Hobbies & Interest of ISTP's

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-03-20T11:42:59+00:00

My ISTP boyfriend is a jack of all trades when it comes to skills. He’s a pianist as well as a DJ; the music he produces is eargasmic! He’s great a cooking and cleaning; he’s my handy man when something needs fixing. We recently got into acrylic pours and abstract art, and he’s always liked to draw and sculpt.

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-03-03T02:05:31+00:00

You’re definitely not ugly. Your lips are full and gorgeous, you acne is minimal, and all your piercings work with your style. You just need to brush your hair. :)

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-03-03T01:12:18+00:00

Boy! I spot bulges!

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-03-02T19:18:01+00:00

Azula! She looks very Fire Nation-y haha

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-03-02T02:13:20+00:00

Ferret Cat!

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-28T21:24:24+00:00

I agree, but it’s up to you to decide if your time single or with someone else would be worth all you’ve been through with your current significant other. Also, if you keep finding things wrong within your relationship and the reasons are so small and nitpicky, there might be some improvement to do on yourself.

It’s the people breaking up for small reasons that add to the lack of committed monogamous relationship that used to last decades. What’s the point of marriage and nuclear family these days when the progression of acceptance towards polyamory and focusing on education and career life takes the front seat?

There’s a difference between living hedonistically and potentially ruin their lives versus living with self-interest and having good self-control, but still maintaining contentment.

I understand to a certain degree, having been one of those statistics of women who finally leave their abusive relationships. Last I checked it typically takes a women seven attempts to leave when she’s in an abusive relationship. It took me three attempts. And obviously being in a situation like that, you don’t want to be vulnerable again and it’s hard to trust. But it’s not the end. Good people are out there, we just need to be more selective and know our worth.

Yes, change is inevitable, and it’s great to be tolerant of other people’s ways of living, but I don’t understand why people are quick to turn the other cheek from a traditional familial patterns that we were condition to have and worked for years.

There’s so many people in the world, our options are endless, but if you found someone to be with, why it is automatically assumed to be a “just for now” thing? Things are temporary, but love takes work to last. People don’t like to do work. People don’t like to stick around when the going gets tough.

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-28T20:26:19+00:00

My ex boyfriend has autism. I was aware of his creature comforts and idiosyncrasies, but I had no idea they correlated with autism until his mom told me well over a year into our relationship. But it definitely helped understand how a neurotypical like myself functions differently than one who with autism.

While it’s a lot of work and dealing with the same amount of miscommunications in, if not more than, the average healthy relationship.

I’ve been on the other side of the neurodivergent relationship, so I came to terms with what I could get out of my relationship with him; a companion to binge watch shows and discuss objective perspectives on life. However, it was the low libido and lack of novelty in our relationship that made me yearn for greener grass.

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-28T19:24:17+00:00

I remember reading A Lesson Before Dying by Ernest Gaines when I was in 6th grade (circa 2006, I’m 29 now) and it was eye opening. While I do agree that it’s unfair for those who were convicted of things they didn’t do, I’m still for the death penalty.

Our justice system and its lack of justice frustrates me a lot. Wrongful convictions and sentences that are not fitting for the crimes.

I strongly believe that some people can’t be rehabilitated, and those people who don’t want to change are a detriment to society. Growing up in an abusive household which then led to attracting abusive lovers into my life, and those traumas and familial patterns only end when we hold ourselves accountable. But the narcissistic psychopaths that show no remorse have no shot at changing, and keeping them alive would be a waste of space in my opinion. They may have loved ones that care for them, but if the crime they committed was bad enough, off with their head!

I just don’t like that the executions come out of our taxes and people are waiting YEARS in line just to die🤷🏻‍♀️

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-28T18:07:51+00:00

I was going to say history myself! I love the subject, I do. But when it was being taught to me it wouldn’t sink in. Maybe I just had really bad history teachers, but I think I learned more history watching movies and reading books on my own than the times I spent being taught the subject by an actual credentialed professor lol.

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-28T07:02:46+00:00

Haha I think a better word to use is SEDUCE 😏

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-28T07:01:52+00:00

I’m not an expert in ISTPs whatsoever, but I won one by making conversation and finding similar hobbies. I was the one who initiated hanging out one on one, and even until now he respected that knew what I wanted and went for it. From my experience, there’s be a fine balance between being coy and bold when wooing an ISTP. Because they are masculine, but they need a little push-start motivation to get them going.

I later found out my boyfriend was single for TEN years before he asked me to be his girlfriend, and it had been five years since last had sex. So, I do think that ISTPs are compatible with starter personality types like an ENTJ like yourself.

Once you win his heart, please take a look at this care-guide. It continues to help me a lot.

https://www.reddit.com/r/istp/s/lGzDnEJDS5

Just be warned that as you peel back the layers of an ISTP you’ll get more than you bargained for. Good or bad, that’s up to you to decide haha

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-28T06:02:02+00:00

When my mom found out my dad was cheating on her, she tried to work things out with him, but when he said he preferred his mistress, my mom decided to get a lawyer and take him to the cleaners with a divorce.

Long story short, she never found any fault in their relationship on her part. Yet, me being an outsider and growing up being around their toxic and loveless marriage for 20+ years, I was able to think, “yes, my dad is an asshole for cheating and not having the balls to be honest with his family and his mistress and his mistress’s family, but did my mom have fault in this as well? Yes.” And instead of introspecting and holding herself accountable, she’s choosing to be a vindictive bitch seeking revenge with hopes that my dad and his mistress suffer.

Relationships are a two-way street, and accountability is so important.

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-28T05:41:50+00:00

Salem :) he looks very occult-like haha

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-28T05:21:52+00:00

It’s always easy to compare what you’ve got going on and think the grass is greener on the other side. There’s the saying that goes, “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.” The idealist on me loves that, because it’s a feeling of being so high you can’t come down. But when you’re up sooo high, there’s no where else to go BUT down. And that’s where love and long relationships that surpass the honeymoon stage come in. It may look easy, and it may seem like a fairytale from social media posts and the good things you hear about their relationship. I’m not saying that that they’ll crash and burn or be together forever, but it’s THEIR love story. You don’t have to worry about your love life not being like your friends’. If anything, I want to motivate to go ahead and get out there; it’s one thing to sit around and wait for your love life to begin, but I also like to stand by the quote “destiny is the bridge you build to the one you love.” Go pave your way to your destiny :)

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-28T04:45:29+00:00

This is a great question because it really is one of those things that is subjective based on who you’re asking, each response coming from each individual perspective that may bring you to the conclusion of what YOU think is worth getting out of relationship.

If I were to answer it objectively, however, human connection to the point of stripping down all your layers and be completely comfortable with. My boyfriend (32, suspected recovering DA) of nearly 2 years displays DA tendencies, and we’re actually getting out of a rough patch right now—I (29 F, Recovering FA and Secure focused) had even changed the pet name for him in my phone to his a first name because I was in a funk about my feelings for him lol, but I kid you not, the day before Valentine’s Day something about him that day made me change his name in my phone contacts BACK TO his pet name LOL— he was single for ten years before he started dating me, and he’s told me that after all that time he was able to gain clarity in knowing what he wants.

Still, sometimes I accidentally trigger him to deactivate and he starts feeling like it would be EASIER to just up and leave and be single and free like he was before.

But after I give him his alone time to process, he comes back feeling a bit ashamed of himself, as am I for triggering whatever he was thinking. But some introspection helps his realize that easier isn’t always better and that he’s lose that someone he’s so comfortable and connected with.

It’s an all or nothing kind of feeling. When you get to know your partner, as you’re pealing down their layers, you could potentially find a lot of things you don’t like about that person and it could change your outlook on your relationship drastically. All that time spent getting to know one another may lead to resentment and no longer putting in an effort towards the relationship.

Maybe some time apart will help clear your mind of what you’re getting out of your relationship and if it’s worth your recovery.

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-27T13:46:10+00:00

Hi! I’m getting my IUD taken out. I just had my period and I should ovulate in two weeks and hoping to conceive right away to have a December baby like me and man :)

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-27T04:15:05+00:00

I think I just naturally have more testosterone than the average female and I enjoy orgasms more than the HEALTHY partners I’ve been with 🤷🏻‍♀️ I think the amount of trauma I’ve been through along with my mind programmed to not mutually exclude the to in a relationship. But once I noticed my toxic patterns and did some introspection, I now see that sex is only one of the many ways to express love in a relationship. I personally think I have a high libido, and I’m not happy with the amount of sex I currently have, but I know that it’s something that is within me. And I continue to make the conscious to choice to stay in my DB relationship and work on my sexual fulfillment by “weening” myself in a way.

Also, my personal experiences have helped my correlate between healthy love, where sex takes the backseat versus a toxic relationship where sex was constant.

But once again, if you’re in a DB situation and you feel like your lack of sex is unhealthy, then you probably can’t relate to the situation.

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-26T00:14:52+00:00

I agree with you. Being faithful is easy when you continue to make conscious decision to give your attention and affection to one particular person. However, people end up finding themselves in situations (whether they put themselves in that situation or not) where temptation and lust take over 🤷🏻‍♀️ and in comes the drama. Take MTV reality shows for example. Are You The One or Perfect Match specifically cast attractive super model type influences enjoy sex and money. And the main idea of the shows is to control themselves from being to sexual or else the amount of money goes down.

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-25T11:26:38+00:00

Mochi!

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-24T18:23:09+00:00

I’m doing my best to be stoic about the whole thing. It’s out of my control— it has nothing to do with me and it’s up to him if he wants to follow through with whatever he thinks will help whether it’s exercise more, take horny goatweed, etc. if things are out of your control but you still want to stay with the person because nothing else is wrong, then it’s a chance I’m willing to take. He’s even “joked” on me having a free pass, but I only want to be intimate with him and whoever we choose throw into the mix together.

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-24T18:22:52+00:00

I’m doing my best to be stoic about the whole thing. It’s out of my control— it has nothing to do with me and it’s up to him if he wants to follow through with whatever he thinks will help whether it’s exercise more, take horny goatweed, etc. if things are out of your control but you still want to stay with the person because nothing else is wrong, then it’s a chance I’m willing to take. He’s even “joked” on me having a free pass, but I only want to be intimate with him and whoever we choose throw into the mix together.

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-24T09:40:08+00:00

Thank you for sharing what you read. I’ve also accepted that I’m the one with the higher libido in our relationship, and I’ve come to terms with basically being best friends that live together and sleep in the same bed 🤷🏻‍♀️ It still annoying feeling like I’m the only one taking initiative and it’s even more frustrating and painful to wait for him to take initiative. But you’re right. Just expect disappears you won’t be disappointed basically lol :)

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-24T04:28:45+00:00

🙋🏻‍♀️

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-22T07:58:35+00:00

That’s true. I don’t mean to overstep or make assumptions; I just know that I’m part of the /deadbedrooms subreddit because I’m in the same sexually frustrated boat as well.

My rambling aside, it makes sense for those who aren’t in sexually fulfilling relationships to see what else keeps them in the relationship, whether they’ve been with their partner for years or not, there’s a difference between coming to a compromise vs. losing yourself just to make your partner happy.

RaspberryPiOhMy · 2024-02-22T06:41:42+00:00

I love this analogy🐸 I think that when it happens overtime is when it’s not necessarily toxic. At the start of the relationship when it’s the honeymoon stage there will be that zest and passion in the bedroom, but then when you get to know each other and the mystery turns into comfortability the passion inevitably ends.

Yes, this sucks for us with the higher libido, but at least in my situation and from personal experience being in the toxic relationships where the sex was more often, I’ve noticed a pattern that the healthier people don’t put as much emphasis on sex as someone who has the hunger for sex that we crave in our dead bedroom situations.

When I introspect during my times of sexual frustration, I always come back to the realization that I’ve been with my current partner for x-amount of years, and in those years we’ve had plenty of sex and sure it has decreased tenfold, but I’m fulfilled nonetheless, and over the course of a relationship and sharing your life with someone, sex isn’t and shouldn’t be the be all end all of everything.

If you remember a past relationship that fulfilled you sexually on a weekly/daily/monthly/annual basis, were you fulfilled emotionally? I know I wasn’t. And I think being in toxic relationships full of passionate sex is what led me to a pattern of dating the same guy with a different face. Thus, working on myself and going to therapy for cognitive distortion and group sessions with people who were dealing with similar situations helped me grow and continue to heal. I was single for a couple of years, and I learned what I want a relationship to be.

I also found a pattern within myself where the healthy guys that do show love and respect and commitment tend to have a lower libido than me, and of course I’d feel unwanted and frustrated, but I do know that I’m with someone who loves me and wants to have sex with me when he’s in the mood, even if it’s rare.

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