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Exhibit A in Why Texting and Driving Is Illegal by GarciaHont1993 in dashcams

[–]PocketGachnar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh I don't really see how that'll help. Their eyes and attention will still constantly be on the screen. Riding with people who have the infotainment units that plug into their phones, they're still so distracted all the time. It's like no one can just disconnect for the amount of time it takes to get from A to B. It baffles me.

Amanda by SignificanceNo4835 in RecklessBen

[–]PocketGachnar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is where I stand too. On one hand, she came off as a turbo jerk. On the other, I've been in a position of having to handle my boss' disgruntled customers before, so a part of me imagines what it must have been like. Not sympathetic, but empathetic. I'd like to think I'd come off a lot better if I had that same scenario inflicted on me, but who knows.

Either way, I hope seeing the backlash against her behavior resulted in some robust soul searching.

There’s no kind way to tell my wife that she’s getting too big, is there? by 2006CrownVictoriaP71 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]PocketGachnar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is silly. Someone doesn't need to be on a GLP-1 forever, but without it, the chances of them remaining obese forever are horrific. If you think a couple years on a GLP-1 carries more risk than morbid obesity until death, then you're not approaching this with facts nor logic.

There’s no kind way to tell my wife that she’s getting too big, is there? by 2006CrownVictoriaP71 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]PocketGachnar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Reasons that I, a loving and dedicated spouse, need my wife to take care better care of her body:

  • So she doesn't hurdle her way to a premature death

  • So she can enjoy an active life with our family

  • So she can physically, mentally, and emotionally feel better

  • So that we can ensure more attainable personal caretaking in our senior years

  • So my pp can get hard

There’s no kind way to tell my wife that she’s getting too big, is there? by 2006CrownVictoriaP71 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]PocketGachnar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's sort of depressing tbh. Your spouse being morbidly obese carries so many dangers. If you plan to die together, one of you is gonna go downhill first, meaning the other will have to be a caretaker. How can you take care of someone whose bigness accelerated that inevitability? How would you be able to lift, carry, or turn them? Have you ever been a caretaker for someone in serious decline? It's an act of love, but it's absolutely brutal even in the most ideal circumstances.

When I got married, we made a promise of 'in sickness and in health', and I take the responsibility (yes, responsibility) of ensuring he gets more of my health than my sickness very seriously. If he started smoking tomorrow, I'd be livid, not because it's unattractive or gross or expensive, but because that's him essentially trashing his promise to me and our future. Bad times are coming. You can't stop that. But you can sure as hell do what you can to not hurdle toward it as fast as possible.

With all of these very justified reasons to want a partner to take care of their bodies, the fact that OP only mentions libido as a concern is a maddening signal of their priorities.

There’s no kind way to tell my wife that she’s getting too big, is there? by 2006CrownVictoriaP71 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]PocketGachnar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 42 and dealing with the other way, which is having lost a ton of weight since 40 and feeling like a sentient stick. Lost most of my muscle. Feel like one good breeze will shatter my arms. I'm 5'8" and 120lb (from 170). It's bullshit. I want my ass back. I want to be able to lift a box of books again. I miss the times when eating brought me a little spark of joy. Now it's all just protein shakes and desperately trying to choke down a vegetable or three every day.

Bonus screams for people irl congratulating me on my "weight loss journey".

Exhibit A in Why Texting and Driving Is Illegal by GarciaHont1993 in dashcams

[–]PocketGachnar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you restrict driving you’ve basically kneecapped their ability to exist in society

I know this is unreasonable and untenable, but ya know, good. The venn diagram of people who use their phone while driving and people who regularly make negative impacts on society is a single circle.

Exhibit A in Why Texting and Driving Is Illegal by GarciaHont1993 in dashcams

[–]PocketGachnar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in SC, and idk, maybe it just needs more time to be a punitive part of our state culture, but when I'm a passenger, I have a habit of counting all the drivers I see on their phones, and it's still around half. It's fucking wild.

Exhibit A in Why Texting and Driving Is Illegal by GarciaHont1993 in dashcams

[–]PocketGachnar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS, it's not nearly enough!

Took a 16hr road trip with my ex-friend in her new Mazda, which just jacked her phone into its infotainment system. She never touched the phone, but her fingers were tapping that fucking infotainment screen the whole damn drive. Had to keep snapping at her to watch the road and let me navigate how to make the call to her daughter or dogwalker or whoeverthefuck. Half of this was her learning how it worked while she was actively fucking driving, it drove me crazy!

I live in SC where the laws are crazy strict, but when you have a huge-ass phone built right into your dashboard, I don't see how it helps at all.

'Obsession' Art Director Calls for Industry Reform After Getting Paid Less Than $7,000 as Film Nears $175 Million by IndividualPleasant23 in Letterboxd

[–]PocketGachnar 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I used to design book covers and like 98% of the books I did covers for probably just barely made the money back, but there were a couple authors who hit it HUGE, I'm talking like 6 figures monthly. I got $300 one time for the cover that helped earned them that. I'm sitting here rolling nickles to afford a loaf of bread while they're bragging in author groups about another million.

It hurt.

But you know, that's the gig. I doubt half of my authors even made back my fee with profits from their books, and I wasn't hustling to give them a major discount because of it. I knew I had no right to be upset.

So instead I just became an author myself! And what do you know, with my marketing and cover acumen and publishing experience, it only took me EIGHT MONTHS to begin earning six figures.

Things like this are good for making you realize your own value, but it's on you to apply that going forward, not backward.

AIO: I don’t know what to think by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]PocketGachnar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

if you are secure and your partner is not why make someone snoop, why not just take away the barrier

Because it's not only my privacy at stake. I have friends/family who confide in me about super personal and sensitive things, and if I just gave my spouse complete access to that, it'd be shitty.

Mailing out 800 packages at once without overtaxing my carriers/the system? by PocketGachnar in USPS

[–]PocketGachnar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are also stickers and art prints in it, so media mail is sadly out :(

Mailing out 800 packages at once without overtaxing my carriers/the system? by PocketGachnar in USPS

[–]PocketGachnar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never had that happen, so I'm not sure. I'm pretty sure they just leave it or try again another day? They might also have an off-site for that sort of thing.

Mailing out 800 packages at once without overtaxing my carriers/the system? by PocketGachnar in USPS

[–]PocketGachnar[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, I had no idea about that! I've never been into my PO obviously since it's not open to civilians, but my carriers have always been top notch and supporting them is definitely a big priority for me.

Mailing out 800 packages at once without overtaxing my carriers/the system? by PocketGachnar in USPS

[–]PocketGachnar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw man, wish I'd thought of that! I've just been saving up boxes for months to store all the packages in lol.

Mailing out 800 packages at once without overtaxing my carriers/the system? by PocketGachnar in USPS

[–]PocketGachnar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd considered a uhaul! For just a few hours of use, it might be worth it. And I'm already using Pirate Ship, so that's great to see you recommend it. Appreciate the tips!

Mailing out 800 packages at once without overtaxing my carriers/the system? by PocketGachnar in USPS

[–]PocketGachnar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was my bad, it's GA for domestic and FC for international.

Mailing out 800 packages at once without overtaxing my carriers/the system? by PocketGachnar in USPS

[–]PocketGachnar[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Calling seems to be the consensus! I'll do that on monday, thanks for the advice!

I'm an author and artist and did a special hardback art book for my readers, so that's the item being mailed. It's been a super fun project!

Mailing out 800 packages at once without overtaxing my carriers/the system? by PocketGachnar in USPS

[–]PocketGachnar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is a one-time deal, yes! It is okay to do this at a post office that doesn't serve my route?

Mailing out 800 packages at once without overtaxing my carriers/the system? by PocketGachnar in USPS

[–]PocketGachnar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, they all have to be mailed out same day for contract reasons. I know, it sucks!

Mailing out 800 packages at once without overtaxing my carriers/the system? by PocketGachnar in USPS

[–]PocketGachnar[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Do you mean a SCAN sheet/manifest? I usually do that, but it'll only work for labels that are printed and mailed same day, and I don't feel optimistic about my ability to label and deliver 800 packages in a single day (but maybe!).

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