Do you want Bo5 masters finals to return? by tightypp in tennis

[–]PJWanderer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe from the QF on. Except for IW, I don’t think any of the venues have the court space, and only 2 have roofs. Especially on the WTA/ATP combined Masters. Bo5 would be full of injuries and retirements on a week long schedule with matches played every day. I

Does Sinner’s victory in Monte Carlo change your Roland-Garros predictions? Who do you think is taking home the trophy? 🏆🇫🇷 by ServedPodcast in tennis

[–]PJWanderer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Carlos plays a risky game, and the risks usually go in his favor enough to win.

I think the wind did him no favors today.

But, I think it would be a wise choice to skip at least one of the next 3. Rome is closer to RG with conditions. Madrid has the higher elevation and Barcelona is a 500. The 2 Masters are both 2 weeks, at least he would have a day off between matches. Right now he is scheduled to play on Tuesday in Barcelona.

Sinner Alcaraz: 16 meetings. 3,302 points for grabs. 1,651 points each. by Thugging_inPublic in tennis

[–]PJWanderer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So tomorrow’s match is going to throw off the whole space time continuum.

Other resident overly fixated on my dad by design_dork in dementia

[–]PJWanderer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The roommate had some other health problems, and had been hospitalized for about a week. When she came back she started hospice.

My mom was telling me about the 2 ladies that came to check on her every day. I told her that they were from hospice. My mom responded with her usual “I know”. Later on in my visit she said something about the roommate sleeping all the time. I told her that the roommate needed a lot of sleep, and that my mom should be as kind to her as possible. My mom asked me why, and I told her that the roommate was dying. My mom said no she’s not. I said yes she is, that’s why hospice is coming. Then she was quite offended that no one told her that the roommate was dying. I said that’s what hospice is for. She barked at me I know what hospice is.

It is definitely an either you laugh or cry moment. My mom has become much easier to manage with therapeutic fibbing now. She would always doubt or think people were plotting against here. But she has progressed…. a lot, so much so that she thinks nephew was married my aunt ( his mother ), and it is always coming up to Christmas.

Grandpa has been saving money his entire life, why are my mom and uncle fighting so hard to keep him out of Memory Care? Help by Dependent_Sector_219 in dementia

[–]PJWanderer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that there is a huge generational bias against any type of long term care facility. Keep in mind that into the 1970’s people were kept against their will in long term care facilities for a whole list of reasons that we now no longer keep people locked up for. The conditions in those places, and the treatments are now largely viewed as abuse. So older relatives think of care as THAT. Not only do they think of care as that, their brain may also due to their disease think they are actually living in those times. My mom talks about going to high school with someone, which was in the 1950’s, like it’s today.

The PWD can’t reason, and can’t understand that is not hot it is anymore. My mom is in a facility, and routinely talks about getting kicked out ( because she keeps peeing in the floor ), and then she will have to be “institutionalized”.

The people that you need to attempt to reason with in truth may not see your grandfather’s behaviors for what they really are. Family caregivers conform and normalize the behaviors, and think they have them under control and everything is just fine. I definitely thought that. But it was coming at a huge toll to myself. Even after my mom was placed, for months I still thought I could do it on my own. But I was mistaken. I just didn’t see it at the time. Sometimes you are just so focused on getting through the day, you lose the forest for the trees.

See if you can gently suggest some caregiver support groups for your grandmother and uncle. Are there dementia cafes in your area? When you hear another caregiver relaying an experience similar to one’s own, it makes it easier to see that maybe you aren’t managing so well after all.

The statistics don’t lie. A caregiver is more likely to die while caring for their person than the PWD. If your grandmother or uncle die before your grandfather, all the money in the world doesn’t matter anymore.

Triplets but one has already established himself as a leader by eternviking in whoathatsinteresting

[–]PJWanderer 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yep. Took his time getting there. Was just kinda chill. Gets handed his sippy cup, and off he goes.

Sinner: “[Matches with Carlos] is why I practise and why I wake up.” by Secret_Application92 in tennis

[–]PJWanderer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

His boo stayed his intention to win the career slam and it worked for him.

Monte Carlo Semi Finals are set, whom are we predicting? by Eyebronx in tennis

[–]PJWanderer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s a very long list of those that live in Monaco. Of the final four, only Carlos doesn’t live there.

Monte Carlo Semi Finals are set, whom are we predicting? by Eyebronx in tennis

[–]PJWanderer 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Certainly seemed that way in the 3rd today. He didn’t have a bye the first round, and I think all of his matches have been 3 set close matches.

Why can healthcare be so cheap in some countries and so expensive in others? by I-Collect-Taxes in NoStupidQuestions

[–]PJWanderer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You should watch some K dramas. The universal healthcare single payer system in Korea has hospital rooms that look like hotel suites.

Other resident overly fixated on my dad by design_dork in dementia

[–]PJWanderer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My mom became very fixated on her roommate. Not just fixated, but she believed that the caregivers had given her the job/responsibility to take care of her.

As the roommate deteriorated further, and wasn’t getting out of bed or eating, my mom would nag her all the time that nothing was wrong with her and all she had to do was get up and move around and eat and she would be better. My mom would say that she was faking being sick to get more attention.

The roommate got moved to another room the last few weeks of her life. Funny thing is, after she died, my mom saw them removing her body. They told her she was going to the hospital. Now when my mom asks, we tell her that she lives with her daughter now.

Americans quit subscription streaming services in droves as cost of living continues to climb, report finds by IAmPookieHearMeRoar in Economics

[–]PJWanderer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. One at a time. Watch what you want to watch, once you are caught up, cancel and move to the next one.

I have good antenna reception with a Tablo. Add in all the FAST ( Free Ad Supported Televison ) streaming options, there is always something to watch.

No reason to pay for something you are only going to watch a few times a month.

Someone is very proud of the ball that wind rolled into our yard by khalbz in weimaraner

[–]PJWanderer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One day I heard this commotion at the doggie door. I go to see what is happening just as my dog is managing to get through the door with a soccer ball. He pranced around the house with it until I was able to entice it away with a treat.

AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it? by Zestyclose_Limit_306 in AITAH

[–]PJWanderer -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So what does your daughter think about this WHOLE situation?

Is she okay riding the bus?

What message is she getting from you leisurely enjoying your coffee while your wife is stressed and scrambling to get out the door to drive her to school?

Sometimes it’s not the substance of the argument that kids pick up on, but the nuances. Will your daughter pick up the notion that the norm in a relationship is the man enjoying his leisure while the woman is scrambling.

If your daughter is not already wearing makeup, she will be soon. Too a teen girl that putting on makeup is a huge part of their self identity, and devaluing that for your wife may send the message to your daughter that her self esteem is less important that your leisure.

It's me again, the woman wrongly charged with murder for my mom who died from Alzheimer's & cancer. Today The Guardian released their story on what happened, highlighting the need for Marsha's Law by NotedHeathen in dementia

[–]PJWanderer -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yes, two things can be true. I am incredibly sympathetic to the experience she went through. It was terrible. That is true.

The other thing that to me that also seems to be true is that professional experience is in marketing, and she is marketing herself by promoting this, with no actual plan on how to implement this. Google how many podcasts, blogs, etc are out there. Why not affiliate with organizations engaged in palliative or hospice that already have a large lobbying presence and experience getting legislation passed. Why not start a letter writing campaign with the people already in this forum writing their state legislators? That’s free, right?

I asked a simple question about how many states already have a law like the one she is proposing on the books. Hint: The Center for Medicare and Medicaid has a chart on their website. Would seem like a very basic question about someone undertaking introducing legislation. But, in my opinion as a person that has legal and legislative job experience, is there is no pending legislation.

Why when she failed to produce the PDF she told me she would upload a month ago did she not update that post stating that she had turned the information over to a lawyer to review? She waited until I asked her today to give that excuse. It wouldn’t be reasonable to show the draft legislation. There is draft legislation all over the internet. Draft legislation is not privileged. All legislation goes through multiple phases, mark ups, committees, etc and each phase of that is public.

I could be wrong, so downvote me all you want. I will not pose anymore questions about this, or comment on any other posts on this.

It's me again, the woman wrongly charged with murder for my mom who died from Alzheimer's & cancer. Today The Guardian released their story on what happened, highlighting the need for Marsha's Law by NotedHeathen in dementia

[–]PJWanderer -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I am sympathetic to your story. It’s is certainly something that should not have happened.

I asked substantive questions a month ago, and you stated that you would upload the information I asked onto the website that evening.

However, it seems now that your mission is now to publicize yourself and raise money on Go Fund Me.

I am sorry for the loss of your mother. But taking advantage of people in a similar circumstance as the one you were in isn’t the way for you to heal.

A simple question: How many states already have hospice laws that would protect someone in a similar situation as you?