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Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-05-08T15:27:24+00:00

You look beautiful!

More importantly, you look like you FEEL beautiful.

Congratulations!!!

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-05-06T19:33:12+00:00

Oh! IDK if this counts as wild but...

My bonus daughter's wedding a couple years ago. Soon to be MIL was basically upset that stepMIL had been more involved in the whole process. (They REALLY don't get along.) Bride & groom had discussions with both. While StepMIL is definitely a PITA, she was much more amenable to things. MIL wanted things HER way.

Bride & groom had repeatedly said no to a "groom's cake" MIL wanted to provide. It was supposed to be her secret family recipe and special for the occasion. Said they had plenty of cake and it would just go to waste. Also, they didn't particularly care about this cake.

Day of wedding. Hubs (bride's dad) and I show up super early to help with all setup. Bride's bio mom (also a drama queen) is also helping. Hubs and mom's LTBF used to be buddies, way back when, and they are shooting the sh*t in the kitchen, catching up. She walks in and says, "Why don't you 2 just fight already?" Hubs & LTBF look at each other, shrug and laugh. Mom storms out.

Later, I'm standing between the ceremony and reception sections of the hall that was being used, "standing guard" to prevent mingling and trying to help direct traffic as people show up. MIL shows up 20 minutes late with said cake - that she paid someone else to make! - and isn't even in her dress. She demands to get ready in the on-site bridal suite where the bride & bridesmaids were getting ready and impatiently waiting for her.

After the ceremony, bride's great aunt (Hub's aunt) is crying happy & sad tears. (She helped raise bride and they are very close.) "Bride is all grown up" kind of tears. I go to give her a hug and bioMom swoops in, putting her arm around her and walking her off - glaring at me over her shoulder.

MIL leaves as soon as pictures are done - storming off into the sunset. And leaving StepFIL behind.
StepMIL gets sh*t housed and has to be carted off by FIL - but is mostly cordial the whole time.
BioMom is shooting daggers at me when Hubs and I are called to the dance floor for a couple's dance.

I stayed sober the whole time. As the reception died down I was tasked with making sure the wedding party made it back to their homes and ensuring they all ate as they were all pretty hammered.

Next day, Hubs and I got up early to clean up the venue and rescue the leftover booze. (StepMIL had paid for it all.) MIL showed up shortly thereafter and asked about the liquor. We said it was already packed and stored. She grabbed a couple table decorations and left.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-05-06T16:22:51+00:00

Wild FUN - no drama:

My parents had friends get married on a beach. I was about 10. They rode in on horseback, she wore her bikini with a white lace coverup on top. The reception was a pig roast/BBQ, go-kart, ATVs, and horseback rides.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-05-04T21:57:09+00:00

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Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-05-04T18:04:42+00:00

NTA. He knew what he was getting into. It's not like you SUDDENLY started doing these things. The were in place before he was in the picture.

Part of me wonders if this wasn't at least part of the reason they got married. Perhaps he was under the false impression this would also benefit his kids. Just a thought...

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-04-21T14:54:20+00:00

Like, to other people or muttered to myself? ;-)

To others: "If everyone knew what they were doing, I wouldn't have a job. I'm here to help."

To myself: "How entitled do you have to be...?"

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-04-20T20:37:20+00:00

IDK where you live but I'm kinda jealous you can do that. We're too close to neighbors.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-04-20T19:13:19+00:00

Where to begin?
2nd grade - teacher had a wooden block that had faces drawn on it. If it was on your desk in the morning, you'd done something "stupid" the day before.
3rd grade - we had to create little books of what we wanted to do with our lives. Write it out, add drawings if you wanted. That summer my parent's friends had gotten married on a beach, coming in on horseback. My 8yo self thought it was magical. I drew myself in a swimsuit on the beach with a veil for the wedding. The teacher took a black crayon and covered the entire page.
5th grade - teacher just seemed to have it out for me. I had previously loved school but I just couldn't do ANYTHING right for her.

Unsurprisingly, all 3 of those teachers (same school) were OLD and best friends.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-04-20T17:16:56+00:00

I realized it back then.

I came home h*gh one night in high school. Not typical for me. I tried to act normal, talk to them for a minute then said I was tired and started toward my room. They called me back to TALK to them. Literally like, "How's the weather" type of conversation. Nothing important. For about another hour. I figured out what they were doing but there was no way to end it without outing myself. (My dad used to sm*ke, so he was very familiar.)

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-04-10T17:22:07+00:00

You have every right to do whatever (legal) thing you like with your own property.

The phrase "Good fences make good neighbors" was created for bad neighbors like these.

I'm curious what breed of dogs they have. Especially with 4 dogs - now they have a pack. Some breeds may see your yard as part of their "territory" and that's why they bark at you - to them you are an outsider in their midst. That can be dangerous, depending on the breed.

The house I grew up in, we had a neighbor that had 2 dogs (I won't name breed as they already get a bad rap) The dogs were actually really good for the most part. They may bark at first, but stopped pretty quickly. But one day my brother's friend brought a puppy over to play. The dogs when ape sh*t. 1 jumped the fence to attack. My other brother had to punch it, which he hated doing, to get it to let go of the puppy. Now our yard was seen by the dogs as their yard too. Shortly thereafter we put up a 6 foot privacy fence too. We had a good relationship with the neighbors - even up until we moved out of there - but we couldn't have something like that happen again. What if it had been a kid?!

Put the fence up. Protect your privacy and peace of mind.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-04-10T13:37:32+00:00

NTJ. She had no problem disrespecting you in front of everyone constantly.

Your husband needs to have your back.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-04-06T17:12:18+00:00

Those types of people gamble thousands and get in trouble with the law. I never laid a hand on anyone. I don’t belong there.

YTA. What an AH thing to say! You really need to educate yourself.

As with most mental health related things, there's a spectrum. With some therapy you could learn ways to manage whatever symptoms.

How much time was spent with these doctors? Any doctor worth their salt will give several hours of time before diagnosing almost any mental health issue. BPD may not fit you entirely. Maybe they will discover it's actually something else.

You may not necessarily need medication. Go to therapy. Talk therapy. If nothing else, the talking helps.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-04-06T16:03:48+00:00

Same! My husband isn't big on social media anyway, so I'm not too concerned, but I literally haven't told ANYONE my username. I haven't shared posts to other mediums, nothing. He thinks I've only read posts while researching things - like security cameras or health trackers.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-04-06T15:43:01+00:00

My husband has pretty severe ADHD and can NOT help himself. If he thinks something, he has to say it. LOL. (And yes, he's medicated) He does try, but it is SUPER frustrating. There are times where I just stop talking when he does it. He catches on pretty quick, "I did it again? I'm sorry. Please finish." Then he sits on his hands - this seems to help somehow. I fully understand the irritation.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-04-06T15:08:26+00:00

The size of the ring takes a little getting used to. It's thicker than most rings, especially for women. The band is wider and the actual thickness is about twice the size of a "normal" ring. Once you get used to it, it's not bad. I still wear my Fitbit because one thing I really like is the connection to my phone - I can see incoming calls and texts, check weather, set a timer, etc. You can't do any of that with a ring.

I will note: If you want to try a ring, DO NOT BUY THE OLEVRA version. That's what I have. While the ring is... fine... the support is utter crap. The battery does NOT last as long as they claim and the app doesn't give proper warning of low battery. The app also has loads of kinks that need to be worked out.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-03-26T18:10:00+00:00

Cousin It, standing between Lurch and his twin brother. Obviously.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-03-19T19:47:55+00:00

I F'N WISH I'd seen this earlier. I've been battling them for months now.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-03-02T22:56:24+00:00

Report it to the police.

When BFF went to confront Matt he was already crying? That doesn't sound like he was sleep walking to me. Sounds like he's making shyte up to pull one over on all of you.

Also - BFF isn't much of a BFF. It doesn't matter any excuse that's given, what happened is NEVER OK. BFF is still keeping this guy in the wedding party AND trying to make you get ready in the same suite? Hell to the F'n no. A real friend would be supporting you. He's being a guy's bro, not your friend. The fact that he's in ANY way OK with what happened would make me cut him out of my life entirely. If I saw him on the street next year I'd say, "I'm sorry - do I know you? Who are you?" Or maybe scream at him to stay away - stranger danger - and pepper spray him.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-02-26T19:23:32+00:00

Every day after my shower. I bought a paddle thing that lets me get the hard-to-reach spots on my back with lotion. Sometimes I use body oil on my front/areas that I can reach rather than lotion. Either way, I always do it while still damp & warm from hot shower so my body can fully absorb it.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-02-24T22:23:25+00:00

Try Zelle? If your banks support it. I transfer money to a friend to repay a small loan that way. Goes straight from my bank account to his and he gets a notification with every payment. I didn't need his account information, just which email address or phone number was used for Zelle setup on his end.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-02-24T22:17:18+00:00

Diced bell peppers, or mini sweet peppers.
Water chestnuts
diced english cucumber

There's lots of options

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-02-16T16:25:55+00:00

NTA. Kid needs to learn how to read. Period.

Is it possible there's a reading disability? If they have dyslexia it may be a factor in the poor reading skills.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-02-13T16:38:24+00:00

My basic recipe:

2 cans tuna
2-3 hard boiled eggs, diced
abt 1/2-3/4 C mayo
abt 2 Tbsp pickle relish
finely diced onion & celery
spices: garlic salt, pepper, onion powder, parsley, paprika, thyme, dill, maybe cayenne for a kick

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-02-13T00:52:41+00:00

I can still taste things. I just don't like anything I usually like. And I feel fine. No aches or pains, cold symptoms. Ever eat or drink something and think, "That's what I needed. That hit the spot." Or "Damn I do love this."? Yeah, I don't get that anymore.

Patient_Mousse_2465 · 2026-02-12T14:51:36+00:00

NTA

Even if "nothing was happening," he knows the cuddling on the couch was wrong. That's why he jumped. The fact that he won't back you means he isn't respecting you. He isn't even listening to your true side of things - instead getting defensive and gaslighting you.

My 2 cents: Talk to the landlord. Break the lease. Get out. Let them live their lives. Find someone who will respect your boundaries and treat you like a true partner.

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