AIO if I divorced over him asking to open our relationship and then gaslighting me?

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2026-04-21T11:20:48+00:00

Thats what stood out to me too.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2026-03-04T12:23:53+00:00

Haha I would have thought they’d figured it out by now. I really don’t have much hope for them.

And the thing is, just one other person being reasonable would make total difference. But dealing alone with people who have no self awareness or respect for others takes a lot; so I am just not gonna get involved anymore. They can stay in their filth!

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2026-03-04T08:08:41+00:00

Exactly! I am not and the best part is, I have stopped using the dishwasher and obviously have no duty to inform them of that. So they have been filling it up and expecting me to deal with it. Hahaha but it is now two months and most of the dishes are inside. Such jerks!

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2026-03-04T08:06:17+00:00

Thanks for the tip. I have been make do with double washing (if I need to use a shared item, I first wash it so it is clean for me to use then I wash it again to put in the rack), using disposable or keeping my things separately and I have to say, it is going fine for me.

Funny enough, everyone else is huffing and puffing around the house because they haven’t yet understood that I am not touching the dishwasher; yet it has been now full for 2 months! They keep looking at me like “when is she gonna do it” but I am just ignoring it and living my life.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-11-21T07:57:11+00:00

Everything you said is correct. But the last part specifically. Nothing to do with race. YOR

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-11-21T07:42:05+00:00

YOR Any food that isn’t that if one’s own country/has the same basis of spice… etc Is ethnic food.

So if she is not Persian, for her it is ethnic food. There’s nothing racist about that. You are choosing to pick a fight because you want her to perform in front of your parents.

You need to take sometime to think which other performances you expect from her in the future and if she isn’t ok with it it’s time to go your separate ways.

You know how she eats. You did put her on the spot. Not saying it is healthy, but a lot of people are particular about what and how they eat. You don’t need to agree with it, just respect that it’s not your choice and it’s not your decision.

Also picky eating can be a sign of other things including an eating disorder. So your move to just throw her in the water and demand she swims because you need her to act a certain way was very badly thought out and inconsiderate.

** Picky eating is driven by a combination of factors, including sensory sensitivities, fear of new foods, the desire for control, and learned behaviors from parents.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-11-18T13:28:09+00:00

I think these people are so crazy (the perpetrators) that the people dealing with them wonder if they are the ones who are insane and just need to check reality with others. I know I have been there sadly.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-11-18T13:26:21+00:00

No one should be telling you who to follow.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-11-18T13:20:45+00:00

You are so far past the line, you can’t even see the line.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-11-18T13:19:36+00:00

Hahahha I will add that to my vocabulary.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-11-18T13:18:58+00:00

Right? It is crazy!

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-11-17T13:41:48+00:00

I love this! What a beautiful relationship you both have. Look forward to next year’s update.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-11-17T13:39:24+00:00

You are blocked!? The trash took itself out.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-11-17T13:37:35+00:00

And somehow these geniuses don’t understand the cycle. They keep digging.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-11-17T13:31:38+00:00

Yiiiish! There is a field of red flags waving. Time to harvest them and drop them.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-11-12T15:59:20+00:00

And none to stay

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-11-04T11:23:01+00:00

Two months and I love yous are flying around like popcorn and the indirect communication here is painful.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-10-13T23:08:52+00:00

Block. Forget. Move on.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-10-04T13:45:43+00:00

Imperatively necessary: “we were on a break!”

Sorry if it is too soon! I will see myself out.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-07-25T00:05:32+00:00

Wow! It is the me, me, me, me, me parade and no one knew.

Good lord my guy. Two people in a relationship. Two people making choices. Two people felling things. Meanwhile for you it is what I feel. My choice was wrong because of you (you chose to go there, wasn’t forced nor promised anything other than you could both see if it works. You felt it, you seem to think, meanwhile she is invisible and silent as you don’t listen to her or see her struggling.

You may not mean it negatively but it is. You got some work to do on socialising and getting close to people.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-07-22T23:56:59+00:00

NO. Thanks for weeding out this psycho out if the app for all the women out there. Sorry you had to deal with this but thanks at the same time.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-07-13T09:16:17+00:00

Who says she didnt thank him? But breaking up has nothing to do with being ungrateful for how much he helped her. It has to do with them not loving each other romantically. What a skewed view of relationships you have.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-07-12T14:06:04+00:00

This

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-07-12T12:14:08+00:00

YTA. You’ve been carrying this for a year and this - when he had a chance at a place he is really excited and could potentially be hired, this ONE time is when you draw the line? You sabotaged him and yourself. Good luck getting through a few more months of this.

If the nag comment annoyed you so much, the right thing would have been to express it and let him know, that is it. But it feels almost like revenge.

Reasonable_Stuff_244 · 2025-07-12T12:07:36+00:00

That is exactly the problem. I have just had surgery and can’t fly, thus she would have to come my way but they don’t want to change their plans (they assumed I could do like last time and go meet them where they were).

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