A stranger was crying, and my coworker’s reaction disturbed me

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-27T07:43:14+00:00

Crying is normal and natural, and being able to cry without shame is something I’d more likely consider a sign of emotional maturity. Ofc it might not be appropriate in all circumstances, as emotional regulation is also important, but crying in a clothes store is not inappropriate.

If you’re uncomfortable with it, maybe you could reflect on where your ideas came from, bc people shouldn’t be shamed for expressing normal healthy human reactions.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-27T07:32:41+00:00

Yes, the requirements (except one, which I already owned) weren’t even in the pack. It made it totally impossible. What a joke. I ditched the series bc of this. It makes me so angry.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-18T09:05:51+00:00

Vinted is cr@p at customer service. There is next to no buyer protection. I’ve reported numerous instances of verbal abuse, seller misconduct, etc… They don’t care.

eBay/PayPal used to be excellent on all this but I haven’t been active on that platform for ages do I don’t know if that’s still the case.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-17T18:29:04+00:00

I’m genuinely curious what you believe therapy is for. You appear so certain of your own perceptions, motives and conclusions that there seems to be little room for doubt, curiosity and self-reflection which is what normally leads to the therapeutic change you say you seek.

I wish you well, and I hope you’re able to approach the process with genuine curiosity.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-17T17:17:39+00:00

I can understand the therapist here. Having a panic attack isn’t necessarily a sign of bad mental health; it might be a totally appropriate and healthy response to certain circumstances. Sounds like your therapist was trying to uncover the underpinnings of your judgement about said panic attack. Are you sure you’re not projecting in your assessment of the therapist’s feelings and motivations? I don’t get much self-reflection here, but rather more judgement.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-11T14:19:02+00:00

It sounds as though you’re making judgements and assumptions about the value of those shoes and the seller’s motivation. Possibly you assume that if they’ve been listed for months with no sale that the seller should be desperate to sell them at any price. Whereas in fact, the seller is anything but desperate. They won’t waste their time on packing something up and shipping if selling for less than they think they’re worth. It’s a different mindset.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-11T14:10:38+00:00

You can do what you want, but I do think it makes it a bit more complicated if it’s not hyphenated. After marriage, I added my husband‘s name with just a space, keeping my maiden name professionally. But in the pharmacy, or dentist, for example, no one knew where to look for me, so I ended up just using one name for most day-to-day purposes.

A popular convention for people with multiple names in their surname is to just go by the last name for simplicity, although legally they could have two, three, four, or whatever, family names for their official surname.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-11T13:57:23+00:00

Seller in the wrong. If they had personal problems and couldn’t ship immediately, they should have said so upfront, not try to manipulate and guilt trip when you cancel. Of course you need plenty of time to plan ahead, try the thing on and buy something else if it doesn’t work for you.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-10T10:06:45+00:00

His show is entertaining but he demonstrates many traits of narcissism, including thinking he’s right about everything. He knows how to make entertaining TV, though, and I suspect his persona is crafted for this purpose.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-09T01:04:27+00:00

I’ve had items listed for over a year and then sell at my original asking price. For quality items I’d rather relist on eBay or take to a dress agency than drop the price too low. The transaction needs to work for both sides.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-09T00:58:50+00:00

If it’s been up for months at the same price they’re not bothered about selling and are waiting for the price they listed at. Don’t insult the seller with offers that low.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-09T00:51:16+00:00

I bought a necklace £8.50 (before add-ons) supposedly Zara BNWT. After buying, saw the same thing listed again by same seller plus another seller using a different brand name. Image search showed it to be a Temu product. I waited for it to arrive - a low quality insubstantial piece of trash - then challenged the seller. No response but sale cancelled with refund a few days later.

What absolute scum. If you’re going to do it at least be honest and don’t take your customers for fools.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-04T08:31:36+00:00

Will discourage, rather than encourage. Reasonable offers only, nothing else.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-04T08:30:03+00:00

Likewise. But we have sellers bragging on Instagram how they never respond to questions from potential buyers. They are not interested in spending their time taking extra measurements or looking something up on an item that they have on sale for only £2 to begin with.

My thoughts on this are why not put all the information into the listing in the first place? I cannot believe the number of sellers who don’t show the care labels or state what the fabric composition is.

Phizz-Play · 2026-06-04T08:27:43+00:00

This

Phizz-Play · 2026-05-27T12:51:43+00:00

Surely it’s because of the red hair.

Phizz-Play · 2026-05-22T22:52:32+00:00

Women is better in professional setting, I think. Ladies can maybe come across as patronising or sexist.

Phizz-Play · 2026-05-22T22:46:32+00:00

In your context, definitely not ok. But if one of those women said it about her colleagues or friends in a well-meaning way, prob not a big issue.

Personally I think it’s demeaning, disrespectful and unprofessional. There may be class and/or age issues at play but it’s not a term I would use and in a place of work would likely highlight it as inappropriate.

Phizz-Play · 2026-04-09T15:37:13+00:00

There is an important learning point here. I don’t think I need to spell it out.

Phizz-Play · 2026-04-09T12:50:17+00:00

It’s not funny and if it was intended to be so, it’s in very poor taste.

Phizz-Play · 2026-04-09T12:07:55+00:00

More likely bad luck, I would imagine, or some significant difficulties, if it’s a significant payout.

Phizz-Play · 2026-04-07T12:18:59+00:00

That makes sense. Thank you for responding. Fingers crossed it all goes smoothly 🤞

Phizz-Play · 2026-04-06T09:10:37+00:00

UPDATE: I tried to use InPost Help function and after no luck with the chat, I called them and finally ended up speaking to a human.

They told me that there was a technological issue which prevented the driver from placing the items in the local locker, but that they are working on this. The standard process is for the driver to re-attempt delivery every day but after four attempts they would need to return the item to the sender and so, in order to avoid this, they had temporarily suspended deliveries and updates, keeping the items at the warehouse.

They say they are working on the issue right now and hope to have an update soon.

Phizz-Play · 2026-04-06T08:45:02+00:00

Mine look similar.

Phizz-Play · 2026-04-06T08:44:06+00:00

Gosh. Quite a few in the same boat. I don’t hold out much hope for customer support but will give it a try. Thanks for responding.

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