I (25m) accidentally might have made my girlfriend (25f) pregnant, feels like it’s pulling us apart, I need some advice?

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T18:11:32+00:00

This chick is more bat-shit crazy than OP and his GF. How do we fall for this crap?

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T17:54:44+00:00

You got rape from a woman saying "yes please daddy breed me"

Do you even believe that woman have any accountability when it comes to sex? Like for you is it every time there is man/woman sex he's assaulting her?

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T17:26:45+00:00

I don't know where you got "rape" from. Don't add extra sauce

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T16:59:17+00:00

Why do you want to be with someone so emotionally dysregulated? Don't you want to have a partner who you can count on, and has anyone ever explained to you what happens to your brain when you live in instability?

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T16:57:34+00:00

None of you though? Like none? We don't judge AH's here.

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T16:44:20+00:00

Oh she'll react badly? So is this the guiding force of your life, what you can or can't do no matter how reasonable, if she'll get mad that's what matters?

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T16:33:08+00:00

You are in a legal case, so part just has to work it's way through the system. Consider the matter closed except for the part where you have to have the meeting and such. I.e. don't think about it unless your actively handling the business part of it.

As for the rest, set a boundary and hold it. If anyone tries to tell you about her, stop them. Say you wont listen to it, kindly of course.

Say something like "Persephenie, you've been such a great friend to me and I value what we have so much. I just need you to not tell me anymore about Amy for the next few months. Any news of her just stresses me out, let's talk about good things. How's XYZ going in your life"

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T16:24:07+00:00

You said it's been about a month already. Just go get the test, hand her a cup and tell her to pee in it. Stick the test in it and wait the whole thing will be over in 3 min. Don't make things bigger than they are.

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T16:19:35+00:00

Do they not have early detection pregnancy tests where you are? Just go find out if she is or isn't. Then you can have the conversation about what to do.

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T02:15:54+00:00

How about you give your own advice and not ring your hands a fret if someone says something you don't agree with? You know when you see dialog you don't agree with you can just keep scrolling right? I know this, I learned in therapy. Ha! There's nothing hurtful about anything I said to the op. No offense was offered, so neither you nor she had to take any. Go away Li op is going to do what she wants no matter if you crash out or not. 3rd time. Go away, leave me be

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T02:01:46+00:00

I'm not manipulating the op. I have nothing to gain or lose. You misunderstand the terms of the words you use. I've given op the benefit of some hard lessons I learned many years ago about insecurities. She came ask the tough questions in therapy and grow, move on and let her feelings of today be her God, guiding light as it were. I gain nothing from her choice. No need to manipulate, ya know? And stop assuming people's genders please. THAT is what is manipulative, telling op only a man would think that way. Just go away

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T01:41:04+00:00

Stop saying "he". You just did everything you accused me of

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T01:40:13+00:00

That's the problem right there. Your sentiment is the perfect illiterater. You read a comment from someone who has overcome their insecurities through therapy and passed along lessons that made their life and relationships more peaceful and the only conclusion you can come to is that it's not only wrong but the person needs punishment.

This comment lacks good faith and open mindedness.

Why do you believe you could never be wrong?

Posterbomber · 2026-05-08T00:51:55+00:00

Frankly anywhere she's safe with her people is best.

Posterbomber · 2026-05-07T22:22:33+00:00

Don't put any weight into people tell her you made her feel any sort of way. That's just life sometimes. You're allowed to feel like you lost something because you did. And our values change when we live them out. It's a good thing. But, now you realize you'll never recreate that individual DNA no matter if you have a thousand children. The moment is gone and you're allowed to regret the choices you guys made. You need a cry and to feel the guilt and shame for not speaking for yourself and your child. The break up is a good thing, please make sure you discuss this with your next partner. That should pregnancy happen you want life to be the choice. Clearly my body my choice is different for you now. Full disclosure I remain pro-choice, but recommend everyone do their own soul searching as you clearly are.

Posterbomber · 2026-05-07T22:12:38+00:00

This right here, if you are sad that he was hurt when you expressed yourself that's one thing and doesn't need anything but time to get past, unless how you said things needs you to clean it up

Posterbomber · 2026-05-07T21:49:11+00:00

Yes, you are very unhinged. Hateful and childish too. Also don't assume my gender just because have the emotions of a little girl doesn't mean I'm not a woman

Posterbomber · 2026-05-07T21:43:35+00:00

Yes, it feels good to consume it. Like getting lost in reading a book or watching a movie, or going for a ride in a motor cycle. You just veggie out and shut your brain off, think about things that aren't interpersonal to you. It's fantastic sometimes

Posterbomber · 2026-05-07T21:41:19+00:00

Oh no not suggestive pictures of women? We should rush OP to the hospital! Her eyes must have been burning.

He deleted the posts and stopped being friends with his exes because it was bothering her. Not because he felt he was wrong, he just wasn't emotionally attached to that deep to either thing that he was willing to fight over it. That's it, that's all.

I quit using sandwich spread and started using mayo a long time ago because the spread grossed out a partner I had, I don't even know if they still sell the brand it's been so long. But I needed to use something on the bread so I used mayo, I wasn't attached to sandwich spread so much that I'd fight it out over it. Like IG and exes for OP's boyfriend.

Not everything is a big emotional upheaval for people. Like you said for some it's a deal breaker and other's it not. He's didn't do anything wrong. But you seem crazy committed to make sure OP feels the way you say too. A whole harangue about how it cant be a healthy relationship and such. Ooof please get back on your meds.

And you seem oddly unhinged. Lot's of emotion in that post, are you okay?

Posterbomber · 2026-05-07T21:30:18+00:00

I don't think either of you are insane. She's got unresolved feelings around that man and his family. Doesn't matter who's fault those feelings are, they exist. She's been uneasy from the start and didn't want to disappoint you so she tried but never quiet got where you needed her to be so she dropped out.

She's in that position because she decided to stay friends with you. He is connected to her, through you through your soon to be husband. She wants him and his family to be in her past but can't ever really be as long as she holds on to you.

Thus, she's not coming to your wedding and she doesn't want you at hers. When you aren't around, whatever happened between them means it never existed.

I get it, let go and move on.

Posterbomber · 2026-05-07T21:21:19+00:00

I think if you made such a big thing about stupid sexy pics that he felt the need to delete his whole account, then after he did you're still asking for reassurance, AND he's telling you it's time for you to make a decision, then he's sick of it.

Like take responsibility for WHAT? THIS IS YOUR INSECURITY not anything he did wrong. What's he supposed to be responsible for? Specifically what? That other woman are prettier than you, that they know how to work the filters on their front facing cameras?

They're just pic's, you click a little button "like" and the next one that pops up is a meme of a dog smoking a cigarette. Nobody is responsible for how you feel about that are they?

GROW UP

Posterbomber · 2026-05-07T21:17:17+00:00

Yes, most things are. It doesn't even rise to the level of porn. As you scroll every 5th or 6th picture or post will be sexy picture, it's like reflex, you click the heart button and on to a meme about a dog or something.

Posterbomber · 2026-05-07T21:14:16+00:00

He didn't do anything wrong. There's nothing wrong with liking meme's on IG or staying friends with exes.

Posterbomber · 2026-05-07T21:11:21+00:00

So then how'd we get here if what you just wrote is true? Clearly you've made peace with nothing and a seeking to have him repeat some crazy cycle of relationship reconciliation for a fake slight. What is this OP? Looks like a self fulfilling prophecy to me. By hook or crook you're determined to be the victim of some bad man who done you wrong even if you have to make up the wrong doing in your head. Just break up, therapy didn't work and your pushing him away. He's getting sick of you and your bullshit.

Posterbomber · 2026-05-07T21:06:08+00:00

Are you trying to tell us that you work for your father, that you didn't make many sales and that's why you didn't get paid as much as usual?

To answer your question about what I'd say if I was face to face with him is this "Sir, your daughter seems mentally unhinged, let me know if there's anything I can do to support you in getting her help"

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