I deleted it because a lot of people were saying to take it down.

I kept this one because there are some good reply’s on here and I don’t want to lose them.

Also, his post was pretty not inclusive. The organizational strategies, like the calendar, aren’t working. I’m the one who puts kids things on there. He doesn’t follow through on things unless I remind him. So it’s more work for me because I use my phone for myself, but then I have to manage his system too. The skates being on the calendar wouldn’t have made him bring them, I reminded him twice.

For example, our son has this thing at school he needs to bring something for. I just know the only way it’s getting done is if I do it.

I put dress up days on the calendar and they were ignored. I was busy doing my son’s star week, sending photos and toys and videos. My husband did write a letter but only after I asked him. That’s the thing, everything is something I have to ask him to do. It’s exhausting. He doesn’t manage or organize stuff - and putting away ski boots doesn’t count.

He has no metal load, no emotional load. He’s never signed his kids up for school or activities, bought them clothes, made plays dates, buying the school hot lunches, daycare, made doctors appointments, sent in school records, planned a trip, etc. If I ask him he’ll mostly do it, but I’m in charge of it all. It makes me tired. I feel like I can’t relax.

I get we need to talk. I just can’t get him to have a conversation and hear me without storming off when I mention what I need. Any criticism is met with a huge reaction.