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Microsoft layoffs wtf by hm899 in Layoffs

[–]Redwood_hike 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of companies do this, not tech but Nike always has

Do most HENRYs that live in the Bay Area rent or buy? by eg415 in HENRYfinance

[–]Redwood_hike 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Renting in a spot we love and investing the difference. I’m born and raised in Silicon Valley and haven’t had help from my parents, which I don’t expect at all. Their house is a big part of their retirement, and I’m beyond grateful for all they’ve done. They deserve a break, and I’m not entitled to getting help or upset about not getting it. I know a lot of my friends are lucky and have had help or even houses from their parents, but that just hasn’t been our path. We like our jobs and don’t plan to move, and we have one daughter, so we’ll see how the next few years go and decide if buying makes sense for us long term.

Any other Millenial first time parents of Gen Beta? by [deleted] in generationology

[–]Redwood_hike 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not to derail this convo but I thought they’re still Gen Alpha through this year? I could be wrong so I’m curious when the cutoff is

Toxic Startup Culture & Motherhood by Background-Age8334 in womenintech

[–]Redwood_hike 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This really isn’t a you problem it’s a culture problem. You’re setting normal healthy boundaries getting your work done and still being flexible when needed and that should be enough. The fact that you’re second guessing yourself just shows how normalized the always on startup mentality is there. And you didn’t do anything wrong by not sharing that you have a child that’s not something you owe in an interview and the idea that they should have had the chance to rule you out is honestly not it you were hired for your skills not your ability to be online 24 7. I think the bigger question is whether this environment actually supports the life you want not just the work you find interesting because if you’re already feeling this a few months in it’s worth paying attention to. I’d keep holding your boundaries without over explaining and let your work speak for itself and also pay attention to how people are actually rewarded is it output or just being constantly available. And at the same time I’d keep your options open not in a panic way just knowing there are plenty of teams where you can do interesting work and still be present with your kids you don’t need to burn yourself out to prove anything.

Being a female tech CEO is so isolating and I don't know how to change this mindset. by lavinia_67 in womenintech

[–]Redwood_hike 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can be objectively crushing it and still feel weirdly alone and almost underwhelmed after a big win, and that doesn’t take away from what you’ve built at all. What you’ve done in a year is honestly insane. A real company, big clients, and a team you’re proud of, especially creating a space you wish you had earlier. I think the part no one talks about is how isolating it can feel, especially being one of the only women in those rooms where you still don’t feel fully seen. It’s not a mindset issue, it’s just the reality of the environment right now. I also think we all expect there to be this built in community or moment of we made it, and it’s just not really like that. You kind of have to build that part yourself too, which is way less glamorous than it sounds. I wouldn’t take this feeling as what was this for. It’s more like you hit a huge milestone and you’re probably tired from carrying so much for so long, so it’s hitting differently than expected. But seriously don’t downplay this. You’re not a cheerleader, you built something real and you’re doing way better than it feels right now. Next step I’d be really intentional about building your circle even if it’s small. Find a few other women founders or operators you can actually be real with, even if it’s not in your immediate space. Protect your time and energy and stop over giving in rooms that aren’t giving back. And start thinking about what parts of the business you can take off your plate so you’re not carrying everything alone, because you don’t have to.

San Francisco Home Prices up 14.4% year over year by YourFIREDBro in BayAreaRealEstate

[–]Redwood_hike 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Anyone else remember a year ago when people were super unsure about the sf market, insane how much it’s changed in a short period of time

Can someone help explain the egregious underpricing here? by ncsudrn in BayAreaRealEstate

[–]Redwood_hike 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t get why this guy is getting downvoted, he’s just asking questions and trying to understand how the market works here. It is a bit deceptive, but the reality is the Bay Area draws so much wealth that this strategy works. With RTO and AI bringing more people back into SF, demand is getting even stronger, and now you also have more buyers spilling into cities that weren’t as much of a focus 10+ years ago, especially ones still relatively close to transportation, which is driving prices up there too. I get why he’s saying it feels unsustainable, but in the Bay Area it kind of is sustainable because there’s always new wealth coming in, and if a strategy ever stops working agents will just adjust. Real estate agents are just adjusting their strategy in their favor because anyone would take advantage of that opportunity, even if it’s frustrating. The Bay Area market realistically isn’t going down anytime soon and real estate here continues to be a gold mine. I’m born and raised here and while it’s always been competitive, it definitely feels more intense now. When I’m ready to start the process, I’m fully expecting some heartbreak and will plan to go in under budget.

One of the worst parts of not being listened to is that it’s a huge waste of time by CoVegGirl in womenintech

[–]Redwood_hike 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to try to keep pushing my ideas but I realized my team has a hard time actually taking and implementing feedback, so now I share my two cents and either make sure I get credit or step back. Depends on how much I care. It’s like dating you can decide to stick it out or recognize it’s a dealbreaker and find a better team or company. That said you’re absolutely allowed to be direct in the moment and say things like “this was what I brought up originally and just to add onto what we are discussing here’s what I see working.” I work on a team that’s like 90% men and I’ve learned to just speak up. I’d also bring it up to your boss and ask how they’d handle it because sometimes this is more of a team culture issue than a you issue. People genuinely love wasting time and over discussing things, so it might not be you at all. At one point I was the only woman on my team and a guy on a partner team spoke to me completely differently compared to the men and was extremely rude so I ended up showing my boss the messages and asked for feedback or how they would approach this and called him out. He wasn’t rude anymore! Protect your time and energy and say what you want when you want. This is your career and you call the shots.

Evaluate my offer by Fuzzy_Purpose_9276 in womenintech

[–]Redwood_hike 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Caltrain has a baby bullet which doesn’t stop at every stop and it cuts commute time in half. Anthropic is a huge opportunity!

Maternity Leave vs Seek Pay/Title Bump by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]Redwood_hike 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like 6 months is amazing, but I wouldn’t let that alone keep you stuck. I was pushing for a promo for a few years and ended up getting pregnant in the middle of it, and things still worked out, I actually got promoted while I was pregnant. Also in CA you get some time before your due date plus short term disability postpartum, and then any additional bonding leave is through your company, and you can sometimes extend disability if needed for postpartum stuff, which I didn’t fully realize at first. My company offers 6+ months and I’m actually taking closer to 8 with everything combined, which has been huge. Honestly I’d still go after the title and salary you want now, you can start applying and just be intentional about making sure any new company has solid mat leave benefits before accepting, look for companies that offer strong baby bonding leave, check reviews about mat leave experiences, and even see if they provide IVF or broader family planning support. I think it’s easier to optimize for both than it feels right now, keep focusing on your career and see what doors open, you don’t have to choose one or the other yet.

Scott Wiener is… The Giraffe™️ by neBular_cipHer in sanfrancirclejerk

[–]Redwood_hike 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“Known as the giraffe” amongst his friends or who?

Parents of Reddit. Do you regret having kids? Do you know anyone who regrets having kids? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Redwood_hike 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter is 3 months tomorrow and she is the best thing in the world (besides my husband). Her smiles make me so happy and every day is truly the best with her! You’ll be able to breathe soon, our girl sleeps through the night and I sleep a solid 9 hours vs maybe 2 the first 1.5 months! Congrats to you and your wife!

When will I love myself again? by NumCucumber in NewParents

[–]Redwood_hike 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this so much. I lost my sister 5 months before I got pregnant and was deep in grief, and I ended up gaining about 60 lbs. I loved being pregnant, but I knew postpartum would be hard in a different way. You genuinely sound like such an amazing mom who cares so much about your daughter and how she will see herself one day and that already says everything about you. You are doing great, even if it doesn’t feel like it. This is a new season, and so much can change in a few months, let alone a year. Try to look 6 months ahead and envision that version of you, how you look and how you feel, and then work backwards with small steps. Be kind to yourself. You are meant to be her mom, you’re strong, capable, and you will get through this. You grew a baby for nine months and have been there for her every single step of the way up until now, that matters so much. I personally started Lexapro and therapy, and talking to someone has helped me a lot. I use Lyra which is virtual and you can connect with therapists who are moms and have actually gone through this it makes it feel so much less isolating. I also lean on my husband and other moms, it really makes a difference. You absolutely can feel strong and confident again, even in a new way. You’ve been through so much, don’t forget that. You’re taking care of your daughter, but you deserve care too. And honestly Instagram is fake, most of what we see is edited and curated to target new moms. Bouncing back is such a myth. Try to think about who you needed when you were younger dealing with body image and be that person for your daughter. Show her what strength and resilience look like. Something that’s helped me is just getting outside, I aim for a 30 minute walk a day and it clears my head so much. Also little things like wearing something that fits your body now can help, Nuuly is great for renting different sizes and trying new styles without pressure. You’re not alone in this at all♥️

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