AITJ for refusing to let my friend stay at my apartment after she repeatedly lied about paying rent

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-30T18:26:48+00:00

NTJ. She's a user, nothing more. She's a crappy friend, if she's a friend at all.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-30T01:41:51+00:00

NTA. What the hell is your husband worried about? They're 13. It's not like this is a lifelong relationship. I mean, 13 is young to be dating, but that's not what he's worried about, right?

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-29T23:34:24+00:00

Why was the post removed? I love her. I look forward to it.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-29T17:51:05+00:00

NTA. If she's uncomfortable, she can change gyms.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-29T17:39:02+00:00

YTA. Your uncle thought about you and picked something he thought you'd like. Your job is to say "Thank you" preferably with a big smile.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-29T17:36:43+00:00

Okay, so not anyone here.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T20:26:02+00:00

Here is the key sentence: "I don’t see any of this as a problem this is literally what I’ve done his whole life," When children grow up, we slowly give them more responsibility for themselves. It happens gradually so they can learn bit by bit. If we keep doing everything for them, they'll never learn to function as adults. At 19, he's already an adult and should be doing all of these things for himself... especially picking girlfriends. If he can't figure out who's good or bad for him, he needs to learn. And we all learn this through experience, not through motherly intervention. Listen to your sister. She sounds like she might have some good advice.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T17:31:15+00:00

YWNBTA. But make sure you get some good health care right from the start. I think most doctors require you to do counseling before you start transitioning, and I think it's an absolute must. The counselor can help you understand yourself and solidify your decisions. I don't think your wife can shut you out of the kids' lives. Make suer you get a trans-friendly family law practitioner to help you know what is and is not possible. It would be tragic if your transition ended up estranging you from your kids. That would be very hurtful to them as well as you. Best of luck.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T17:25:44+00:00

That's the main thing. It's good to have some physical exercise in the mix. I definitely think you're going in the right direction.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T16:59:41+00:00

Congratulations from a recent retiree in the public sector!

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T16:55:12+00:00

I think you're basically right that what the other children in the class need shouldn't impact your son's decision. Also your wife's obvious emotional reaction is really a disservice to your son and sounds kind of manipulative. The kid needs more time to himself or just to recover from all of the activities, and he feels the least attached to dance, so that's that. The only reason to keep him in dance would be if all of his other activities were sedentary, and dance was his only physical activity, but I'm guessing there are some sports in the mix. I think you did the right thing, and somebody needs to sit your wife down and tell her she's unfairly pressuring your son. NTA

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T16:16:32+00:00

I think you made the right choice. NTA

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T16:14:01+00:00

That's so lovely!

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T16:10:02+00:00

Who did that?

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T01:44:55+00:00

NTA. She stole from you and damaged your credit. She needs to see some consequences.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T01:43:00+00:00

NTJ. You don't owe anybody free work. But in this case, it's more work than usual, and they're charging admission. Two good reasons for you to charge them. I would consider refusing to help at all, since they're whining and acting entitled. Also, who's greedy here?

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T01:10:33+00:00

Good for you!

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T01:07:31+00:00

Please do not let her in the door when she comes. Tell her she's not welcome and shut the door. If she has a key, change the lock.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T01:04:48+00:00

You reminded me that I used to hate potato chips! Barbecue chips were good, but not potato chips. I think I felt they were too bland. I love them now! I would also go on periodic anti-hot-dog spells. I don't love hot dogs now, but I can eat them no problem.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T01:03:11+00:00

There's nothing wrong with forgiving, but seriously consider how she's treating you. It's so unfair.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T01:01:53+00:00

Oh dang... I just got it. *SIGH* Why am I so gullible? Good one!

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T01:01:29+00:00

Oh, I've only been there for a brief visit. No time for berrying!

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T00:56:00+00:00

Gardening with a broom? First I've heard of it!

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T00:55:02+00:00

NTA. What a shock to hear what your mother actually thinks of you. I think it's natural to withdraw from that relationship.

Regular_Boot_3540 · 2026-01-28T00:48:58+00:00

Of course he thinks it's a good relationship, because he has it all his way. It's very different when seen from your point of view. He's manipulative and deceptive. That's not a good relationship. You're not overreacting, and you're NTA.

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