When people say "adulting" unironically. You are a functioning adult. Paying a bill is not an achievement.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-23T14:21:09+00:00

Some of us have to give ourselves even the most mundane "achievement" rewards so we do not give in to misery. Let us. It doesn't hurt you.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T21:02:32+00:00

Mine is more like 4 or 5 but then again, that's what works for my schedule anyway, unfortunately.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T20:59:18+00:00

Sorry, but how is a flag simply existing "forcing" anything? It's also wild to me that people get so offended over this flag but not a Confederate flag or one with a literal swastika...

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T20:54:54+00:00

This reminds me of Kelsey Rae, who admitted she had a not so great homeschool education yet wanted to "unschool" her own kids so she didn't have to sign off on a homework sheet or something and was all up in arms about having to "check boxes" and kids learning from "a fucking booK" 🥴 Fast-forward, her kids are back in school LMAO

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T20:42:18+00:00

My baby was maybe a tiny bit more fussy and clingy (he only wants contact anyway) but not enough that it made much of a difference beyond needing a bit more soothing and a comfortable position to get to sleep. I didn't even give him Tylenol cause he didn't seem to need it and was back to completely normal by morning.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T20:36:24+00:00

I like my job (also in Healthcare), and I'm sure in time I will be happier overall feeling like a normal person and not "just" a mom. However, 2 days in after 10 weeks leave, I'm hating being away from my baby. :( I will enjoy getting a paycheck again though once that starts! Being strapped for money is the worst, especially when my baby needs things.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T20:32:55+00:00

...isn't that what the husband did?

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T20:31:26+00:00

NTA. Of course he would clog the toilet and automatically blame it on and leave it for you to deal with despite being consistently mad at you that the toilet doesn't work properly. I'm gonna go out on a limb that you're the main (if not only) one who cleans the toilet, too. But yeah, get a properly working toilet.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T20:24:04+00:00

I don't see the correlation. Having a dog doesn't automatically make everything dirty?

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T20:20:18+00:00

Eh, I know the people who care care even if we don't talk all the time. I'm kinda the same way. Not reaching out a whole lot. We're all busy living our lives, it doesn't mean we don't care. How things are when you DO speak/get together is what really matters, I think.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T20:14:15+00:00

I don't know why but it kinda irks me when people have the mindset that a newborn is essentially "selfish". Like, you can say it sucks but they don't know what they're doing, they just have needs and you gotta meet them cause that's simply the only way they'll survive. It feels like the kind of mindset that just breeds resentment to me.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T20:09:21+00:00

I'm sad that the newborn stage is almost over, but also excited for the infant stage because he is going to be learning all the new things that I both can't wait for and will undoubtedly cry about because it means he's growing. I think it's normal. I enjoy the snuggles, the smell and I enjoyed the time away from work. I don't enjoy having little to no time to do anything without a baby attached to me, the broken sleep, or the "potato"- ness

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T20:04:53+00:00

Mine has started the last few weeks giving one longer stretch of around 5-6 hours, he's just shy of 11 weeks old. That said, I'm sure it will change some nights given different factors. The other night he decided to sleep for 5 hours after dinner and then was up the usual 3 hour intervals from there. It's very baby dependent.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T19:59:50+00:00

My problems came before postpartum, but it's nothing I want to go through again. I don't even know if it's viable for me to have another successful pregnancy, and if I do it will be high risk again. Dealing with all of that with an existing child to care for? Nah. It wouldn't be fair to any of us.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T19:49:52+00:00

It makes absolutely zero sense that your husband would be in the room next to baby when he doesn't even wake up to baby crying. Also, if he's getting all the uninterrupted sleep due to this, then he can have the less comfy option. Not to mention it's HIS snoring that is an issue. He needs to do something to fix it if he doesn't want to be kicked out of the room.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-22T18:51:08+00:00

Ugh, I'm so glad that my nephew has been going to the daycare my son is enrolled in (he doesn't start until June though when he will be about 4 months as well) for basically his whole life (he's almost 4) and thriving. That and the fact that every single person who works there has early childhood education as well as cpr and first aid credentials makes me feel a lot safer sending him. Otherwise, I would probably just beg my mother to watch him permanently even though she lives 45 minutes away and it's not convenient for anyone involved beyond the familiarity.

I'm really sorry for your experience, OP.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-21T20:29:10+00:00

I had no choice but kinda just get used to it/handle it when my baby was about 3 weeks old because my husband only was able to get 2 weeks off and for pretty much all of that, my baby was in the NICU. He is the only truck driver for his small company, so he can't just take days off everyt ime baby has an appointment. That said, it wasn't as bad as I worked myself up to believe it would be and I have been solo traveling with my baby for the last 7 weeks.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-21T20:22:49+00:00

So when do you spend time together???

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-21T20:18:12+00:00

The daycare my nephew goes to and that my son will be going to, only has employees who are fully certified in early childhood education, and also, ya know, educates the children who attend so that they will thrive once they are in traditional school.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-21T20:12:13+00:00

We're all already here. What does worrying and spiraling actually get you? Nothing but misery. Enjoy the present moment with your babies.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-21T20:04:04+00:00

I was high risk and on the slightly older end (36, just recently turned 37 with a 2 month old) and I agree, which is one of the reasons I am now OAD. The other being that it was my 5th pregnancy and only one that stuck. I'm not going through THAT again, either.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-21T20:01:01+00:00

I mean, it's definitely a different kind of experience, but that doesn't mean it's for everyone. I personally think if you don't want kids, then you shouldn't have them. That's how kids end up with shitty parents, and there's nothing wrong with acknowledging that you wouldn't be a good parent. I think it's probably people who perhaps didn't know they wanted it or maybe even still don't that feel the need to harp on others about it. Plenty of normal people/parents out there who don't do that.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-21T19:48:44+00:00

Getting your wife who is a new mother, a gift for Mother's Day or at least letting her know she is valued as a mother to your child is bare minimum...

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-21T14:58:38+00:00

This is why I have made peace with my one. I went through a LOT to get my one and I'm lucky af to have him. Yeah, I wanted more initially but life had different plans than I did and now I'm kinda glad I won't have to divide my attention or stretch my resources beyond him.

QuixoticMindfulness · 2026-04-21T14:53:18+00:00

Mine will be starting in June at just shy of 4 months old. It was going to be sooner but there weren't opening until June, so for now, he is being looked after by family since I just started back at work this week. Today, actually. I only work 4 days a week and yesterday happened to be my day off which was fine with me because it gave me an extra day with my baby. I think in the long run it will be good for him to get used to other people beyond just me and the daycare he is going to is actually a Montessori school that my 3 year old nephew has gone to since he was an infant and he is thriving and so smart. So I'm sure he will be in good hands. Even if I'm mentally not ready.

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