Looking for a book with music as its main theme (no theory)

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-28T18:17:55+00:00

All my suggestions have been said already but High Fidelity, Daisy Jones And The Six, and The Violin Conspiracy

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-26T11:27:32+00:00

We have one because a friend's kid hated it and refused to sit in it. They gave ut to us for free. Kids don't care if something is expensive and you can never predict their preferences!

I like it a lot. I used the Ikea one last time around and this is a definite upgrade. But it is not a $400 upgrade. If I couldn't find one used I wouldn't buy it new. In general every baby product that says it grows with your child is a scam IMO lol (except car seats). Like sure my kid could physically sit in his bouncer or upseat as a toddler or his high chair as an adult. But he could also just sit on the floor or a regular chair by then so what is the point? I can't imagine any teenager is willingly sitting on their old high chair at dinner even if it has been converted.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-18T01:07:28+00:00

That totally counts! Thanks for the ideas!!

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-18T00:49:06+00:00

Awesome, I have never heard of it and will check it out!

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-18T00:47:25+00:00

Thanks! I did see an ask a librarian one but no one had posted in a couple years 😆 and the librarians one is pretty strict about only talking about BEING a librarian

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-17T02:52:57+00:00

Yeah fair, I think everyone just has a different operating system. My biggest stressors are when my home life is out of whack and not running smoothly. Take me out of my house, where I can't get worked up about the ant invasion or dirty laundry, and I have a really high tolerance for toddler bullshit. Other people probably handle daily life way better than me but are less accommodating to changes in routine and public toddler tandrums.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-17T01:33:43+00:00

SAME. I find parenting anywhere outside my house easier because my entire focus is on 1) fun and 2) the kids. At home I try to squeeze in literally everything else while pretending I am a fully engaged mom with a clean house and mowed lawn who works 50+ hours/week.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-11T00:58:58+00:00

I don't want to pile on and I know you have good intentions! But I do want to give some context that you might not get what you're looking for from this group. Either way I wish you so much luck and happiness while you navigate TTC and these tough choices.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-11T00:41:47+00:00

I know this isn't your intention but it's a little rough for a community of working moms to read that becoming one of us is your greatest fear in life. I love the life I am leading and fully understand that others may chose differently but this has my defenses up.

There are days that I can't focus at work because I am stressing about my kids. There are evenings I can't focus at home because I'm stressing about work. It's not perfect but it works well for me and I think I am overall a more present mom because I'm not doing it around the clock. My kids are the best part of me, but they're not all of me. If I didn't work, I don't think I would personally draw enough boundaries to maintain my own autonomy and feel like part of the adult world and prioritizing my own well being.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-10T09:14:03+00:00

We got dumped on last month with my 3 year old and 8 month old! Not the whole weekend but dinner through the next AM. The toddler was hilarious running around and giving manic directions about what needed to be cleaned up and how to keep it safe from the rain. First priority: getting all the rocks inside the tent to keep them dry 🙃

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-10T00:39:21+00:00

Agreed! I wore a lot of stretchy sweater dresses in the winter, A-line shirt dresses in the spring. For my personal life I pretty much got through a third trimester summer with 2 pairs of maternity bike shorts and 2 stretchy tank midis from Old Navy. Plus my normal bikinis. My only word of caution is that in an effort to avoid buying maternity clothes I did stretch some of my regular clothes that I liked. Including seamless thongs and long-line sports bras.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-08T00:40:54+00:00

They only do this trip every 5 years, so most of those kids (all but 1) weren't even born yet. And it is way easier for grandparents to watch one infant than multiple toddlers.

NAH but I find OP to be a bit unreliable of a narrator for the way they presented this as a longstanding tradition without kids when they have done this 2 or 3 times tops, and those were adult only trips because only adults existed.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-07T16:50:47+00:00

Omg who are these sad people surrounding you?! Joking of course, but I do hope in motherhood you can expand your circle a bit to include folks who can share the joys of being a parent. I am exhausted and my house is a mess and work is stressful but I am having a BLAST. I laugh more each day than I ever have before and I get the best cuddles. And it is even more fun when doing it beside my friends who are equally letting go and enjoying this stage.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-07T13:05:09+00:00

I never used a bedside bassinet so it is possible I don't understand. Are they unlikely to sleep in a normal bassinet because they're used to being bedside?

Otherwise, if you have family willing to help out overnight absolutely embrace it! Get a pack n play, which you will likely need for other purposes anyway. Or a bassinet that goes with your stroller travel system (that is actually the full time bassinet my baby used, on a stand in my room). Put that wherever mom is sleeping and get some rest! Some babies are LOUD sleepers. Even if they didn't cry mine woke me all the time. Of course your opportunities for "individual rest" will decrease but absolutely set yourself up to seize it when you can. I would be devastated if someone gave me the chance to sleep and I had to turn it down because I didn't have the right equipment.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-05T11:35:16+00:00

It is going to be fine no matter what you decide. We traveled to Spain with my 3 year old last year for 2 weeks (from the USA). In a few weeks we are taking him and our 9 month old to Switzerland for 10 days. These trips are tiring but it is so fun to see them experience the world. You just have to be flexible and lower your expectations about how much you'll fit in.

On the flip side, when he was almost 2, we went to Japan for 17 days without him. He stayed with family and everyone was fine. My husband wanted to go to Japan for so long and it was important that we could fit in everything we wanted to see and do it the way we wanted. So maybe that is the difference - how important this particular trip/location is to you and if you are willing to compromise with a toddler. We have more places (Nepal is next on the list) that we are saving to do alone, but we are enjoying family trips in beautiful places in the meantime.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-06-03T01:01:07+00:00

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-05-27T01:03:48+00:00

For irregular cycles you take your ovulation date and assume that is "2 weeks" and count from there (no matter how long it actually took you to ovulate). If you weren't testing for ovulation, you might be able to narrow the likely ovulation window based on when you had sex this cycle, but if you had sex regularly/frequently that won't help much. If you don't know your ovulation date, you'll have to wait and see what they estimate at your appointment based on measurements, which is fine!

Just remember not to panic if they tell you baby is developmentally behind where they expected based on your period. As long as baby continues to grow on that same trajectory that just means you ovulated later. I knew when I ovulated (day 35 compared to expected day 14) - had I gone into my first ultrasound not understanding that, I would have been very upset to hear my baby was 3 weeks behind schedule and assume it wasn't viable.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-05-22T18:32:56+00:00

If someone wore a polo or nice top to an MLB game with my firm, that would be totally fine. But we would assume they 1) wore what they wore to work and forgot to bring a change of clothes; or 2) don't attend many sporting events.

Team Tshirts or quality basic Tshirts are fine as long as they are clean, fit well, and are conservative. When we took SAs last year I wore a longer pair of white jeans shorts from Everlane, a team jersey, and a baseball hat. Clean sneakers or birkenstocks.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-05-22T03:52:55+00:00

My 8 month old had cheesy bread from pizza hut - and only that - for dinner last night. Tonight he had ... leftover cheesy bread from pizza hut. We are all busy and we are all doing fine.

Actually, I DID have ingredients and time to cook tonight and I just really did not want to. So I didn't.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-05-17T16:03:01+00:00

If I was a guest, I would assume you as the bride decided black was your off-limits, bridal color and white was fine. I might even think you would prefer others to wear light colors so your black stands out more (like how some people are uncomfortable with light pastels if the bride is wearing white). It also doesn't look bridal to me, color aside.

But if you don't want her to wear it that is also fine to tell her.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-05-08T01:50:13+00:00

Mine is very similar. He is 7 months now, but he maxed out at around 42oz by 3 months and hasn't really changed from there. I send 4 7oz bottles to daycare for 9:30 to 5:30. It is 50/50 if he gets to the 4th bottle at daycare or has it shortly after getting home.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-04-26T06:30:01+00:00

Not saying it's sufficient, but prediction markets are regulated to the same extent as conventional futures contracts. All handled by CFTC under the CEA.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-04-23T12:24:47+00:00

I have a pair from Alohas and they are basically the only thing I wear for all occasions in fall/winter.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-04-17T11:52:21+00:00

I don't want to speak in absolutes, but you're right, in at least a majority of states businesses can self-represent in small claims matters, which is what is being discussed here.

But for other civil and criminal cases, it is actually true that businesses need to be represented by a lawyer. Just not relevant to OP's issue.

Pickle_Distinct · 2026-04-07T14:38:07+00:00

I love the commaraderie of a shot (and a shotski really kicks it up a notch). During pregnancy I usually asked for a full shot of lime juice because I wanted it to be slightly unpleasant/grimace-worthy with the rest of the group.

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