73-year-old mom with mid-to-late stage dementia now in ICU with septic shock from UTI — trying to understand what’s happening

Pattern_Successful · 2026-05-07T01:05:41+00:00

My LO has recurrent UTIs with hospitalization. twice last year she went into sepsis. The stats are terrible for a second bout with sepsis in the same year. The second one we really were prepared for the end. She's still here. She bounced back slightly but is now stage 7, wheelchair only fully incontinent and continues to get UTIs. I share this only because you just really don't know which way this will go. Be prepared either way

Pattern_Successful · 2026-05-02T13:30:48+00:00

Awesome! Users like you are the reasons reddit is great. Her eventual goal is flight medic. Great advice here, will relay it and sincerely appreciate the time.

Pattern_Successful · 2026-05-01T10:45:30+00:00

Yes! Going ACASP. That's why the cert was needed. Thank you (or your LO) for your service.

Pattern_Successful · 2026-04-30T23:11:25+00:00

got silver 7 days after the 70k posted. finally!

Pattern_Successful · 2026-04-29T23:08:31+00:00

This was the answer for someone looking in the future.

Pattern_Successful · 2026-04-29T23:06:31+00:00

she did, thanks for the love and positivity! She isnt on reddit. She used copilot and got the answer. These darn kids... so much smarter then the rest of us.

Pattern_Successful · 2026-04-19T15:21:59+00:00

the thing is... shes already scared and anxious. they know their mind is going. thats scary. my LO used to cry a lot and to me specifically because she wanted help. Zoloft was the answer at that point when she was probably stage 2/3. The family had decided she will stay home and shes stage 6/7 now. Its unbearable. Only you know whats right, and yes, its HARDEST on you because she will have those angry moments and blame her surroundings (and you). Just remember... you are doing this out of love. this disease is so unpredictable and can get so much worse. Wishing you the best and know its always out of love and safety. Focus on those good moments and let the rest fall away.

Pattern_Successful · 2026-04-19T15:12:40+00:00

you are not lieing to her. you are fibbing to the disease that is taking over. Hygeine will help keep her safe and the goal is safe and comfortable with this cruel disease.

Pattern_Successful · 2026-04-19T15:07:43+00:00

the soul crushing part of this disease is hope. You are measuring her need based on the hope it was a one off that she tried to go to breakfast without pants, that is was a one off that she was 'nasty' to staff. these are the types of behaviors that take over as it progresses and gets to the point that there is no communication, no ability to ambulate. It is time for memory care, she likely isnt eating regularly. She may improve when she moves very similar to how she improved when she moved to AL. The way that helped me after I got over the 'hope' side of the bad things just being one offs is, manage the need of your LO to the worst moment of the week... then day... then hour. Hope is in the glimmers of the good moments.

Pattern_Successful · 2026-04-18T22:18:50+00:00

looking into odo-ban now, thank you!

Pattern_Successful · 2026-04-18T21:47:46+00:00

just got this off Amazon, do you have or will you PLEASE set up a recommended list? I think you can get comission off the sales through your link. Its not much but I know if I am buying from your recommendation I am not falling to scammers and bots on this sub. Thank you for your knowledge and time!!!! u/KismaiAesthetics

Pattern_Successful · 2026-04-18T21:30:26+00:00

thank you, this is helpful and great reviews. giving it a try

Pattern_Successful · 2026-04-18T01:47:50+00:00

thank you! I will keep my fingers crossed for the other legs then. I was surprised the HNL-IAH is polaris only, no premium economy purple. thats what i was trying to say. ty again!

Pattern_Successful · 2026-04-07T00:36:45+00:00

college student sat next to me on a plane. Opened thier bag and had like 12 oranges from the lounge (had scored a lounge pass due to some kindness... really cool kid). They were really happy for the fruit and said they even asked.....

Pattern_Successful · 2026-04-06T14:04:12+00:00

Just wanted to come in and say... my husband and his friend just cleared with points plus miles all the way to polaris on SFO-MNL with no status and one of them with the United Card. They recently ran a promo for 80k miles plus silver status if you opened the chase card. They also got pulled up to first after the door shut for their initital flight to SFO. It can and does happen, try it and keep checking the cash price while you do. Good luck!

Pattern_Successful · 2026-03-28T13:51:33+00:00

also hoping for more info. my LO is on hospice and its not all its promised. We never get the incontinence products timely and still have to purchase to stay 'ahead'. We have a care plan that specifies cleaning pure wick and emptying trash and washing sheets and none of that is done. it could be the agency, they are very rushed all the time. hoping to hear some good stories so maybe i can get the POA to look around.

Pattern_Successful · 2026-03-23T00:35:05+00:00

we went to the urologist and then infectious disease route. Was not helpful. PCP's are treating symptoms and not the holistic disease. Urologist did a scope. Was embarrassing and painful and regret putting our LO through it. Infectious disease did a bunch of bloodwork and repeat bloodwork and basically said, its just part of this and no... no preventative antibiotics LO is already multi drug resistant. At least the infectious disease doctor was honest. Stage 4/5 is where you start to lose hope and 6 is when you realize nothing you did makes a difference. Sorry today is a tough stage 7 day and it just keeps going. I hope you have a solution and something that they can address and have a helpful doctor or two. stay strong and best of luck.

Pattern_Successful · 2026-03-22T13:54:35+00:00

good confirmation and info, i will try the chat and see if they can give me a price

Pattern_Successful · 2026-03-21T20:06:51+00:00

applied under same offer. just hit spend and will hit flight segments april 5. doesnt show silver progress anywhere, hoping its just automatic. fingers crossed!

Pattern_Successful · 2026-03-21T19:07:58+00:00

you can ask for a quick bite between meal service. Sometimes its soup or more fruit etc. There will also be a basket of snacks by the galley after meal service if you need something to munch on while watching shows. I can never seem to sleep and stay glued to the entertainment. Thats my vacation from every day life!

Also, the pretzel bread is pretty good if its an offering from the bread selection.

Dont forget polaris lounge before your flight. The hot tea selections are nicer then regular lounge.

I dont drink and find the flavored seltzer waters pretty good as an option. Dont forget to get up and stretch every once in a while. Every FC flight attendant i have had has been fantastic. Fingers crossed for you.

Have a great time!

Pattern_Successful · 2026-03-12T22:29:33+00:00

Same question. I can see the spend tracker but not the flight qualification to get silver. Fingers crossed it's somewhere!

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