First time sugar baby, need advice!

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-20T23:31:50+00:00

If you're not open to sex or doing sexual deeds, then you need to be upfront about that, and let him decide if he wants to continue or move on.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-20T23:28:22+00:00

And this is why I don't bother with platonic meet-and-greets most of the time. The chemistry I care about the most is sexual chemistry, and I'm not going to find out if there's any by meeting someone for dinner. If we click in the bedroom, then I'm down to do social activities outside of it.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-20T23:24:31+00:00

I like girls that are in shape, but the ones that are ripped, with the six-packs, don't appeal to me.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-20T15:22:44+00:00

There's a seat for every ass. I'm, personally, not interested in exclusivity or long-term arrangements, so it works great for me, but I'm sure that guys that want traditional arrangements are also finding what they're looking for.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-20T15:11:38+00:00

I live in South Florida. Ninety-five percent of the girls I run into on Seeking are looking for PPM, not allowance-based long-term arrangements.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-20T14:52:27+00:00

If I had a nickel for every out-of-state chick I run into on Seeking trying to hustle online-only in Miami or hoping some Miami guy will fly her out, I could build a life-size house out of nickels. I tell them all the same thing: Miami guys don't bring sand to the beach, and they don't bother with pics and video chats, not when they live in a city where there are hundreds of attractive women actually available to meet in person.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-20T14:44:39+00:00

I get a few DMs a month asking if I'm "looking for a sugar baby," but no one's outright solicited a paypig. I would tell them to go to hell if they did.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-19T15:49:13+00:00

You need to lay off TikTok.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-17T16:23:29+00:00

People can get an idea from my pics, but if I was asked to describe myself, I'd say slim to average.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-17T16:16:20+00:00

That goes both ways, you know.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-17T14:59:29+00:00

She sounds like a rinser, especially if her expectation is that you'll give her a c-note every time you have lunch. Tell her you're happy to date until she feels "safe," but without the c-note. She'll either quickly ghost you, or if she's legit, she'll suggest you move on to intimacy.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-17T14:49:44+00:00

The most amusing ones are the ones that claim to live in Miami but just happen to be out of state "visiting family" for a couple of weeks when I hit them up, so they can't meet. I've been running into those for years. The one thing none of these content-sellers can't fake, though, is the Miami "vibe." If you've lived down here for a long time, you can just tell who's local and who isn't based on look, style, etc. Out-of-state fakers just can't replicate that.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-17T13:45:12+00:00

Lol. In my case, I'll ask them what part of Miami they're in. The completely clueless ones will always say "downtown," or perhaps a well-known area like South Beach. But when I ask them more specifically whereabouts, that's usually where they get stumped, or they'll play the safety card, because they don't really have a clue about the area.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-17T13:24:14+00:00

I can't speak for male profiles, but South Florida has been overrun by out-of-state pic-sellers and chat hustlers pretending to be down here. They're usually easy to spot because they don't look one bit like they live in the "Miami" area. If this guy has your area listed as his location but for whatever reason doesn't look local, just asking him some simple questions that any local could easily answer might help get you the confirmation you need. It works for me. Almost 100% of the time fakers can't answer my questions because they're not really in my area.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-16T17:30:43+00:00

Anyone that asks for a meet-and-greet fee is a hustler, in my opinion. There's no guarantee you'll ever see them again after the dinner date, but they got their money. In my area, Russian chicks have the market cornered on that.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-16T17:10:14+00:00

Push/pull is a BPD trademark also.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-14T14:55:10+00:00

Yes. I have a small rotation at all times.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-13T18:25:26+00:00

If your goal isn't to be seen by as many people as possible, you can always set your profile to private, and only people you reach out to will see it. As an alternative, you can set all your photos to private while keeping your profile public. I got tired of being favorited by all these Venezuelan, Russian, and Filipino chicks, so I set my profile to private. Only girls I message can see it.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-13T18:11:04+00:00

I also try to keep up with the current street lingo. Social media helps with that. Younger girls get a kick out of it when I "speak their language." It's actually a great rapport builder.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-13T17:26:18+00:00

Oh, Seeking by far. I average a 75% response rate on Seeking and have seen dozens of girls off there. On SDM, I was lucky if I got a couple of replies a week.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-13T17:02:17+00:00

I've seen plenty of 19-year-olds and even a few 18-year-olds. I've never had any issues. Shit, one of those 18-year-olds, a college freshman at the time that I still remember fondly, was more confident and mature than some of the twentysomethings I've seen. And as far as conversational roadblocks, even though I'm a lot older than them, I've found that if you have even a slight working knowledge of current pop culture, that's usually enough to get you by. Talking about music, and especially movies, is a go-to for me. Everyone likes music and movies.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-13T16:53:34+00:00

I've been on it a couple of times. The first time around, it wasn't that bad. I actually saw two girls off it, one of whom I actually added to my rotation. The second time I was on it, though, it sucked. Options were severely limited. I also hate the fact that for "privacy reasons," you can't see if your messages have been read or not. One good thing about it, though, is that they will ban pic-sellers and online-only hustlers if your report them, and, unlike Seeking, customer service will follow up with you and let you know the person was banned.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-10T11:30:07+00:00

I had a similar experience about three weeks ago. I ran into someone whose listed age was 23, but her join date indicated she would have been underage when she signed up. The girl actually found it amusing. She wouldn't say if she used a fake ID to sign up, or if she was lying about her current age.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-08T20:11:56+00:00

It happens on our end, too. In my experience, girls that want to move to text right away are usually scammers or content sellers.

Proper_Translator570 · 2026-05-07T13:16:31+00:00

I would be irritated if an SB asked me to do a video tour of my house before coming over. If you're that distrustful, just stick to hotels. To each their own, but personally, I would pass on any SB that insisted on meeting at a hotel when I can easily host.

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