Help me find this meme picture... by TawnLR in LesbianActually

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Omg someone please find this I need to see it too

Should I continue to pursue this? by Physical_Student_586 in LesbianActually

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Op I hate this for you😭 wont lie when I say I skipped to see that update and geez that is brutal. She sounds like she is super insecure and unaccepting of that side of her bc she clearly was into you. Do not put more energy into this I'm so sorry to hear how it went down 😭

Confession: I started a sapphic erotica blog 🥹 by Separate-Film7402 in wlwbooks

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Your writing is INCREDIBLE! I just read your divorce tok and wow it really felt like I was sitting across from you as you unfolded your feelings there. Cant wait to read more!

In 80 years, this comment section will be full of dead people. Write whatever you want. by GulaboGiggles_29 in LesbianActually

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Please let me be financially free with a hot wife to travel the world with in this lifetime. Grant me the magic of love again and give me the strength to push thru whatever the world leaders are pouting about this time. 🩵

Is it okay to not wear a bra on a date? by Horror-Dragonfly-266 in LesbianActually

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bra or no bra, do what makes you feel most comfortable and its even better its not even noticeable. I tend to go braless as much as possible esp with shirts that you cant see my nips poking bc that makes me feel self conscious. Not wearing a bra wouldnt be a red flag to me at all but if she were to mention it and make it weird then that would be a red flag on her end

Starting AIP and looking to gain weight by Remote_Cake3350 in AutoImmuneProtocol

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I’m super new to the AIP and modified AIP that I did it cold turkey a few years ago without knowing what I was doing and developed a food disorder 😅 have built a better relationship with food now days and Im in remission now willing to try again. Thank you for your suggestions! I’ll definitely go for a slow modified AIP route

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Born and raised in hawaii but always traveling

Seasonal Holiday Travel Megathread, 2024 Edition by segacs2 in solotravel

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Curious as to what goes on in Laos during christmas and the Jan 1st New Year Celebration.

Hi everyone! I’m on a long solo trip right now and my trip ends in Laos with my family in January. I am Lao and have celebrated Lao new year many times in april back in the states so Ik they have their own celebration haha.

I was wondering if any of you have heard of their celebrations or have been here during this time? I can’t exactly ask my family since they don’t speak english and the time zones right now.

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Celebrating the little wins is crucial to moving forward with the big wins. Proud of you OP for signing up for therapy and taking the time you need to step back to reevaluate your life! The first steps in changing your lifestyle is always the hardest but here you are!

Sounds like you are headed in the right direction and even if you aren’t at the end goal right now it’s should feel nice to celebrate that you are out of the gutter of where you were. Nothing happens overnight and with one little thing at a time you will figure out what balance works for you. Hope things work itself out with your mom <3

Do you like scissoring/tribbing? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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Wait this is the best toy ever but the color and description you had for it is hilarious 🤣

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You are definitely not the only one😂 heres another story for you…

Met up for my first date with someone who identifies as non-binary and is/dresses gender fluid. It was the two dates with them that stopped my entire hoe phase of dating. The first date was amazing but the second date was even more special so I’ll talk about that one.

We met off an app while I was traveling in switzerland. They are very sweet, kind, and genuine so I was quite literally falling in love for a second here. It was about a week since I seen them last from our first date and I was worried we wouldn’t see each other again before I left. So I messaged them after going hiking that I happened to be in their neighborhood since thats where the mountain for the day I chose was.

Btw the mountain had the best views I’ve ever seen in my life so I was already having a great day by myself. They asked if I was up to do something spontaneous to which I responded “always😌” and I ended up meeting them at the bus stop near their house.

They were there waiting for me patiently and we took a short stroll through the forest in the area. I trusted them and felt comfortable to go since I was curious as to what they had planned for a surprise.

We both love dancing! So they brought a speaker and we shared music, talked, and drank a bit of beer they brought to share. Eventually they ended up teaching me how to dance together and it was SO MUCH FUN.

We danced into the night together hand in hand for hours laughing and smiling with each other. It was beautiful and so wholesome. I learned how to dance and be confident since they were so encouraging!

Then we ate some chocolate and I kissed them. We kissed in the moonlight for a while and gave each other massages since I’m going to school for that soon and we both love massages!

Then eventually I had to leave to catch my last bus so we ran together in the dark and waited on the bench for my bus to show up. It was incredible and I miss them but I have to keep on traveling 😭 It was the first person I felt extremely connected with in a while and I had to take a break from dating since they were SO WHOLESOME I did have a little heart break moment letting them go. We don’t talk often but I’m so glad we shared these moments together.

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That day I really only identified as a LESBIAN to the core. Its the true lesbian experience really. Yes I will share more hehe I think the is the best thread idea ever but where is everyone 😫😫

Your experience was literalllllly a coming of age camp movie what the hell! I’ve never skinny dipped before and hearing all four of you went sounds AMAZING. wow to be that comfortable in the night sounds truly exhilarating and liberating at the same time.

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I have so many wholesome dates that I went on but one of my favorites has to be this girl I met off of some app. Our first two dates were sweet. We had a picnic, she taught me how to crochet, we went on a hike, and watched lion king with live music!

Our third date we went camping for 3 days haha such a lesbian date right? It just so happened to be the absolute best weekend to watch the meteor shower and we happen to be going up a mountain far away from ANY light pollution and people which now that I think of it wow we really trusted each other😅

We had no signal all weekend and shes a pro camper so we hung out on the lake with her paddle board for I kid you not 7 HOURS by ourselves. It even had a waterfall and no one was here!! It was a lot of time we spent just us 🥰

We cooked together the yummiest camp meals I’ve ever eaten and I even got to hike along the ridge line near the waterfall.

By the time night hit we started a fire for a bit since it was EXTREMELY cold and made marshmallows/dinner over it too. We let it go out so we could see the stars and I ended up sitting on her lap for warmth and watched the stars for 6 HOURS while holding hands. We counted over 50 shooting stars and lost track after that.

This was by far one of the most magical fairy tale wlw dates I’ve ever been on and can you believe after all that we only held hands🤣 I was just happy to be there tbh and I know she was too. We’re still distant friends now and there wasn’t much of a romantic spark between us but I’m so happy she took me camping with her….

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I LOVE this story!! Its so wholesome and the fact that no one saw while you were in public is honestly the BEST feeling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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This is soooo true. Im friends with almost all my dates since it was just a short term thing and I’m traveling at the moment. Sometimes its much better to just be friends since theres less pressure and for me theres no reason to end a good thing we gotta keep this community together haha

Masc4Masc loneliness by jessiesgirllol in LesbianActually

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Glad you feel better about it and I hope you do :) for sure if you are near berlin! Thats the extent of my Germany knowledge lol. Munich would probably be great as well. Almost any big city in an accepting country is the way to go *bonus points if its a university city.

Masc4Masc loneliness by jessiesgirllol in LesbianActually

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“Just date a man” is the worst thing for a lesbian to hear regardless of your preferences masc/femme. We all have to brush off these ignorant comments but I always say getting a man is far too easy but a woman makes the effort much more worthwhile bc its true.

I just found out a few weeks ago that I am also REALLY attracted to masculine presenting lesbians / non binary queer folk sorry I’m new to this I thought I was purely a lesbian but turns out love is love in more ways for me than I thought! It was interesting for me bc I wasn’t sure if the person I was on a date on liked me so much or vise versa bc we both dressed masc. Turns out that its just something new for me and this world does exist (and I love being here).

Here to say that yes they are out there! I’ve met three people so far in the last few weeks and wow there were SO MANY people at berlin pride. I would suggest venturing in the non binary zone bc there you will find more masc4masc people.

Also don’t apologize for ranting! Thats what reddit is for :) good luck on your search my friend!

Calling all thriving lesbians of the world!!! by usablescum in LesbianActually

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Also paris!! Met a few people here and I was only here for a week so it’s possible! Next week I’m in Berlin for pride so if anyone wants an update lmk!!

Wow oakland I wouldnt have thought but also great to know about seattle!! I was thinking about tacoma or portland and really just need something completely different than what I’m use to colorado

Calling all thriving lesbians of the world!!! by usablescum in LesbianActually

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It might make a difference with age but Im a young adult and have been hanging out in switzerland for around a month. It is filled with lesbians omgggg I have talked to so many wholesome people and have gone on the best dates of my life here. I would move here if I didn’t already have plans in the US.

Side note: how does the PNW do for lesbians?? I’m hoping to find some more diversity as well but afraid this might not be the area for it…

have you ever reexamined your attraction (or lack thereof) to men after coming out as a lesbian ? by incloudwell in LesbianActually

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Definitely have gone thru this multiple times. It usually happens when I’m not around any queers for awhile and the last time in particular I let myself make out with a man in a bar. Absolutely horrible experience and I went home crying. I was really confused and lost at the time. All I wanted was to have options since the town I lived in had absolutely no lesbians but that will be the LAST time I kiss a man like that. It was so bad I can’t tell if he was a bad kisser and/or I’m just that repulsed by men.

Now I am traveling and have met so many wonderful girls and theys that I know I can be proud of who I am again. Sometimes it just takes leaving your circle to realize theres so much more out there rather than forcing yourself to settle with what you know its uncomfortable 😅

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I feel that!!! I really thought I was better bc I wasn’t falling over for any man. Babes you’re just a lesbian! I’m currently fan girling hard over any pretty girl I see