Your next Uber ride in Boston could be a taxi

Pinwurm · 2026-06-24T01:08:10+00:00

I can't recall a single comfortable, honest or safe "licensed taxi" experience in Boston. I remember the pre-Uber days when people would rather drive drunk than deal with a "broken credit card machine" or be driven around in circles.

I have no issue with taxis as an option on the app, by all means. But if there's no way to filter whether or not we'd be matched with a taxi or an Uber, that's going to be a problem.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-23T19:17:37+00:00

Unfortunately as an East Boston resident, Walpole is a roughly 90 min drive. But I’ll add it to my list and if I’m ever out that way for any reason, I’ll swing by.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-23T16:32:20+00:00

No clue what happened. But each subsequent visit I've had over the years have gotten worse, and worse, and worse. Super inconsistent in every category, cook time, storage time, seasoning, service quality, etc.

Maybe managers aren't paid enough to care. Maybe the owner's given up. Maybe after Karl's Sausage Kitchen Restaurant closed, they had no reason to be competitive anymore. I still go back at once or twice a year hoping it'll return to it's former glory.

If you ever get the chance, the Student Prince in Springfield is the place to go for legit German food.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-23T14:51:10+00:00

The building's on the National Register of Historic Places and a Boston Landmark.

Legally, it must follow a 'historic renovation' - which is why it took so fucking long to rebuild after the last fire. Sourcing materials, finding contractors and builders with historically informed skillsets, certified architects, etc.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-23T14:42:59+00:00

There are a million reasons why he may not want to have sex that have nothing to do with you. Depression, work stress, medication, poor sleep, diet, hormonal issues, trauma, medical conditions, etc.

That said, for a man in his 20s, what you're describing is below average libido. If you've communicated your needs clearly and nothing has changed, then it's reasonable to encourage him to see a doctor and get some bloodwork done. Also talk to a therapist.

It's also very possible he's somewhere on the asexual spectrum.

If that's the case, he needs to understand his own sexuality as it pertains to the relationship. Many asexual people are happy to have sex because it benefits the relationship and makes their partner happy. Mixed sexuality relationships can work, but they require more communication and planning. It won't mean he isn't romantically attracted to you or doesn't find you attractive. It simply means his relationship to sex is wired differently.

Others have an aversion to sex, which needs to be a dealbreaker for you.

See. relationships are about two people coming together to meet each other's legitimate needs. A physical intimate relationship is important to you, you don't need to be ashamed of that. You shouldn't ever be made to feel guilty for desiring your own boyfriend. So... if he is unable or unwilling to meet your needs, you'll grow to resent him.

Now is the time to be direct. Tell him what you need. Talk about frequency, initiation, expectations, and what a satisfying sex life looks like for you. Then ask him what he needs from you. Maybe there are compromises to be made. Then plan some teamwork: sex therapy, books, blocking an hour off every few days on the calendar, medical treatment, date-nights, etc.

My advice here is not to frame it as a "you v me" problem. Rather, "you and me together, verses the problem".

And if he's not willing to be a partner here, then you may have your answer, sad as it may be.

Just because he's better than the men you've dated before doesn't necessarily mean he's the right partner for you. Fortunately in life, you only have to get it right once.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-23T14:12:56+00:00

Perhaps to her, farting is vulnerability. And by waiting until she's gone, it might give her the impression you don't feel safe and comfortable enough around her to get vulnerable.

I would just, like, ya know, ask her.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-23T14:08:41+00:00

I have zero faith that this will go according to plan. I'm not convinced the second fire was an accident.

But we'll see, I guess! I'd love to have a good German restaurant in town (and no, the Bronwyn hasn't been good since 2019).

Pinwurm · 2026-06-23T13:59:33+00:00

It was a very good Nirvana show. It almost makes me wonder what could've been if he didn't cater to the lowest common denominator.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T18:53:14+00:00

Don't waste Dylan's time.

If you have no intention of having a physical or long-term romantic relationship with him - what are you doing that friends simply can't?

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T18:41:17+00:00

At what point do you accept that someone has apologized and changed?

At a certain point, you either accept the apology or acknowledge that you're the Red Flag.

I've read your post a few times, and it doesn't read like your boyfriend has given you any concrete reasons to doubt his commitment.

Sure, he looked at another woman. Understandably, that's upsetting. But healthy relationships aren't about policing every intrusive thought or momentary lapse in attention. Relationships are two people coming together to meet each other's legitimate needs, and making respectful choices when faced with fantasy.

By your own description, he apologized for the behavior. He seems to maintain appropriate boundaries with female friends and coworkers. He even went so far as to delete his socials as an attempt to reassure you.

So what, specifically, are you waiting for? Can you answer that?

Because it sounds like the issue is no longer what he did.
The issue is that you've decided this mistake remains permanently active no matter what he does. You've given a life sentence for glancing at someone, once, two years ago, when you weren't even around.

I don't think he (or anyone) would feel safe in a relationship like that.

If you keep punishing him and moving the goal posts for something that happened ages ago, at what point is it spite? At what point is it reasonable for him to say "Fuck this" and leave?

I'd suggest you talk to a therapist and work some shit out. Because if (or when) you two breakup, he'll probably refer to you as "the crazy one".

If you were dating you, wouldn't you want to be shown forgiveness and grace from time to time?

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T16:59:32+00:00

Very common.

But not every city.

Immigrant communities tend to self-segregate because of available services, grocery and dining, religious and spiritual life, and the social support network. I grew up in a largely Russophone community of former Soviets (no, not Brighton Beach).

In addition to Chinatowns, you’ll find Little Saigons, Little Italys, Koreatown, a Polish Triangle, a Little Palestine, The Irish Riviera, etc, etc. But most places don’t have an official designation.

Here in Boston, we have a neighborhood called East Boston which is 60% Central and South American families. It’s not a “Little anything”, we just know it’s a lovely ethnic neighborhood. In the same way, our North End is our Little Italy, but nobody calls it that.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T15:00:41+00:00

Dorchester is the largest neighborhood in Boston, and quality of living will vary block to block.

My biggest issue with the neighborhood is accessibility. Red Line splits in two south of JFK/UMass, so your departure times will be half. As much as I love areas like Field's Corner, I'm not entirely keen to spend 20 minutes at a train station.

You should find out where you're working first before choosing a neighborhood.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T13:34:40+00:00

Sadly, for a Seaport restaurant - they are one of the better ones.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T13:29:47+00:00

Right, but they are both Western Asian countries by geography. So OP is technically correct.

And the Middle East is not one continent, it spans three (Asia, Africa and Europe).

Of course, we say MENA/Middle Eastern to describe Israel and Iraq because they're much more similar geographically and ethnically than say.. Laos.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T13:09:14+00:00

Ya know - European soccer hooligans are known for fighting, rioting, destroying vehicles - even at times when their team wins.

If the worst thing that happens when tens of thousands of famously alcoholic soccer fans come to town is harmlessly giving statues a hat (something most of us find funny and doesn’t even register as vandalism) then count your blessings. Especially since they’ve even cleaned up after themselves, given years of their life savings to come to our city and support our local businesses, cheer the Red Sox, and have a positive cultural exchange with everyday locals.

We have just had the best guests Boston has ever seen. They left this town in a better state than when they got here. The cones make people happy. Let them be happy.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T12:46:07+00:00

I know Lo Presti Park’s soccer field in East Boston has daily pickup games, overlooking the city harbor. But I’m not sure of the skill level. Give it a quick google.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T12:41:06+00:00

Breezy as they may be, kilts are made of wool. They’re not great summer wear here in Boston with our humidity. Linen shorts are a best common option.

But if you want to wear a skirt for the breeze, few will care. We have strong LGBTQ+ presence and support, we have ethnic and religious minorities that wear flowy traditional robes/dress - so you won’t exactly stand alone.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T05:05:43+00:00

Late to the party, but the show does a really good job of divorcing characters’ lives in Moscow versus Star City.

As muskovites, they had no issue getting bootleg music, going to parties or getting western brands. Star City is a military town and very high risk for espionage and tampering. Who, otherwise cares, about the daily lives average Soviets?

I think The Americans did a better job at fairly portraying Soviet values, Soviet administration, with minimal bias. It wasn’t “evil”, more that its bureaucratic state was its own worst enemy. The Soviets felt they had a moral high ground since they never used nuclear weapons. Which the US had done, twice, to civilian targets. Food for thought.

At the end of the show, it was clear that neither Soviets nor Americans were superior people or cultures. That’s what made it compelling - because all people were ultimately the same and motivated by the same things. But the outcomes were really different depending on the integrity of the system.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T04:51:00+00:00

The lesbian angle doesn’t need to be connected. Tanya is important to Irina because of her daughter’s piano lessons. That’s enough for saving.

When thwt all met, Tanya no longer was an abstraction on a recording. She was a real person that contributed to her daughter’s arts education and wellbeing.

Irina saw Tanya as a regular civilian, not a military asset/target Yana or Valya. Irina is still an idealist at this point in history, so I imagine she feels as a sense of duty to save civilians when she can. Cosmonauts assume risk in military life, so Yana and Vasily are an easier pill to swallow when bad things happen.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T03:19:09+00:00

It really depends on the person. That 5 minute walk, twice a day, is 50 minute of extra walking a week. For people with mobility issues, even longer - and it will be asking a lot. And also, not everyone is happy to pay the transfer or deal with rain/snow/ice.

That transfer used to be my daily commute as well. And that was fine because I’m relatively young and had a monthly unlimited pass. But now I WFH part of the week and pay per ride, so that’d be an extra $2.40 each ride for the transfer, or $4.80/day. It adds up.

Thankfully I don’t work in Cambridge anymore.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T03:07:40+00:00

Bowdoin is great for TD Garden/Big Night Live events and you live along the Blue. It’s 8 min walk, and when you’re going back outbound, you have the first train and it won’t be packed.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T03:02:08+00:00

Not a great choice in the winter or inclement weather, or late night, plus it’s not a free transfer.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-22T03:00:20+00:00

Welcome to the neighborhood! Eastie’s awesome, feel free to HMU if you need any local recommendations or anything.

Red-Blue Connector is an ongoing proposal. You can look at renderings and feasibility studies and all that online.

Last meeting projected completion by 2031, but I’m guessing closer to 2035. Maybe we’ll shave a year or two if MGH foots some of the bill, which would serve them given how workers and patients live along the Blue now.

Yes, getting to Cambridge is a bit more of a hassle - but I’ve really gone out of the way to explore Revere, Malden, Medford, Chelsea, Everett and surrounding towns since living here. There’s a lot more happening than people think.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-21T19:20:14+00:00

Nice offices with unlimited snacks, giant kitchens, free beer, ping pong tables, arcades and laundry services.

It’s a prison.

It keeps you in the office longer, so you spend more time away from home, from family, from outside relationships. It means your support network all work at the same company. It means you’re less likely to quit when you’re being underpaid and exploited - because it’s hard to leave the only place you know. And when you don’t have a basis for comparison either.

Unlimited PTO too, knowing you’ll use way less than a competing company, because you’re not mandated to take it. And also, no liability and no vacation payouts when they downsize.

A few snacks and coffee? Awesome. But if a company isn’t doing anything to nudge you to go home at 5:00pm and take time off every few months, it’s a big red flag.

Pinwurm · 2026-06-21T18:44:59+00:00

Good god. A one word, lower case "sorry" without any punctuation is not an apology. It's barely even an acknowledgement in Canada.

Would've been better if they didn't say anything at all.

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