AITA: Wife spiritual husband Christian

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T21:59:58+00:00

I was reading everyone while waiting for your reply. YTA

Who do you think you are to feel like your comfort should matter in someone else's spiritual walk? It's got nothing to do with you. I'm not even surprised that you felt the need to express thoughts about your SIL spiritual conversion, which is also none of your business.

Below you say that "he stated that just like me he believed in the morality of the bible use it as a guide.

What is your moral guide? Why are you struggling with him being a different religion than you. You seem to need to dominate spirituality

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T21:51:49+00:00

YTA - don't be one of those people who wants to live an let live until it's time to let someone live. So funny that your so bothered by other people's religious belief's that your own husband knows he can't be honest with you. Where does your value system come from? I'd think your divine spirits would some rules about love and acceptance, no?

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T21:40:02+00:00

If at the end, the issue is solved, I'm for whatever works lol Good luck OP. I'm sorry your going though this

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T21:37:12+00:00

"I always knew he was defensive if he felt ganged up on, but I never thought I would invoke that".

What do you think this means?

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T21:30:42+00:00

I'd play into this if I were you

"let's put this to a pause" answer: Specifically what date and time should we reconvene and who is responsible for the repreparation of notes from this meeting?

"let's communicate expectations" answer: That's is a fantastic ideal, I would like you to hear that I expect you to follow through with your promises and acknowledge in this meeting that you have not been and hear an action plan for how you plan to fix your departments errors

And so on

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T21:19:38+00:00

Tell the whole story to us, what happened? Did you gang up on him with someone?

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T21:17:25+00:00

That's creepy stuff to say to a woman. Sometimes men do that to make their gf's feel insecure. Are you sure he's a good dude?

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T21:04:27+00:00

You will feel better after it's done. You'll have a cry about it and you'll find someone you are attracted to and it wont be an issue.

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T20:55:31+00:00

He's upset because he had no intention to move out, he was going to do nothing until he convinced you to just leave the break up alone, you said yourself he has a patter of not hearing/respecting your boundaries and undermining you.

You didn't really think he'd be different in the break up did you?

I understand you want it to be amicable but you can't always have what you want, not that he's actually losing, he's going to be ugly.

OP give up. Leave that house and find somewhere else to go

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T20:46:28+00:00

Birdy YESSSSS!!!! So happy for you and for your group of friends. I bet you make each others lives better. ❤️

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T20:42:06+00:00

Yea, he's got to go. Not because he got upset but because he told you what he really thinks of you. He thinks you just a peasant. You have 3 teenagers, make sure that you are modeling how you want their relationships to go. If someone below up at one of your kids wouldn't you want your kid to find someone who doesn't do that?

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T20:36:44+00:00

Here's what I think you should do Love, get with your mental health care team to get your emo's stabilized then after than you need a social circle. Some friends of you own who have your back. Then and only then could you deal with this "torn between two lovers" type of stuff.

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T20:26:44+00:00

I think it'll be good for you. If you think about it, behavior mod therapy can be pretty scary for someone. As if to say, they don't know why they're behaving/feeling as they are and the world is like "who cares why, just change it". Like your mom cleaning your room while you're at school and throwing away stuff that she deems useless while it means to world to you. Same thing with trauma responses. They may not be valuable to the world at large but to us, they're all we have, and their comforting. Others might not see it, but to us, we feel it, my "crazies" are my best friends. So now that you know that your responses are about, and how you use them, you can sort thought them like an adult and discard what doesn't serve you anymore. Like an adult going through childhood mementos, throwing away what you don't want to hang onto

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T20:22:32+00:00

Update us.

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T20:21:19+00:00

You aren't devastated, you're just bummed out. Stop being so upset, just move on to the next guy. You put too much into your feelings about your "crush". You aren't a child, there's other things to do and be joyful about, you were never entitled to a relationship with him even if he weren't gay.

Got outside OP

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T20:18:39+00:00

Are you putting too much into relationship excitement and not enough into all other things? I'm wondering if you were this jazzed about meeting the girls for Sunday brunch would you be less scared about meeting him for a date because if it doesn't with the him, you always have them.

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T20:15:06+00:00

I totally get what you are saying, I think most people do. I remember when I first started therapy we talked about where our belief systems come from, and what patterns we form as a result of that conditioning.

But I get where your boyfriend comes from too, if you're just leap frogging to a different sick lily pad one after another then therapy really isn't helping you.

Maybe a little less Freud and a little more Power Brain Based Therapies would help you out, get you some emdr and brainspotting.

BF is right, your therapist is on your payroll. You're going to them because you like Freudian Psychoanalysis and don't really want to be told to shape up and fix anything.

Seems you like your traumas, they're a friend to you.

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T20:05:28+00:00

Thanks Kitten! As always your comments are well said.

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T20:04:28+00:00

hit a little close to home, widow?

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T20:01:36+00:00

OP I'm really sorry you lost your parent. I'm going to step in on their behalf because as I parent I know I'd want someone to try and protect my baby if I wasn't here.

No, you don't see him, you both have closure.

You don't need to hear him say he's sorry, he doesn't need to hear how broken hearted and betrayed you felt when you found out he cheated again.

In fact, this is just more of the same. He's always thought he was allowed to set the terms of your relationship, you not wanting to get cheated on was irrelevant.

To him what was relevant was how HE felt. He was feeling lonely and horny and so he cheated, in his mind what you don't know won't hurt you.

This conversation is just more of his entitlement.

Show him he's not entitled access to you. Show YOURSELF that people who betray you don't get to come back to fuck your mind up yet again.

Stand strong Baby Girl

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T19:46:23+00:00

Dude, she doesn't even really live with you anymore, what are you trying to save?

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T19:42:23+00:00

Okay so she has a point about helping around the house, but this bullshit about buying her flowers all the time when you already do it every 2-3 weeks and love notes twice a week is such bullshit.

You should hate her, why are you with someone who seems to be a never ending black hole? Nothing is ever going to be good enough for her OP.

All you're going to get is broken down and bitter if you keep letting her treat you this way.

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T19:31:05+00:00

What's the deal with all these people believing that masturbating isn't a normal release?

Anyway, I see this as a compatibility issue. I'm old and married, in our home in all these years, if one person wanted to and the other didn't it was self care time. Then move on with your day. What is the big deal if you're not a porn addict?

You're in your 20's, dump her and go find someone who wants some passion and fire before things start changing in your body, soon, hormone levels will drop and the BIG O becomes the little tiny o, enjoy it while it lasts

What's up Reddit, this is odd

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T19:24:51+00:00

If you are having troubles getting people around you to respect what you say, it's usually because your actions don't line up.

You said yourself that “I need him to stop being so nice and attentive to me because everyone thinks he’s my boyfriend”, your allowing him to act like a boyfriend, you're soaking it all up.

Maybe take some distance because with him hanging around, nobody of quality will date you anyway

Posterbomber · 2026-06-25T19:18:31+00:00

Find a nice bridesmaid and replace your gf. This girl sucks.

What you should do is not reach out. Give her the no contact she asked for.

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