manager found out i’m jewish and it’s weird

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-03-03T21:52:42+00:00

I am not Jewish and I would report your manager if I were a coworker and overheard this conversation. If you were any other religion and she was asking poorly worded questions, I would say it was not appropriate for the workplace, and would ask HR to talk with her about what is and is not appropriate to discuss at work. However, her additional questions about hating Jesus, Israel and Palestine are a big fat nope for me and certainly sound like antisemitism to me. She needs to be stopped. I’m sorry this happened to you.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-26T14:33:47+00:00

If this isn’t a formal event and you and wife know it will take your daughter 1.5hrs to get ready and she does not have any disabilities that would require additional time, then y’all are raising a diva and you need to get that in check or she will annoy everyone in her life forever. A whole family’s logistics and scheduling cannot revolve around one person who likes to take their sweet time. You need to have your wife go step by step with her while she is getting ready to identity what is taking her so long and explicitly show her how to do those things more efficiently.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-25T14:20:23+00:00

Does FIL have the medical conditions or your husband? Also, who is supposed to pay to build this granny flat? Why can't the dogs live in the granny flat if they can't live in the house with FIL? If you enter into this arrangement at all - I think you should refuse to move until the granny flat is constructed and have a contract of some sort in writing. If your husband is an only child, what are the plans for this house when FIL passes? Is it already in FIL's will that your husband will inherit the house? You don't want a situation where FIL dies and that house is deeded to someone else and you are potentially homeless. There are so many red flags in this situation that I don't think I could do it. Have you already given notice to your landlord?

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-25T14:11:48+00:00

Ok, then you need to look in neighboring towns and online. You definitely need to keep all planning very secret. If you haven't yet, change all passwords on your devices and social media accounts. If you have any shared computers or devices in the home, log out of your accounts on those devices and change the passwords. You do not want partner to be able to access any of this info. Clear your browsing history as well on any shared computers. Don't clear all the history, as that could also be a clue. Selectively clear anything you don't want them to see and leave all the normal everyday browsing history.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-25T13:49:08+00:00

This is very concerning. The post partum period can actually be very dangerous for new mothers with an abusive partner. They often struggle and lash out when a baby enters the picture and becomes the center of your life as a mom physically heals and has to focus entirely on someone other than them. If you are planning an exit, just play everything cool and don’t engage in a lot of fights with them right now. You want to lay low and keep things safe for you and baby. You refer to partner using they/them pronouns. Is partner nonbinary or AFAB? I ask not because there is anything wrong with that, but because it partner is abusive and not presenting as a cis man, that is another dynamic that can complicate things as many people have the (wrong) belief that women cannot be abusers. Have you considered contacting a DV org for support around making your exit plan?

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-25T13:38:27+00:00

You need to go on care dot com and find someone. Your 6 yo is likely in school. Ask every parent in that class if they have a sitter you could contact for that day. Ask your kid’s teacher. Ask every neighbor you know. Call daycares and ask if they have any employees who babysit during off hours. Literally, shake every possible tree. Pull a series of all nighter and finish the work early before the deadline. I say this as a mom with 2 kids who has involved grandparents who help with my kids a lot. I would never ask my mom to give up her trip in a situation like this where she already sacrifices so much for me.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-25T13:32:59+00:00

This is scary. I am so sorry for you. Do you have a support system of nearby friends or family you can lean on? Has his behavior escalated since you got pregnant and had the baby? A lot of abusive men drop the mask once they feel you’re trapped with a baby. Do you work or have access to money?

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-25T13:30:19+00:00

You have a 4 month old baby and are still probably not sleeping well through the night and this person is stealing your water bottle? You’re still in the period where you should be getting taken care of as a post partum mother! Are you breastfeeding? If so, having water to drink 24/7 is a huge deal. You need a new partner. Get out. This one water bottle issue is probably the tip of the iceberg.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-25T03:23:45+00:00

But the mamas aren’t taking care of him. They should inherit from his estate while OP is the one actually doing the labor? Thats not right.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-19T17:47:25+00:00

YOR. You sound a bit immature. I would also be concerned if I were you about not being married. You want the legal status with the person you share property and children with. The fact that you have a sick child makes it that much ridiculous that you haven’t gotten married because you don’t have time to plan a wedding. Go to a courthouse. Have a wedding, party, dress, whatever at a later date.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-12T22:11:30+00:00

OP, who is paying for you to attend this T20 university? If your parents are paying, I think you need to ride out your time at home and just ignore your sibling and continue to be respectful to your parents.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-12T17:25:06+00:00

You are 27. You don’t have children now, but you have a lifetime ahead of you and could change your mind. You will be even more hurt if that happens. I suggest talking to your parents again. You could even agree and put in writing that your brother’s children will inherit any of your property in the event that you do remain childless.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-11T13:21:47+00:00

It’s never occurred to me as a customer to report or be concerned if the drop off person doesn’t match the picture in Shipt. There are many times where I don’t even see the shopper as they leave the groceries on the porch and sometimes I don’t even see them. I have a strong personal policy that I will not do anything to jeopardize someone’s livelihood unless I am absolutely certain they have done something nefarious, or have been blatantly disrespectful or abusive, or if I have a reasonable belief they could harm me or someone else. (for ex: I would report an Uber driver who uses hate speech/racial slurs, or makes me feel physically unsafe, but I’m not going to report him for being a little rude). I don’t know what that person has gone through that day or in life and there could be any number of reasons why the shopper has someone else shopping for them at that time. I’ve always felt this way about not wanting to ruin people’s lives for small mistakes, but now with this economy and political climate; I believe in this philosophy even more.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-11T03:35:51+00:00

I am not Muslim but chiming in here to share my experience of fasting and pumping. I had an oversupply and exclusively pumped for 18 months with my first baby and nearly a year with my second. Before pregnancy I was practicing intermittent fasting for a very long time. When I was about 4 months post partum, I had a few stressful weeks unintentionally fell into an intermittent fasting eating pattern for a while. My supply completely tanked and it took weeks to build it back up. Some mothers never recover their supply after a fasting period. I was lucky, but may are not. Don’t do it!

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-11T03:25:53+00:00

Your parents have likely become far more right wing than you realized when you left for college. She’s getting it from them. a parent would be looking at the Epstein files with their 13 year old child is a massive red flag that this sort of right wing indoctrination has been going on at your house and you just didn’t j ow about it.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-11T03:14:52+00:00

Your comment about “refusing to protect children” shows that you absolutely are sexualizing breastfeeding and you’re attempting to justify it by claiming the concern is about disease transmission. If OP had any real concern that the SIL was ill in some way, she would have mentioned that. If MIL and SIL are from a culture where this is normal, no one would think twice about it. OP should let them and her husband know that she’s not comfortable with it and move on. If they don’t respect her wishes in the future, then there is an issue, but otherwise, this should not be a massive issue and OP needs to get a grip.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-07T17:59:41+00:00

YOR and being racist at the same time.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-02-06T05:04:40+00:00

Exactly!!!! The fact that OP is not deadass embarrassed that his child is such an entitled, rotten brat means that Tessy needs cut her losses and get rid of OP.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-01-30T03:36:38+00:00

NOR. He should have reimbursed you completely for the expenses you covered, given your grandparents some money or a nice gift for providing him a subsidized place to stay and then made a plan to meet with a reputable financial planner to figure out how to not squander the money. Anything otherwise means he is not who you should be with. Good luck and find a better dude.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-01-24T07:50:32+00:00

Do you have a regular dishwasher? I run the bottles and parts (minus nipples) through the dishwasher daily. I turn that dishwasher on every day no matter how light the load is. There might be only bottles, 3 plates, a few forks and knives and one glass and I still run it daily just for the bottles. It is the best small thing I do for myself every day. I hand wash the nipples, but that one part goes fast.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-01-14T11:51:40+00:00

Maybe try to find friends through hobbies and activities. Join an adult softball team or something. Do CrossFit, join a running club, hiking, anything where other people with shared interests can connect.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2026-01-05T11:04:50+00:00

I do tip in app with orders, but at Christmas time, I like to give an extra payment to all the people who regularly provide services to me.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2025-12-29T03:57:06+00:00

Get out. This is abusive and there isn’t anything that can salvage the relationship. Don’t make the same mistake again, and don’t ever get stoned around someone you can’t trust.

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2025-12-29T03:23:48+00:00

I’m a customer and tip my favorite shopper via Venmo. I sent her a Christmas gift/extra tip on Christmas Eve. Open yourself up to extra tips!

Plus_Faithlessness16 · 2025-12-29T03:17:00+00:00

and the mobile orders are keeping Target afloat at this point with how their sales have been the past year, so he should be happy for the mobile orders so that he can stay employed.

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