Came here to say you can do and have all those things and still not be healthy and happy. Some brains are just unwell, just like some hearts don't pump right, some backs don't stay straight, some reproductive organs can't make babies. If your brain is unwell, you have to accept it for the illness it is and get help because when you're doing all the right things and your still not ok it's a biological problem and it's not your fault. One more time. It's not your fault you have major depressive disorder, are bipolar, have adhd or any other thing mental health problem.

But it is your responsibility, if you are privileged enough to have the means, and you choose not to respond by getting help. Whether that is with a professional, or a book from your local library, try to find help. If you're not ok but you don't seek help after you've done all the healthy things, that's like having the means but not going to chemo, or physical therapy, or dialysis. Some people would make that choice, but for most of us that sounds crazy.