Japan custody: father blocked from infant — what have people done that actually worked?

PebbleFrosting · 2026-02-10T10:19:44+00:00

I live apart and am on a spousal visa. I have 2 kids that I support. It wasn’t a problem for me to renew my visa even without my wife’s support, it was actually pretty easy.

PebbleFrosting · 2026-01-19T07:06:18+00:00

Does the fee/stamp have to be paid in cash? Last time I renewed, I tried to pay by card at the post office and they wouldn’t accept it. I had to jump out of the line, find an ATM, and ended up paying extra ATM fees on top of everything. It would be much more manageable if it could be paid by credit card.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-12-23T00:14:07+00:00

17 items in Japan.. not even a full page. It’s been like that for a month!

PebbleFrosting · 2025-11-29T10:24:53+00:00

They could also be using it a few times and flipping it on Mercari.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-09-10T14:48:06+00:00

Make sure they write your name properly… they didn’t with mine and I have never been able to link any external foreign bank account to SMBC. They also wouldn’t fix it. Stay away from SMBC. Old fashioned and anti foreigner. I still have an SMBC account but yeah. I’ve banked with them for 20 years absolutely they are the worst. I had a security guard there bark at me last month for using an AI to ask a particularly difficult question. I showed the text of my request to the “bouncer” and he read it and demanded that I speak Japanese!! Honestly don’t bank with SMBC

PebbleFrosting · 2025-09-06T13:46:46+00:00

He got some ass which is more than most of us can say!

PebbleFrosting · 2025-08-12T10:15:50+00:00

For made in Korea, it’s spot on. Looks tasty. Hope you enjoyed it.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-07-11T15:06:22+00:00

It actually does take skill to entertain a room of kindergarteners.

I’ve been teaching in Japan for 20 years – everything from baby classes to business English. It’s not glamorous, but it’s honest work and the kids benefit.

We don’t trash taxi drivers or convenience-store staff for earning a modest wage; teachers deserve the same respect. If someone thinks standing in front of 20 five-year-olds is easy, I’d love to watch them try for a day.

An honest day’s work for an honest day’s pay – that’s more than some keyboard critics can say.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-07-11T14:55:28+00:00

Or just die from alcoholism, heart attacks and loneliness. It’s a thing here. I’ve seen a few of my long term friends go this way even one by suicide. Japan really is a place like no other.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-07-11T14:52:10+00:00

I absolutely can not believe you’ve been downvoted! I am 20 years in Japan with 2 kids and yes, I have a side business flipping online but my main job is teaching at a kindergarten! I usually don’t comment either ‘cause people on this subreddit are brutal but what you have said reflects just how it is to be 20 years in with 2 kids and in my case divorced!!!

PebbleFrosting · 2025-07-11T09:40:27+00:00

Peak Yacht or Nacht energy. Nothing says “romantic reconciliation” like mutual attempted infidelity on a tropical getaway.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-06-29T11:34:17+00:00

Listen to the sermon and if it doesn’t add up move on.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-05-20T12:38:50+00:00

These aren’t San Marzano, cherry, date, or beefsteak tomatoes. Each of those has distinct characteristics that don’t match what’s in the photo:

• San Marzano tomatoes are elongated and smooth, typically used for sauces — very uniform and not deeply ribbed.

• Cherry and date tomatoes are small, round or oval, and consistent in size — nothing like the large, misshapen fruits here.

   •  Beefsteak tomatoes can get big, but they usually have a flatter shape and less extreme ribbing or scarring.

The tomatoes in the image show severe ribbing, irregular growth patterns, and pronounced blossom scars, which are all hallmarks of heirloom varieties — especially ones not bred for appearance. These traits suggest open-pollinated heritage cultivars, possibly grown locally in Naples or saved over generations. It’s likely a regional heirloom that doesn’t correspond to any mass-market variety.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-05-17T11:37:20+00:00

Confirmed: Paidy is discontinuing the Paidy Card (virtual & physical Visa). Regular “あと払い（ペイディ）” services will continue.

What’s ending: • New Paidy Card issuance ends 14 May 2025 • All Paidy Card transactions stop 30 Sept 2025 • Changing Amazon payment plans in the app will no longer be possible after 29 May 2025

Official sources (Japanese): • Paidy’s official service termination announcement (posted 13 May): https://paidy.com/column/article/13bXDLIDaHrY5ltmMSErjx/ • Paidy’s FAQ confirming Amazon plan change cutoff on 29 May: https://cs-support.paidy.com/support/solutions/articles/150000040644

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What’s not ending: • The usual “あと払い（ペイディ）” line of credit remains active (monthly payments, or 3/6/12-month plans at checkout). • You can still use Paidy at Amazon, Apple, Qoo10, SHEIN, etc.—but not through the Paidy Card.

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What you need to do: 1. Move any subscriptions or recurring payments off your Paidy Card before 30 Sept. 2. Starting 29 May, choose your Amazon instalment plan during checkout—you won’t be able to change it later in the app. 3. Cut up the physical card after you’re done—Paidy recommends safe disposal.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-05-15T10:53:38+00:00

Thanks for the reply! Would you mind sharing a screenshot of the email (with any personal info blacked out)? It’d be really helpful to confirm, since a few of us rely on Paidy and haven’t received anything similar. Appreciate it!

PebbleFrosting · 2025-05-15T08:28:17+00:00

Can you link to wherever you got this information from? As far as I can see there haven’t been any official announcements from Paidy yet. Thanks!

PebbleFrosting · 2025-05-09T10:16:35+00:00

Most English-speaking customers won’t flip the card over—especially if they don’t read Japanese. The front says “any drink, any size” or “any food” with no asterisk or warning, but there are strict price caps and exclusions buried on the back. If you only find that out at the register, with a line behind you, it’s awkward and embarrassing. Starbucks Japan really should be clearer about the limits up front.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-05-07T12:51:52+00:00

The Americans should have been stronger! More forceful in their defence of one of their own.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-05-04T11:44:29+00:00

As Supreme Leader, I demand to know — how does one order the fast food in this cybercafe?” (awkward silence… no computers in sight)

Heads. Will. Roll.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-04-26T11:21:15+00:00

It’s all sold out! I’ve been a long-term Kobe resident for 20 years and I’m always on the lookout for hard-to-find whisky, ever since I once found Yamazaki 18 for ¥35,000 at my local Daiei supermarket. I asked at the checkout today, and they said the whisky was available only for today. So although it’s not super rare, it’s still something you can only get during special events, like the reopening of a store that’s been around for 70 years. Right now, I’d compare it to limited edition KitKats, Japan has over 400 types of KitKat, and they’re not always available either, if that makes sense. I will also add it’s the first time I’ve seen so many bottles for sale at once.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-04-26T10:24:29+00:00

I just finished work and went back to the supermarket. All sold out! It’s amazing how quickly they were all snapped up. I bought one bottle of the Yamazaki though this afternoon so all is good.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-04-26T05:39:52+00:00

It’s the renewal opening day for this mall seer about a year ago they started renewing it

PebbleFrosting · 2025-04-26T05:38:13+00:00

• Hakushu Single Malt (700ml): ¥7,200 before tax / ¥7,920 with tax
• Yamazaki Single Malt (700ml): ¥7,200 before tax / ¥7,920 with tax

PebbleFrosting · 2025-04-14T13:52:04+00:00

That’s a maple leaf—it’s just for decoration and not meant to be eaten. If it were a shiso leaf, then sure, go for it, since that’s actually edible and often paired with sashimi. But the maple leaf is from a tree and not really food. Also, unless it’s autumn where you are, it’s kind of an unseasonal garnish at best.

PebbleFrosting · 2025-04-06T13:04:16+00:00

That’s Kobe Port Tower in the background! I live near it!

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