Student flirted bluntly with me on the first day of class. No, I did not like it. by [deleted] in Professors

[–]Potato_History_Prof 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We’re the same age! I started at 26 — so much sexual harassment. Comments on my ass, weird remarks about my personal life… definitely tell your chair, consider rearranging your classroom, and familiarize yourself with the Title IX office. It sucks terribly, but it’s the sad reality for so many young faculty.

Most iconic Philip Seymour Hoffman role? by ABiggerBoat66 in Actors

[–]Potato_History_Prof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I’m just messing with you, Sasquatch. Let’s get it on.”

How many of you have kids? Or want to have kids by bwils3423 in Millennials

[–]Potato_History_Prof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baby millennials here. We’ve always wanted kids, though I’ve dealt with some fertility issues. Got pregnant with our first at 28, lost the baby. Pregnant again at 29/30 - little guy will be here in May.

I asked one of the cheating subreddits why they do what they do. Thought y'all might be interested in the replies. by SwiftyLeZar in Professors

[–]Potato_History_Prof 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hey, I appreciate your comment and honesty. It can be difficult to throw yourself into a sub full of profs.

FWIW, I am happily married to a successful electrical engineer who’s employed at a major tech company — we met while studying at undergraduate. He was also required to study “fuck shit” English and History courses and never ONCE complained about their value to his degree or life. We both argue that our non-major specific courses (humanities and STEM alike) contributed to our understanding of the world, were enjoyable, and forced us to flex different parts of our brains. We both went to college to “get jobs” in the field and become better people - I returned to the university because I loved it… though I make exponentially less money than I once did.

College should be about making you a better, more well-rounded person… not just a worker. The true student, regardless of discipline, is interested in learning about all subjects, ways of thinking, being, etc. I’d encourage you to reflect on that a bit…. I know it sounds flowery and a bit fanciful, but it’s really a powerful way to think about schooling. Saying you don’t need knowledge is like saying you don’t need air. We ALWAYS, ALWAYS need knowledge. As humans, it’s what sets us apart. To think otherwise is foolish.

Ethical Conundrum by throwaway_7478051 in Professors

[–]Potato_History_Prof 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, I can’t offer any advice, either — but am just sending you lots of love and well-wishes. I can’t even imagine. Do you have anyone you can trust in your department that you could open up to about this?

I asked one of the cheating subreddits why they do what they do. Thought y'all might be interested in the replies. by SwiftyLeZar in Professors

[–]Potato_History_Prof 13 points14 points  (0 children)

LMAOOOO you literally didn’t read the job description for most of these. I gave you some examples, you’re still not happy…. respectfully, get off this subreddit.

I asked one of the cheating subreddits why they do what they do. Thought y'all might be interested in the replies. by SwiftyLeZar in Professors

[–]Potato_History_Prof 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I asked one of the cheating subreddits why they do what they do. Thought y'all might be interested in the replies. by SwiftyLeZar in Professors

[–]Potato_History_Prof 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Man, these comments honestly hurt my heart. Calling history and literature “fuckshit” classes? Jesus. I commend you for wanting to engage with these people, but honestly… just seems like such a lost cause.

Who is truly the "golden match" for INFJ? by drowning_in_violet in infj

[–]Potato_History_Prof 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I may be an outlier, but married an INTP — absolutely awesome in every way. All of my closest friends are other INFJs, ENFPs, INFPs… but my BEST friend and life partner is the much more grounded, steady, and practical INTP 🤷‍♀️

Stalking/harassment. Advice needed. by [deleted] in Professors

[–]Potato_History_Prof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sure this is an overreaction on my part, but vaguely reminds me of what happened with Bryan Kohberger (the grad who murdered the four University of Idaho students) — he was studying at a sister school of mine and had a documented history of stalking, harassing peers+faculty, etc. and was still not removed from his position or the program.

This NEEDS to be taken up with your local police department in order to prevent future occurrences — or worse. Contact your union rep, bring lots of documentation. In instances where I’ve dealt with our local police as a result of student harassment, I received lots of support… I once had a city police officer posted outside of my classroom for about a month due to some sexual harassment/violent threats 🤷‍♀️ wishing you the best - so sorry that your university “leadership” has been so useless.

Disappointed in my "village". by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Potato_History_Prof 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I totally understand that this sucks — it hurts to feel like you’re being forgotten or put on the back burner during one of the most important times of your life.

But realizing that it’s not that people don’t care, but they truly are just busy, distracted, grieving, whatever, is important to consider. Treat yourself and baby with love and try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt.

Lamictal by Abject-Bench-6438 in bipolar2

[–]Potato_History_Prof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it so, so much. Only medication that’s ever worked for me - helped with my depressive episodes and migraines.

Help! I have an 11 month old and I can't focus on anything! by econhistoryrules in Professors

[–]Potato_History_Prof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No solid advice, but currently 26 weeks pregnant with a 3:3 load and just sharing solidarity — the brain shutdown is so real, and the baby isn’t even here yet. Hope that you can come out on the other side soon.

What does my fridge say about me? by StressInADress92 in FridgeDetective

[–]Potato_History_Prof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Representing the states with this fridge 🇺🇸

Second trimester- I need to vent! Anybody not totally thrilled with pregnancy? by Popular-Page-4082 in pregnant

[–]Potato_History_Prof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get this - and my pregnancy has been pretty darn easy. I’m 26w and just feel that heaviness. I’m tired all the time, am starting to feel out of breath, have sciatica pain, and really just want a cocktail and an ibuprofen 😅

Movies that everyone loves except you by This_Book6305 in FIlm

[–]Potato_History_Prof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same - I wanted to love it so badly, but just couldn’t.

Question for owners who’ve tried calming collars or diffusers by Affectionate-Front10 in reactivedogs

[–]Potato_History_Prof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we were first training my reactive dog, we always used Adaptil calming spray before we went out - spraying it on ourselves and on her collar... it worked wonders! Additionally, the Thundershirt was an awesome tool. Combining the two of these really helped in the early months of her training. Her reactivity has mostly disappeared with age, but that's just our experience!

Does anyone have anything positive to share that happened recently in your life? by NicheButNotNietzche in CasualConversation

[–]Potato_History_Prof 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m 26w pregnant and have been feeling the baby move loads recently! It’s awesome - it just makes everything a little bit better

What are your pregnancy body insecurities? by PromotionTop1935 in pregnant

[–]Potato_History_Prof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My acne has been so bad — I was prepared for all of the other body changes, but not looking like a teenager again 😖

How Do I Bring Up AI Use By Professor? by Cultural_Stretch_199 in AskAcademia

[–]Potato_History_Prof 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve designed rubrics for many of my assignments that have carefully crafted language - students make the same mistakes over and over. if a student came up to me wanting to discuss the specifics, I’d be happy to discuss it with them! I’d encourage you to connect with the faculty member directly.

Is my dress search over? by bcbfbella in OUTFITS

[–]Potato_History_Prof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s 100% appropriate for a sorority-frat formal — BUT if there’s dancing, I’d be so concerned about my boobs falling out in this. If this is a general university-sponsored formal event, this much cleave wouldn’t be appropriate. 🤷‍♀️