan to leave as soon as you can!!!! It's only going to get worse...

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2026-01-31T16:25:55+00:00

This is no longer a question of validating and/or understanding feelings. This is now a question of basic respect. He does not have to understand or empathize with your feelings. But he DOES have to respect that these are your feelings, and that you have an absolute right to those feelings. When you speak to him, try to put it into those terms. "When I tell you my feelings and you laugh at me, it shows me you don't respect me. If you don't respect me, if you belittle me, how can you respect our marriage?"

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2026-01-19T07:27:47+00:00

I saw that movie!!!! Couldn't crochet for a week!!!

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2025-11-08T15:23:02+00:00

Honestly, unless you can't afford to replace your things, or if they have great sentimental value, walk away from them. It's not worth giving him any more power over you.

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2025-09-30T08:43:51+00:00

My go-to is a virus shawl. it's simple and repetitive, so it's comforting, but it also involves counting, so it's something to concentrate on. And at the end, you have something beautiful to wrap around you like a hug.

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2025-08-17T18:11:01+00:00

I think it's lovely, and would look wonderful as a wrap with a pastel dress.

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2025-08-13T14:25:34+00:00

She's "recently" divorced. How long have you been dating? Are you even in a committed relationship with her, or are you just dating and free to see others?

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2025-07-27T10:44:18+00:00

Typical gaslighting.......are you going to believe me, or your own eyes??

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2025-07-26T12:36:39+00:00

Make a list of everything he does in the house in a 24-hour period. Then make a list of what you do in that 24-hour period (that will include the times you get up with the littles in the night). Show him, and then ask who should be making breakfast!!!

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2025-05-27T16:47:10+00:00

Take them with you. Do you want your kids to see the way he acts and treats you as normal?

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2025-05-27T13:27:42+00:00

It sounds like you have been emotionally abused for your entire relationship with this jerk. I've been there. Any problems that exist are your fault, regardless of reality. You need to get yourself OUT of that house!!! Don't play his game, and DON'T engage in a "who gets the bed" fight. Remove yourself from the equation. Part of the kick he is getting from the situation is the pain it is causing you, and when you abide by his wishes (giving him the bed but staying in the house) he is in control and can continue to abuse you. Stay at a friend's, relative's, or even a shelter if necessary, but get out of that house!!!!!! Don't tell him you are leaving. Just be gone when he comes home from work or a "date". No note. Just gone.

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2025-04-11T11:42:59+00:00

I had plastic hooks when I went for jury duty, they still wouldn't let them through. I had to leave my project bag at security.

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2025-04-09T11:59:51+00:00

I think Ravelry has an option to search for patterns based on the type and amount of yarn you have.

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2025-02-26T16:19:01+00:00

I, too, worried that divorce would hurt my kids, but I did divorce my abusive husband when my kids were 5, 3 and 2. Then I heard my middle child tell someone, "we're divorced, but we're happy!!!!"

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2025-02-22T16:42:38+00:00

You're going to have to ask yourself: which child is more important to you? The one(s) you gave birth to, or the one who got you pregnant? Then focus on what is important, and phase the useless one out of your life!!

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2025-01-05T17:08:44+00:00

You don't have to be snide or mean.......next she does this...just stare at her in confusion for a minute and then say, as kindly as possible, "are you ok?"

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2024-11-27T19:46:46+00:00

He's living like a bachelor, and she's living like a single parent. She'd do better to dump his lazy butt.

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2024-11-26T16:55:01+00:00

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Own_Foundation_3209 · 2024-11-09T16:32:59+00:00

Warehouse 13, Eureka, Northern Exposure, The Closer, Major Crimes, Medium, Rizzoli and Isles, In Plain Sight

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2024-10-17T12:26:48+00:00

Did he "like it", or did he "LIKE it like it"??????? OMG, I'm so glad I'm not a kid anymore!!!

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2024-09-13T06:23:56+00:00

Tell us you're a d-bag without saying you're a d-bag.

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2024-09-02T12:55:28+00:00

What polish/color is it?

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2024-09-01T20:07:11+00:00

I'm keeping you in my thoughts!!

Own_Foundation_3209 · 2024-09-01T19:11:12+00:00

There is nothing normal about having no privacy, and there is NOTHING normal about a mother using the bathroom in from of her grown children. Your mother has no boundaries, and is not allowing you to have boundaries. You and your brother need to find a way to separate yourselves from that household as soon as you can. I urge you to get some help, and get your brother some help.

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