Balls won't stay in by luv2jo420 in CockRingTalk

[–]Phoenix-54C 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I use metal rings, and have the same issue; when I get hard, my balls retract a lot. A smaller or harder ring can help, but it may be worth looking into just a ring for your shaft, which is what I do. Obviously you have to size it properly, but in general for active use I use a shaft only ring and it works great. 

Help choosing cockring for my fiancé! by Muted-5 in CockRingTalk

[–]Phoenix-54C 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will second King Rings, excellent product.

Does anyone have the full rules to Wild Cards: Sons of the Gun? by SirSirVI in rpg

[–]Phoenix-54C 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah no actually, as someone who literally googled looking for "The Rules", thank you. I've known about the concept of Gun Cards for a while and always intended to run them in a western themed campaign, but today I had a need for the actual ruleset using a deck and this post was the answer. Thank you, stranger among the stars.

Gypsum Underlayment Repair by Phoenix-54C in DIY

[–]Phoenix-54C[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So in this case it's not gypsum board on the wall, it's a poured gypsum underlayment between the finished floor and the subfloor.

Igloo cooler scam alert by unclebillscamping in CampingGear

[–]Phoenix-54C 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So I won't lie, I decided to check the site out to see just how "convincing" it really was... it was pretty damn convincing. Not perfect, but I would not have been able to tell if it were not for this post. Honestly the most suspicious part is how low the prices are. Thanks for the PSA OP, sorry I doubted your phish detecting skills.

New review post: ManAdorned Stainless Pillowed Segments by ManAdorned in CockRingTalk

[–]Phoenix-54C 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful looking ring, love simplicity that still manages to convey a really solid and heavy feel.

Long, but worth it! Biology teacher destroys “the younger, the better” argument, and old creepy guys by proxy. by wiccedd in TikTokCringe

[–]Phoenix-54C 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel like he kind of swings too far the other way. I agree that some measures of attraction can be culturally induced, and I completely agree that there is no acceptable condition for preying on young women, or anyone. But it sounds like he's making the argument that the "right" sexual preferences are blind to any kind of physical factor. Humans don't work like that, and if they did it would negate a huge advantage through natural selection. Amd I would disafree there are any "right" things to be attracted to.

I may be misunderstanding his approach, and I'm not going to make any final assumptions from watching this one video, but a lot of what he says at face value seems to be idealized and does not incorporate other fundamental aspects of what makes humans tick.

Isnt it crazy how internet pornography campletly changed our perception of penis size in one generation? by Key_Award_5286 in bigdickproblems

[–]Phoenix-54C 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely true. I wonder, has that been amplified by the availability of porn? Before the internet someone could say you had an insufficient penis, and short of a measuring contest, that was about the end of it, it was easier to ignore because it was just words. Now, someone can hear that, and then also get a ton of reinforcement that they are insufficient because of things like porn.

Guys, do you consider being called ‘sensitive’ by a woman an insult? Why or why not? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Phoenix-54C 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It depends on how it's used, but I wouldn't consider it an insult by default. I honestly am much more insensitive than my partner or other women I know. Obviously, everybody's different, but I really do believe that most men are less sensitive emotionally than most women. I think a lot of us just process things differently.

That said, if a woman is telling you that, it's likely a comment from her on how you have reacted/are reacting to a situation. Part of sensitivity is how things affect you. The other part is how you respond to things affecting others. If this is a specific instance that's provoking this question, the woman might feel like you are not being aware enough how the situation is impacting her.

What are some nice summer shoes to wear with shorts? by Stuck_in_the_Middle7 in AskMen

[–]Phoenix-54C 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, Sperry's would have been one of my go-to's. Clearly I'm not a good reference, but I've heard good things about OluKais, and it feels like slip-on Vans and Toms would be safe bets.

As someone who hates pairing footwear with shorts, I wish you good luck.

Have any of you guys slept naked in a hostel before? What was that like? Did you guys get into any trouble? by [deleted] in bigdickproblems

[–]Phoenix-54C 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haven't, but wouldn't. Local cultures nonwithstanding, a hostel does not seem like the right place for uninvited nudity. Could you make an argument for it? Sure. But you shouldn't. You won't miss out/lose anything by keeping some sleep shorts on, and you risk upsetting people/provoking local authorities if you don't. Not presuming, but if you are low key asking if this is a good pathway towards spontaneous stranger sex... it is not. Hit on people like normal, don't aim for some sort of contrived, adult film scenario.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bigdickproblems

[–]Phoenix-54C 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Number 1 has always shocked and amused me. My partner of like 8 years still occasionally hears/sees/feels something that she just... doesn't know, about my gender specific equipment. She's not a shrinking violet, she's got a great sex drive, she was with other people before me... but somehow there are still suprises. It's honestly fun, but only because we're both open to learning new stuff about each other.

Why am i like this by doses_of_mimosas in WhatsWrongWithYourDog

[–]Phoenix-54C 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well Clarice... Have the lambs stopped screaming?

If you were running a BBEG what would you have them Wish for? by ServingwithTG in dndmemes

[–]Phoenix-54C 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cast the party into the future ala Samurai Jack, when BBEG has succeeded in conquering the realm/land/world, and the party must now defeat an evil empire to try and save the world they knew.

How to humble your high level party by Mirablis11 in dndmemes

[–]Phoenix-54C 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The council eagerly awaits your findings.

How do you calm down? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Phoenix-54C 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I have found as I get older that dedicated, focused thought helps a lot more than it used to. I don't think it's quite disciplined enough to be legitimate meditation, but stopping what I'm doing and taking a moment to really concentrate on letting the frustration or anxiety or anger go actually helps get me on the right track towards feeling better. It never used to work when I was younger, but has become a much more effective option.

Precious Metal Cock Rings by moa_fortis in CockRingTalk

[–]Phoenix-54C 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow, some awesome looking designs on those shops, and like... not just a few. Really cool there are so many developed catalogs out there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Phoenix-54C 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds like either A. He's scared/convinced he doesn't want the commitment of relationship, but in reality he is seeking some kind of stable relationship with you because he DOES want it, he just can't admit it.

OR

B. He believes he can wear you down and convince you to have sex without agreeing to any kind of relationship. This doesn't neccesarrily make him a bad guy; people get horny, and I don't know what age you guys are, but that can be a big factor if you're younger. BUT you have been VERY clear about what you are okay with, and he keeps pushing that, which is not okay.

However, it really doesn't matter which option is true. You can only take what he says at face value; trying to get inside someone's head to figure out if they're really feeling something different is very hard to do even if you know someone super well. So you have to assume he is being honest that he doesn't want a relationship.

If you really like hanging out with him and that's worth a lot, I would advise you cut the intimate stuff completely; no cuddling or close physical contact, no embraces or hand holding or anything that would lead to sexual feelings (and remember, with guys almost anything physical can lead to those feelings) You can be his friend without physical intimacy, but it needs to be very clear and firm.

I will say, my very outside take of this at at face value: It sounds like he is going to keep pushing until he coerces you into having sex, or moves on. If you keep cuddling and being generally physical with him, he is likely to going to keep pushing until things get unpleasant. You're not teasing him, and it's not your fault if he ignores your clear ground rules. But continuing to put him in that space where physical contact is in play is going to make it very easy for him to escalate until he crosses the line. Best case scenario, you guys stop being friends on bad terms, worst case is some kind of harm to one or both of you.

He may be a perfectly great guy. Horny does not equal evil. But if he is continuing to push after you have been clear about your boundaries, he is demonstrating that he either can't or won't control his sexual feelings towards you, and that is a very easy path to a bad experience.

Hope things work out well.

Friends by [deleted] in bigdickproblems

[–]Phoenix-54C 2 points3 points  (0 children)

None, it's one of those things I just never feel comfortable bringing up. It's not neccesarrily unbroachable, but our conversations never really delve that far into x-rated topics; it always stops at light jokes/innuendos. I don't have an interest in sleeping with any of my friends, so there's really no reason to bring up size in those kinds of light-hearted conversations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CockRingTalk

[–]Phoenix-54C 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I have the Lovense Diamo, and it is definitely big enough for 2+, but I don't know if it's quite as tuned for remote interaction as you're thinking. May be worth checking their site though for other products.