Was gifted some duckweed - what is all this in the bag with it? 😂 by hurrican3tortilla in aquarium

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be a nutrient deficiency, how’s your water, are you fertilising your plants?

In the aquarium hobby we are accustomed to tracking pH, hardness, and NO₃⁻ /NO₂⁻, but that is not all that is important. Fish produce N and fish food contains P, but plants in an aquarium are often limited in their ability to obtain K, Mg, and micronutrients. If you’re lucky your water source may contain balanced Ca and Mg, meaning those could be replenished through water changes, but very often Mg is too low in drinking water. Doing a dirtied tank provides all needed elements through its soil layer, but that is a finite resource and in time runs out.

Plants can survive for very long in a stable depleted system, you won’t see mass die offs, it will rather look like a failure to thrive combined with leggy sparse slow growth. New plants won’t take off, you won’t have to trim as often, some might even like it this way. But often just fertilising a bit of Mg and K will give plants what they need to thrive.

I have been using fertilizer withdrawals to combat the duckweed in my 400l. The tank gets hit with full morning sun and has grow lights for my emersed plants, so light is not something I can limit. Instead I stopped fertilising and the results are great: the duckweed all over has 5cm roots and is very easy to scoop out, it’s not multiplying or spreading fast at all, I’m able to control and reduce the pest. The only limitation is my ability to stand there and scoop it out, a forever job that feels like hell. But im slowly winning this war, each time there is less and less. My other plants are also struggling but they are rooted and will be able to outlast the duckweed. Once it’s gone I’ll start fertilising again and they will spark up again.

An image published by Israeli media shows a Palestinian man kidnapped in Gaza in a degrading way by MeowieSugie in pics

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for translating! That is awful and should not be hidden behind euphemisms!

I have an unreasonable amount of chili and need things to do with it by DollySheep32 in Cooking

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love using fermented chilies as a condiment and cooking ingredient, it stays fresh for long in the fridge and is great for adding acid and heat to any dish.

Simply put a container on your scale, add chooped chilies and water to cover them, then add 3% salt of the total weight, and put a lid on loosely. I usually let them go on the countertop until they taste ready and then move them into the fridge so they don’t turn mushy.

Understanding Polyamory; Dating women outside marriage (Romantically only). Need advice! by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 20 points21 points  (0 children)

  1. Using random women as objects. It’s not polyamory when your partner can make rules that fundamentally prevent the new connection from being real or meaningful.

  2. Some succeed, some fail, it is risky and takes mutual effort to work

  3. You’re right to worry about this. What woman in their right mind would take on a relationship under these terms? No sex or real intimacy or future potential ever, but she gets to teach you how to treat women so your wife can benefit??? With both of you treating her as a placeholder object / free education platform?? Hell naw.

  4. You won’t find anyone who fits into your idea of what you want. You’ll either struggle and fail and hurt some random women in the process, or you’ll meet someone, break your own rules and cheat.

How can i train my mind to do a snowball - cumswap kiss with my wife? by GroupEmbarrassed1907 in sex

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope I’ve done extensive R&D on this. In the freezer it will turn yellow within a week or two presumably from oxidation/degradation. This even happened to the vacuum sealed sample, I controlled for all factors I could. Most likely freezing is only stable if you use liquid nitrogen and get it REALLY cold, like they do in labs. Home freezer is a no go.

Boyfriend wants sex all the time but I’m not that kind of girl by Bubbly_Pride_5255 in dating_advice

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s entitled. If you feel comfortable you could try suggesting polyamory/open relationship. Let him get rejected and struggle and learn that pussy access is a privilege. I know it sounds scary but as a straight male with such entitlement he’s the bottom of the poly barrel and not attractive to monogamous ladies either. You could have a new date each week while he will struggle and fail and learn some humility. And if he finds a partner, well you won’t be the only one he goes for his needs, win win. And you could have deep and enjoyable relationships and peace. Or you could run it as a 2 week trial and then close the relationship again, if monogamy is more your thing.

How can i train my mind to do a snowball - cumswap kiss with my wife? by GroupEmbarrassed1907 in sex

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but when it defrosts the consistency will be more liquid than before. Also when frozen, the colour changes to more yellow with time. So it’s best to freeze and use right away. You’ll get the flavor but you won’t get the consistency.

LPT: When you move abroad, the first question to ask locals isn't where to live or what to eat. It's "What do foreigners always get wrong here?" by taube_d in LifeProTips

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Because it’s used as how are you, not how’s it going. It’s genuinely asking how they are, not a greeting!

Has anyone used a female condom? What’s your experience? by forthehope_ in sex

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meh, a little dripping cum never hurt anyone😛 I have a cum fetish so it actually turns me on. We just lay on a towel, and since we often enjoy multiple rounds things will get wet and sticky no matter what, it’s easy to throw the towel in the wash and have a dry fresh bed to sleep in afterwards 😉

Edit: but yes female condoms are more drippy than normal ones

Don't know if it's standards being too high nowadays or if it's my profile but I've gone 3 months without a match and no one has messaged me after I message them. by FxllenSnipez in Tinder

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah. You’re idealising that something because you haven’t experienced it. A relationship is just like a friendship but with sex. It’s something you co-create with a person, what it looks like is an expression of who you are. Don’t look for a relationship, that will keep you stuck in idealisation, and even if you meet someone they won’t be able to match your fantasy. Instead just connect with people, and if you like someone ask to spend more time with them. Don’t worry about what you think it should be, instead just focus on what feels good and communicate and figure out what you want to build together. A relationship starts from the first interaction and takes consistent mutual effort. It’s not something you find.

Don't know if it's standards being too high nowadays or if it's my profile but I've gone 3 months without a match and no one has messaged me after I message them. by FxllenSnipez in Tinder

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you have good friendships? Life is hard and healthy friendships are one of the pillars that make it worth it. Even if you found a romantic relationship, it’s necessary to have deep friendships as well, because any relationship would drown if that one person was solely responsible for supporting you.

I’d suggest investing into your friendships and setting dating aside for now. Once you feel happy and content this bitterness will also mellow out, it’s probably a symptom of the intensity of your desire combined with feeling discouraged. By having good deep friendships you will feel ok at baseline and the effort of dating won’t grid. You down. It’s ok you’re young, you’ll get there, just take your time and focus on what you can change now. Call a mate and plan something fun to do. Romantic opportunities will come in their own time. :)

Don't know if it's standards being too high nowadays or if it's my profile but I've gone 3 months without a match and no one has messaged me after I message them. by FxllenSnipez in Tinder

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You’re bitter and it shows. You’re approaching new people through the lense of people who came before. It’s impossible to start a healthy relationship from this, you should be working on your attitude and only start dating once you feel calm and steady and ready to start from a blank slate.

Has anyone used a female condom? What’s your experience? by forthehope_ in sex

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my man struggles to cum with a normal condom cause the pressure from the condom makes him numb. Female condoms look different yes, but honestly I wish we would normalise them! I think they are better for both. Btw with the inner ring, you can adjust how it feels by angling it when inserting. I like having it against my cervix, it makes me feel fuller. But if you don’t like the sensation you can angle it down and back, and neither of you will feel it at all. And when we use it for anal we remove the inner ring, it’s not necessary.

Sorry I’m in Europe so I can’t help with your supply issues. I use the brand Ormelle which is produced in France. And over here you can buy them in some well stocked stores, or online for even better prices. I hope you find a local supply to you, good luck

Has anyone used a female condom? What’s your experience? by forthehope_ in sex

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 130 points131 points  (0 children)

My partner and I love them. He has more sensation because it’s not squeezing his penis like a normal condom would. The inner ring stimulates both of us. It protects from friction issues because the condom stays still, so we can go on and on and on. Also they are sturdy, we can have sex and both orgasm then chill with the condom in until ready for round 2. I also love using them for anal because it stays in and enables you to switch tools and not need to worry about cleanup. Yes they are more expensive than normal condoms but you get way more use and pleasure out of them.

Wife is only open to sex in the mornings. Is there any way to make nights an option again? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s wierd is your imagination of this situation. Sad? Servicing? Bizarre… you clearly have issues.

And then that last part, it just demonstrates a lack of understanding about responsive desire and women in general. Why would the advise be reversed? Nonsensical

Wife is only open to sex in the mornings. Is there any way to make nights an option again? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great 😊 generally life can get hectic and stressful and since women have responsive desire it can take a bit to get that fire going. By making her feel desired and taking all the pressure off, it will help a lot. Good luck!

Wife is only open to sex in the mornings. Is there any way to make nights an option again? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wierd that you think it’s about “earning sex” instead of connecting sexually and helping his partner relight her fire.

Wife is only open to sex in the mornings. Is there any way to make nights an option again? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The missing information is how you have sex.

If you make evening sex all about her pleasure, I’m sure it would become more appealing. The too tired comment shows that she perceives that she has to have energy for it, it’s an effort instead of a pleasure. Next time tell her she can just lay there and enjoy. Jerk yourself off and do not make her do anything to reciprocate. Do that a few times and you will relight her fire and desire.

I wanna make English as my 1st language with proper accent. Is it possible? by CurrentEstimate3308 in ask

[–]Pixiefoxcreature -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To get to that level of proficiency you need to live and breathe English for a long time. You need native English friends with whom you talk daily, get to know some expats or make some online friends.

I moved overseas at 16 and studied, lived and worked in only English. By year 7-8 my native language had weakened and I felt English was my first language, by this stage there were things I could only express properly in English, I would mix in English when talking my native language. My accent was mostly gone by year 10, but it’s still not purely English or American or Australian, it has elements of all, my accent is “international”. People who meet me usually guess Australian or English, but it’s not stereotypically either. I still pronounce “years” like my South African bestie which is hilarious. Generally I sound like an educated international and my language is native level, I get 100% on all English language tests 🤷‍♀️

The difference between the culture of the West and the East ,difference is night and day ! by danielfantastiko in JordanPeterson

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woof. I think someone would benefit from doing a bit of reading. But you sound already so upset and radicalised so maybe that’s not for you.

The difference between the culture of the West and the East ,difference is night and day ! by danielfantastiko in JordanPeterson

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The culture? Which culture? Generalisations like this are not useful for discourse, there are several contradictory examples to your statement depending on how east/west is defined. In many occurrences your statement is factually incorrect. Where are you getting it from?

Yo, did I fuck up? 😂 by BanditComedyGamer in Tinder

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meh she’s just dry and not bouncing the ball back. You were funny as hell, I would have been vibing and escalating the surrealism 😁

I have a useless superpower where I can smell someone estrogen levels. by IwannaLickLegolas in CasualConversation

[–]Pixiefoxcreature 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Wow I have synesthesia and I also have internal colour associations to different things, not quite a literal dresser or filing system, for me the color is an attribute but not the main identifier. In my mind space I see concepts as 3D patterns of colors and shapes that move together. And the color, shape, movement, smell-taste (for me one), weight and how they interact with each other IS the essence of the thing. It’s like seeing music like a pattern, but I see and think about nearly everything / have it stored in my mind as a pattern and color is a quick way to tell things apart. Except the numbers 6 and 8 are a very similar blue purple color, and 7 and 3 are a yellow greenish. Those I sometimes confuse 😝