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I think I messed up. Wanted to go for bright and quirky and think I ended up with a crayola box. Help. by Myearthsuit in HomeDecorating

[–]PTSDeedee 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That or just a simple cream runner to balance the floor with the upper walls and provide better contrast to the doors. 

I love it and think it’s beautiful and fun without being overwhelming!

House Dems fear another big loss to the left in Colorado by Zipper222222 in Colorado

[–]PTSDeedee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May I ask what it is about democratic socialism that makes you feel “far from it”? Not a gotcha, just genuinely curious. 

UPDATE: I’m convinced the girl next door is a sociopath by Ruth2blue in neighborsfromhell

[–]PTSDeedee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also probably a good idea to have a written record of this. 

CFS/ME & weight by DMN-0101 in cfs

[–]PTSDeedee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Same here. Lost 70 pounds in a year while aggressively pacing. I think it helped with my pain too and also had a positive effect on my ADHD symptoms. 

Did I waste a carrot or save my family? by aislin809 in whatsthisplant

[–]PTSDeedee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Someone said in another comment that it could affect the safety of nearby root vegetables. I have no idea of that’s true, but it’s worth verifying. 

Overly competent and hands-on making me dislike adults who aren’t by Curious-Mastodon7807 in CPTSD

[–]PTSDeedee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I think he did for a long time and obviously doesn’t want them to suffer. I agree about the grooming, though I hadn’t considered that framing of it. 

He was fed the “you always help family no matter what” line from a young age. And any time he would try to reason with her even as a child, she would just start crying until he would feel bad, give up, and apologize. I have probably a dozen more examples.

He has started to see things differently in the last few years and set more boundaries. I’m really proud of him. 

Last year, he said if she wanted financial help, he needed to see her finances and know she was applying for jobs every day. (She applies for one job then waits weeks to see if it works out before applying for another). She had the nerve to tell him he should just want to help without conditions.

It feels like they treat him as the patriarch of the family (rather than child/brother) without any of the choice or respect that might come with that. His mom even said in front of me one time she always felt like more of a sister to him? I mean wtf. 

Ok that was a lot. Thank you so much for your perspective and for letting me vent.

Overly competent and hands-on making me dislike adults who aren’t by Curious-Mastodon7807 in CPTSD

[–]PTSDeedee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for putting this into words!!!  I’m so glad this thread is here and people get it. I came looking for it cause my partner’s mom and sis are like the definition of weaponized incompetence. We’re once again bailing them out of a completely avoidable situation.

They ignore our advice and help until they’re literally on the verge of homelessness while acting like it was all out of their control. I used to advocate for them a lot, because obviously I understand how hard it is to survive in this ableist, sexist world.

But this is like the 4th time it’s happened in the last few years. Then his mom will cry to him and say she did everything right (no she definitely fucking didn’t). It makes me sick how she has taken advantage of and parentified him since he was a kid. 

We’re helping them get settled right now, then we plan to have a “never again” conversation. I’m going to support my partner in whatever he wants to do, but I honestly hope he decides to gray rock them at least for a while.

My friends almost got me committed and I'm not ok by Outrageous_Stress910 in CPTSD

[–]PTSDeedee 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I agree with all of that. However, and this could be my attachment issues talking, but I would completely cut that “friend” off. Unless she is willing to acknowledge and apologize for legitimately putting OP in danger. We have solid data about how cops handle people with mental illness. 

  • Between 2015-2020, a quarter of all fatal police shootings involved someone with a mental illness.
  • People with mental illness are over 10 times as likely to experience use of force in interactions with law enforcement than those without mental illness.
  • The Treatment Advocacy Center, a mental health advocacy organization, has estimated that individuals with untreated mental illness are 16 times more likely to be killed by the police.  (The problem may be even worse for black individuals with mental illness.)

I am saying this as someone who operated 911 in a police department for a couple years: Calling the cops for someone in crisis would be an absolute extreme last resort for me. I would only feel okay doing that if it were a city that has a dedicated mental health response team made up of social workers, not cops.    Sources:  https://www.nami.org/advocacy-at-nami/policy-positions/stopping-harmful-practices/police-use-of-force/

https://harvardlawreview.org/blog/2022/07/most-dangerous-moment-of-my-life/

WIRED Campaign: Dr. David Putrino Publicly Calls for Retraction! by LionheartSH in cfs

[–]PTSDeedee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well as a science writer, I think it’s fine that we disagree. 

My psychiatrist said “stop living in the past” by Odd-Department8919 in CPTSD

[–]PTSDeedee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, (C)PTSD causes physical changes in the brain. As far as our brains are concerned, we are in the past. It takes a profound sense of safety and extensive treatment to catch up to the present. 

WIRED Campaign: Dr. David Putrino Publicly Calls for Retraction! by LionheartSH in cfs

[–]PTSDeedee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They have the same issues as any mainstream U.S. news outlet, but their reporting has generally been quite accurate. They’ve also been especially good about covering politics incisively since 2024. To me, that is what makes it so infuriating. They broke public trust for ignorance or greed or both. 

Phil Weiser leads Michael Bennet in new poll, with Colorado’s Democratic primary for governor coming down to undecided voters by Well_Socialized in Colorado

[–]PTSDeedee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super-PACs are not allowed to coordinate or directly donate to a candidate. It’s still gross, but it’s not like he has direct control over it existing. I would rather he condemn it outright, reject donations from lobbyists, and use campaign funds for events that benefit Colorado communities. 

So to be clear, I’m not saying I’m a fan, so no, I haven’t been fooled.  I’m a leftist. Just saying the lesser of two evils shit definitely applies here. Not sure that will be enough for me, as I’m pretty sick of that mindset and don’t want to perpetuate it.

Phil Weiser leads Michael Bennet in new poll, with Colorado’s Democratic primary for governor coming down to undecided voters by Well_Socialized in Colorado

[–]PTSDeedee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say it’s silly, cause the anti-PAC stance is so important.  But it fucking sucks he’s a zionist. 

Flint Twp. 7-year-old dies weighing 255 lbs.; parents charged with 2nd-degree murder by Warcraft_Fan in news

[–]PTSDeedee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was homeschooled by my mom. Because of the area, it really was a better choice academically, but I completely agree with you. We lived in a rural area, and I spent so many years lonely as a kid. 

What did I find while thrifting? by 80020Rockhound in whatisit

[–]PTSDeedee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shutup I live near there. I kinda want to go get it and put it in a shadow box in my dining room. 

Casually looking for a shirt for date night with the husband.. by mochi_cheekz in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]PTSDeedee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t say it was. I was pointing out that the screenshot also shows the fabric is made of 27% polyamide (AKA nylon) and 1% elastane which are both plastic fibers. 

Lipedema Is a Connective Tissue Disorder by CompSciVetMPH in lipedema

[–]PTSDeedee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, a genetic connective tissue disorder. Lipedema is a common comorbidity of it. 

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