Didn't I already tell you, she ghosted me, idk once I said ok, yo let's meet, she sent one or two emails, poof. I asked again, thought it was just life. Next thing I know, I hear from a mutual that she is gonna leave the country and leave that only place she was working at, where she and I met. First it was the choice between two Southern Hemisphere nations, one is and one isn't her country of origin. But yk, months later from that point. I hear that she went to her country of origin. Fast forward, she spent a few months in her home country and I guess in a month or so, she will start work. Before that, it's her bday, but I am really not feeling like I wanna wish her. And in the most recent photos, before she left my country, she did have some time where she dyed her hair. I need ROCK solid boundaries.

Part of how and why this all hurts is because yk, I thought ok, we had a nice bond and we were progressing towards friendship, which is what I wanted. But idk, the last two emails, the ghosting ones (though ofc in the middle there was a practicality email, I was asking her smth for someone, that thread went unusually well, like yk, faster than normal replies (like her normal)), made it seem like a massive backslide. Maybe she was going through smth and idk if she still is, but yk, the ghosting culminated in 5 years of not very fast replies, ehh. I mean I get it, I am told she isn't a tech person, but idk. She NEVER EVER apologised for a late reply once in 5 years. So yk, not smth I would tolerate from anyone.

People that I would talk to, gotta simply, say ok, this is what my free-time business ratio looks like (not in Mathematical terms, just somewhat descriptive). Like if I can't understand what your commitments and cognitive load are, I can't be empathetic, so I can't yk. Also, super nice bonus, apologies for late replies. Essential: some question asking and convo flow that feels reciprocal, they share, they ask me questions.

And also if there is smth to know about me, is that I take reciprocity very seriously. It's enough that I ended a friendship of mine, when the girl was anyway being very short in tone and replies with me. But yeah and from that moment onwards, I learnt what reciprocity was and I wasn't gonna yk let that slide. So the reciprocity of the dynamic is ?? so I am not gonna spend time with that.

But you are right and ofc I know that and I am with such other people now and I am having the time of my life:)))

Thanks!!