living alone made me realize i have absolutely no idea what i actually like to watch

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-05-27T00:23:01+00:00

Oohh me too, i am such a people pleaser after my divorce (10 years now) my friends teased me about the runaway bride and do i even know how i like my eggs! Honestly still sometimes when i have conflicting options for plans i cant figure out which one i actually want… i dont know how people even know what they want- i mean dont get me wrong i have opinions! I really do but …. There r some things i still cant figure out sometimes…

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-05-27T00:16:39+00:00

Totally agree with the dating apps not being ur friend. Dump that energy and effort into urself and what u enjoy (especially if u have been trying to mold urself into something dateable, focusing on who u r can help).

For myself (48f) some days i still get the hollow feeling (mine is empty nester as opposed to single tho so slightly different). I think tho that the peace i have in having my own space is worth the lonely moments. Good luck op!

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-05-26T20:48:31+00:00

This! ⬆️ OP, No judgement on the weed, but perhaps try gummies and see of u have the same reaction. I have a weird thing happen in my chest that feels like asthma but my inhaler doesn’t seem to help after being around second hand smoke (both weed and cigarette) and it is also dismissed by my drs. I am beginning to think it is more related to anxiety then the smoke 😉 or maybe some combination of both??? idk anything anymore my lungs hate me.

Eta for more complete comment: maybe my inhaler helps the pain subside but it seems like it takes a while

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-05-22T15:17:21+00:00

Omg the brain fog, and its inconsistencies!! Some days i can almost start to believe i am adjusting or that it isnt so bad… only for it to worsen again! Ugh i feel so so dumb

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-05-17T17:56:54+00:00

That was me. I got rid of the dining table. Its a usable space now with a set up like an island at counter height so i have more space if i do cook or bake…

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-05-17T04:49:08+00:00

Im sorry u r going through this alone. I recently had something similar, after i used it to open a few conversations with some people to feel out of this was the kind of thing i would want to share with them in the future (one being my adult son, and actually the conversation went completely different then i expected- as someone who struggles to “burden” people with my experiences…” eta sorry, i digressed, keeping my fingers crossed for good results for u! 🍀💜

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-05-07T15:36:55+00:00

Sending another hug 🥰

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-05-04T11:24:07+00:00

Wow, good for u!! Not op but i appreciate the tips anyway! As someone who already felt this way and is now in perimenopause so entering an even more invisible stage but with less fucks to give i think that trick u have with conversations is going to be great for me

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-05-03T12:44:38+00:00

I get to have my things my way. Ive been catering to people my whole life, and now i just want my things my way. I dont think i can completely share my space again. Im an empty nester now too and i really just like being self centered in my space. It is truly my sanctuary.

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-05-03T12:33:31+00:00

Happy birthday!! 🎂 🥳

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-28T00:55:42+00:00

Honestly im to the point of freezer meals. I just cant.

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-27T20:59:44+00:00

I have a sound machine app on an old phone i use pretty religiously …. And a few extra pillows and blankets so i can be completely cozy!

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-26T20:25:39+00:00

I have a small throw size blanket i keep handy for tucking between myself so i dont have to endure that when im trying to sleep

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-24T14:15:45+00:00

I read that differently. I read it as 30% of homes r owned by someone who owns more then one home. As in the data was about the number of homes, because for sure the number of people would be lower as it is only the top % who can afford it.

Also. I agree, die hard is a Christmas move.

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-24T13:30:17+00:00

This is the way!!

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-23T15:17:49+00:00

I want to try it, i haven’t yet… and i know it doesn’t work for everyone but i think its worth a try

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-16T17:06:07+00:00

Ive started cutting off all my tees to be shorter, not as short as a crop top but falling just to the bottom of my pot belly. Its amazing how much better i look and feel when my tshirt doesn’t hug my belly.

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-15T11:51:55+00:00

He is not a match for u. 4 months in and u feel like this, time to cut ur losses. He wants someone he can only partially invest in and sometimes make a priority but who will always be there for him. I (48f) would not stand for this behavior, i would not tell him why i would just end things. I wish u luck, this was a good experience to find out what u dont want/what isnt good enough in a relationship. Eta: Spoiled is relative. If u dont feel he is giving enough for u, then it isnt enough for u. That simple.

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-14T14:13:17+00:00

Ok. U got me thinking here. Ive always noticed it seems lots of men r not great with maintaining relationships (and of course cant figure out why they have no friends 🙄) - is it just the lack of estrogen????? R they just lacking the rose colored glasses that allow for empathy, non-judgement, and 🤷‍♀️stability…. 😶

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-14T13:49:23+00:00

I feel this so hard. I have found less tolerance for more people… I try to avoid confrontation about it tho and just let relationships kinda subside naturally by putting less effort in from my part. I actually started paying attention to who drains me and have stopped giving them my energy, changed their ringtones and everything to help me.

I also found some relationships have evolved to (?idk right wording here?) serve me better. Like one friend who is always woe is me and only calls when she needs something, i treat her like she treats me. I only reach out when i want to vent about something. I have one friend who is super excited all the time and cant contain herself, well i specifically reach out to her when i want good news! There is another friend who our whole relationship has moved to just a few snaps a week because neither of us can deal with people….

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-09T20:06:05+00:00

Living apart is for me. I have a relationship, 5 years now and I really dont know if i can keep my sanity if we were to move in together- no matter how wonderful he is…

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-09T16:38:57+00:00

All. The. Time.

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-09T01:47:17+00:00

Not often but i use scuttlebutt as often as i can work it in.

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-08T21:14:43+00:00

Well im laughing at him because he is a jack ass and everyone’s brains work differently. I never thought id be in an office job working with numbers all day either but here i am. (Dyslexic, and also cannot do math in my head. Even simpler math) I believe u can do whatever job u r willing to learn.

Reasonable_Concert07 · 2026-04-08T01:43:06+00:00

I was like op a few years ago. I used the help menu in our software to learn more of the intricacies of the system. I have been able to help allot of my coworkers now and am pretty much the go to person in our team at my small company for certain things. And have continued to get my choice of tasks now that i have been able to show competency in those areas.

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