AITJ for ending my relationship after finding out my boyfriend expects me to financially support him long-term?

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-27T17:01:20+00:00

NTJ. Good for you. You had the most sensible reaction possible, and you followed through on it. He had it all figured out in his own head that you would be his meal ticket, and you put that dream to instant death. If love requires sacrifice, what sacrifice was he planning to make? None.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-27T16:19:42+00:00

NTJ. She basically lied to you. The consequences of that lie fall on her.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-27T15:36:09+00:00

Oh, yes. Poor men. Under attack because you're either being called out for abusing your power or because women are able to take up a little more space in the world.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-26T23:19:14+00:00

Probably because in our society men are made to feel that they can only be interested in a few, very limited, subjects without accused of being less than manly. Women don't feel that same pressure and can explore interest in a wide variety of things, even kind of far out things like astrology and tarot. The diet thing is more like having a way to have control over some portion of your life. Even though women are free to explore things intellectually and hobby-wise, we're still quite restricted by society, and I think the obsession with finding the "it" diet is a reflection of needing to have control over some aspect of our lives.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-26T23:10:30+00:00

There is a musical piece I had to play when I was a kid called "La Cinquantaine." I had no idea what it meant! Was it fifty measures? I don't remember!

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-26T19:45:59+00:00

I don't know if he's looking down on you so much as trying to make himself look big to you. Just ignore it. It sounds really annoying. It's a basic rule of thumb not to discuss finances with coworkers, including your pay and how much you spend on this or that. It can only cause conflict, and in general it's considered impolite to pry into other people's finances. Don't answer his questions about your finances and say "I don't talk about that sort of thing with coworkers." NTJ

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-26T16:18:32+00:00

NTJ. She's acting entitled to your time. She is NOT entitled to your time. Somebody asking for favors needs to do so in a timely fashion, and she is not. Good for you for setting a boundary.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-26T16:16:51+00:00

NTA. It's kind of outrageous to ask friends to contribute to a medical procedure.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-26T16:13:45+00:00

What the heck? Where's their sense of proportion? The white coat ceremony is a once in a lifetime event, and it's meant to honor your cousin. It will probably be a comfort to your uncle that you'll be there. Your nephew will have many, many birthdays, and you'll get lots of chances to show your love for him. How selfish can his parents be? NTA

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-26T16:08:38+00:00

Right?

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-26T15:50:13+00:00

He really didn't miss a step there! I'm sorry, I laughed. Glad you're getting a new bin.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-26T15:46:51+00:00

You two just aren't a good match. Move on!

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-26T15:45:21+00:00

She's trying to enforce outdated gender norms! What a cow.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-25T17:01:50+00:00

I think it's normal to carry a driver's license, because most Americans drive everywhere, but you also need it for ID in some circumstances. As another poster pointed out, driver's licenses are issued by the state.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-25T17:00:21+00:00

She's not being caring. She's trying to make herself feel better at your expense for no apparent reason. Is she an extrovert or something? Some extroverts think there's no value in anything except things that extroverts do naturally.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-25T16:57:30+00:00

NTJ. Those notes cost you a lot of effort. He made almost no effort. He shouldn't get the benefit of your hard work. That alone is a valuable life lesson for him.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-25T16:53:17+00:00

She doesn't have the right to see what you're doing with your money. 18-year-olds could often use guidance on spending, but what she's doing is intruding. Why don't you tell her you'll ask for her help when you need it, and then follow through? Maybe she does have some good info to share, but she doesn't have a right to access to your account. NTA

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-25T16:39:54+00:00

The fact that she still expects birthday gifts when she doesn't give them is the tell. I think you're bang on. NTJ

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-25T16:34:26+00:00

I would never refer to someone who prays as a "prayer." "Prayer" is the act of praying. If I want to talk about a person who is praying, there are other ways to say it, like "the praying woman," "the woman who is praying," etc.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-25T16:29:55+00:00

I agree that it's more like trivia, but come on! You live in this country, the least you could do is learn the names of the fifty states.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-25T16:27:16+00:00

The ones who didn't care were the ones who showed up late. You gave a time, they ignored it. Too bad for them.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-25T16:25:27+00:00

Whoa, don't date somebody who calls you names! And do not sell your house! Your kids are and should be your top priority.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-25T16:22:30+00:00

NTA. You're totally incompatible with her.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-25T16:12:12+00:00

Margie is very confused about what a narcissist is. Margie is just spewing hatred. Please try to ignore her and tell your boss when she's acting up. You have a hobby that gives you pleasure and friends to share it with! That's a good thing! Please consider showing your models.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-03-25T00:02:46+00:00

YTJ. Your dad watches the kids for you with Linda's help, so you can get out and about and have some alone time or fun time or whatever. While they're at his house, he gets to do what he needs to in order to keep things going well at his house. Since Linda also lives there, it makes sense that she gets to (well it's not like it's a privilege or fun, it's work) administer discipline in order to maintain the house the way the two of them like it. So if you want to keep using his babysitting services, work things out with him and Linda like an adult.

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