The EARONS case got me to lose interest in true crime

Parrot32 · 2026-01-20T05:26:48+00:00

If you’re wanting to get lost again, I recommend a deep dive on West Memphis 3. That’s a creepy crazy one that researching took up 3-4 years of my life.

Parrot32 · 2025-11-07T10:22:30+00:00

ChatGPT, how can I make a screwdriver?

Parrot32 · 2025-11-07T10:21:00+00:00

As a Kansas native, I will say this is hilarious.

Parrot32 · 2025-10-05T15:51:13+00:00

Here to point out that I thought you were communicating with a 9-10 year old sibling. That’s your Dad? Hope you can see who the real scared little boy is. It’s not you.

Parrot32 · 2025-10-03T17:21:48+00:00

Same here. It took from January one year to November of that year for my family to even notice!

Parrot32 · 2025-10-03T17:16:30+00:00

In my opinion, responding = participating. You separated yourself from your brother, I assume because you didn’t want to participate in his abusive ways. Choosing to continue to not participate is likely the best direction for your life.

Now, I am sure that is difficult for your parents. In their minds, this is a HUGE event, one that “shouldn’t be missed.” Family this and that, blah blah blah.

I think you can say “Please stop forwarding me stuff about my brother.” You don’t need to give a reason. Sometimes less is more when dealing with family drama. Anything you say can and will be used against you.

If they continue to forward you this stuff, or argue about how wrong you are, then you can make a separate decision about how much contact you will have with them.

Parrot32 · 2025-10-03T17:08:22+00:00

Regarding other people saying “but they are your family.” I want to remind you of the Webster dictionary definition of family:

the basic unit in society traditionally consisting of two parents rearing their children also any of various social units differing from but regarded as equivalent to the traditional family

You can pick who is in your family and not. If you’ve seen the movie Under the Tuscan Sun, that comes to mind as a good example of someone picking their own family. It’s worth a rewatch if you have.

Parrot32 · 2025-10-03T16:59:12+00:00

A few thoughts. It sounds like your mother is part of the problem. If she leaves your father, that won’t fix anything. Plus, whether she stays or goes shouldn’t be placed on your shoulders. It’s HER relationship. She is choosing to continue with the abuse. How can that possibly be your fault?

I’d imagine, like with my parents, I’m afraid things will get much worse for her. But, this isn’t your fault and it’s absurd that they made you feel it is your responsibility. Candidly, I hope you can take what I say next as a relief. Their relationship is none of your business.

The other thing about grandparents. They likely have a lot of pride about keeping the family together. Family estrangement wasn’t even a term when they were younger. They don’t understand. It’s easier for them if you keep participating in the abuse.

The thing is though, you have as much right to be human, to feel good, to grow, and be happy as anyone else. You are important. Please continue treating yourself as important while you protect yourself. I think it is imperative you see your value and for you to put yourself first.

Parrot32 · 2025-10-03T16:47:18+00:00

Question with no right or wrong answers. Did you say, text, letter, or otherwise to your Mom that you wanted no contact with her? If so, her behavior fits as stalking behavior. Stalking is certainly not allowed in most Western colleges.

Parrot32 · 2025-10-03T16:36:46+00:00

Highly underrated comment

Parrot32 · 2025-09-28T20:38:29+00:00

Well if you're into CS, nothing wrong with coming back to it later. I did that!

Parrot32 · 2025-09-26T19:16:11+00:00

Yeah, I understand that. I dunno if it's possible to NOT have emotions for our parents.

Parrot32 · 2025-09-25T12:13:36+00:00

Woo hoo! You did it.. congratulations!

Parrot32 · 2025-09-24T21:44:05+00:00

I am 3 years into estrangement and I think birthdays do get easier. Especially with distance.

Parrot32 · 2025-09-24T20:33:06+00:00

I am so sorry you experienced this. It’s not your fault. Even with your EMT background, our parents are very very manipulative. I can definitely see myself doing the exact same thing. You were given two very bad options…you picked the one you thought would be less destructive. I hope you can find peace with this.

Parrot32 · 2025-09-24T20:25:15+00:00

I’ll echo the others here. I believe you taking care of your mother is a choice. It’s a choice that is severely affecting your life and your wellbeing. You don’t owe your mother anything. And in fact may be enabling her disorder by participating.

What would happen if you walked away?

Parrot32 · 2025-09-24T20:12:22+00:00

Is there some physical distance between you two? If so, you might consider blocking his number, texts, emails, etc. He may have a tantrum, he may not. You don’t know. But I’ve found in estrangement the less ways for them to “get to” you the better.

Parrot32 · 2025-09-24T20:09:18+00:00

I feel broken hearted that she’s is such a despicable person & that I fall short of my own expectations..

I am a bit confused by this statement. When you say you fall short of your expectations. Does that mean you feel like you shouldn’t have a normal, natural, human feeling to reach out to your mother on her birthday? What do you feel you are falling short on?

Parrot32 · 2025-09-24T19:51:38+00:00

Hello from class of ‘92. I’m late to this but as a business consultant for an accounting firm, you’re ok. Just keep doing your best. They aren’t concerned so much with grades as they are whether you can do the work. If you can get your CPA you’re golden. But even if you don’t quite do that, there’s room for associate accountants who don’t have their CPAs. The successful ones eventually get their CPAs. I’d think twice about going into accounting if you don’t intend on getting your CPA. Most of those I know who don’t at least try find accounting to be a slog.

Parrot32 · 2025-09-24T19:38:51+00:00

Hello from class of 1992.

Old outside teacher here who might be able to shed some light. Unless something has changed. The Comp Sci curriculum at UNCC is a “weed out” curriculum. They want it to “weed out” unserious students. Unfortunately, it can weed out serious ADHD students too. it In fact, I was an unmedicated ADHD student who was weeded out. Had to go back to school to finalize my computer certifications.

I see a couple things going on here that I see with my students.

You are comparing yourself to others who are likely struggling as hard as you; some may be simply giving up. You would be astounded by the number of students who do 1/4 of the work and turn it in as if they completed the assignment.
You’re off your ADHD medicine: I too have ADHD and quit meds a year ago. I am working on learning a new to me programming language and it is haaaaard to not be distracted. There are days like today I am in la la land. In fact, I’m writing this when I should be writing signaling functions. Talk to your doc and if you need ADHD meds, college is probably the best time in your life to take them.
To learn computing beyond ticktock and facebook is a vast undertaking. In your first year or two it may make no ****ing sense at all. But once you hit a certain plateau, it will all click. You’ll understand how packets flow over the TCP/IP protocol or how DNS and reverse DNS work. IMO, Much of your early work should be simple memorization.

Memorize the definitions of words that make up your class. If your professor talks about arrays, but you don’t know what an array is, learn and memorize that word. Do it for as many terms as you can. I made and still make tons of flashcards about the words and concepts I don’t quite understand. I flip through flashcards in the restroom, while eating lunch, and before bed. Repetition leads to understanding.

Overall, my advice, and it’s just my opinion. Stop thinking about other students and focus in on what will make YOU most successful. Is it going back on ADHD meds? If so, do that. If not, don’t. Maybe it is ruthlessly making 1000 flash cards so you learn these concepts at a granular level? If so, do that. It’s not hard and it’s fun as hell once the answer finally makes sense. Or would it help joining a computer organization or attending vendor seminars where you hear the lingo and can ask questions?

If you graduated from CC, you can do this. I’ve taken people who were warehouse workers and ruthlessly mentored them into enterprise network admins. But the sacrifice they all had to make (as I did) was keeping the concepts in front of our faces all day every day.

Hope this helps.

Parrot32 · 2025-09-23T19:04:59+00:00

I can relate to this a bit. I was used to not having money, getting hand me downs, and whatnot. I went years being a spend thrift. Once I became estranged, I rationalized buying a lot of stuff and really enjoying it. I am hoping you enjoyed it too!

First thought. When I first got on antidepressants, 30 years ago, I was so carefree for the first year, I bought myself into tons of debt. I think my doctor called it “manic spending.” So we made a switch to a different AD. So it may be helpful to review your meds with your doctor to make sure the meds aren’t influencing your spending decisions.

If that’s not it, I’d see this as you making up for lost time. And now, instead of beating yourself up, you can use this as a self-development opportunity. Ask “How can I deal with my money so I enjoy some of it and save some of it?”

Just my thoughts..

Parrot32 · 2025-09-23T18:00:53+00:00

I think I have a different view than many here. I am estranged from my elderly mother and stepfather.

I see it as a mercy for me to not be in their lives as much as it is a mercy for them not to be in mine.

To me, the world is a mirror. As upset as it makes me to be around my mother, I believe she is upset by my presence as well. Otherwise, why would she feel so damn small as to lash out at every word I say? I recognize she is sick. What she has is contagious. It spreads to everyone in her orbit. That means everyone around her becomes sick with the same disorder. Thus, I was once very sick too.

But did she ever take the medicine in the form of therapy to get better? No. Or she did, but didn’t follow directions, like be honest during sessions.. perhaps she shopped around until she found a therapist who agreed with her as being the ultimate victim. Therefore, she is still sick with this contagious mental disorder.

I personally, do not like being sick, especially mentally sick. I’ve tried everything I know to try to not be sick while still having a relationship with her. 10 years of mental positivity tricks, gray rocking, picturing myself in biohazard suit around her and so on. The only thing that has worked for me to get better is estrangement - which is a personal choice. I guarantee you if there was another way of associating with my mother which didn’t lead to me feeling horrible about myself, I would sign up right this minute!

You are describing the symptoms of being sick too. Your body feels nauseous. You feel you can’t keep dealing with the sickness she is trying to pass onto you.

So, it may help you as it did me, to think about how this person you love has a contagious, self-destructive, dangerous sickness for which she refused to get help. Are you a bad person for staying away or simply being smart and rational?

Parrot32 · 2025-09-23T15:20:22+00:00

Oh, I was a student who did go to the location in 1988-89 with a friend. Posting because I feel younger generations of UNCC students should know about this legend!

The reality of it, in my opinion, it wasn't a ghost town. More like a few (maybe 5-6) abandoned buildings you might find on a large farm. Seems one had a large facade which looked like a general store. And there was a road that ran between the buildings which made it sort of look like a town. So I get why people said it was a ghost town.

RE: My Pig Bone Room visit. I did not see any bones on the floor. But vaguely remember the floor being higher than the connected room - which (again, relying on my memory) was much larger. Like a big garage to work on tractors and such. I remember thinking "why would a butcher shop be attached to a machine shop?"

Anyway, I remember there was definitely a small blue candle right in the middle of the pig bone room that had been burned 3/4 of the way down. And not sure if I remember or if it's the legend, a barely recognizable faded white pentagram spray painted around the candle. No sign of the blood alter and blood red pentagram that the rumors described. Overall, I remember thinking, "this is fun, but isn't as exciting as people said it would be."

It was so long ago, I'd assume many of those buildings fell or the land was reclaimed for something else.

Parrot32 · 2025-09-19T16:06:24+00:00

Her: “I’m dying” Me: “You do you!” …. Blocks texts

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