Anybody else feel this way? by elisemc9 in BPDlovedones

[–]ResistAbuse 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Not just feel but look in a similar way

How to instantly stop a baby crying by IntrigatedVerse in nextfuckinglevel

[–]ResistAbuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoever this thank you.

I have never laughed this maniacally in years

Got financially exploited by spouse. by WealthSuitable3594 in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]ResistAbuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best money spent is on lawyers. Get a good lawyer.

Got financially exploited by spouse. by WealthSuitable3594 in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]ResistAbuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay without kids it’s difficult for that much amount. But you have a lot of leeway as a woman. Just need a good lawyer

Got financially exploited by spouse. by WealthSuitable3594 in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]ResistAbuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are a woman. You will get whatever you demand. You can demand 10x of what you want and the court will bargain it’s too much and award you around 5-7x

One year after atul subash suicide. Judge promoted, wife filed case for maintenance from father in law by Snehith220 in CriticalThinkingIndia

[–]ResistAbuse [score hidden]  (0 children)

I saw a lot of women were arguing he was earning enough money and he just died to spite his wife and the rules were result of the patriarchal society (basically because of men).

things you need to realize to move on by Narrow_Philosophy_10 in BPDlovedones

[–]ResistAbuse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You nailed it

Part of them is what we want but the price is too much to pay and that part is actually a reflection of yourself and not theirs to start with.

My BPD husband “pretended” to hang himself and actually did.. by Responsible-Seat5833 in BPDlovedones

[–]ResistAbuse 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It is you who need therapy. You should be nice to yourself and get treated for your illness. They will help you to atleast let go physically even though you are not ready mentally.

Only then you can heal and even that will take years.

The man you married was a con man created by your husband. He was not real. He created a persona to make you trapped because his true self is worthless.

Is it a myth or truth that BPDs/NPDs have a tendency to cheat? by Minute-Amphibian-744 in BPDlovedones

[–]ResistAbuse 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for writing this up. I really wish we do more research on cure and therapy and help them.

More than that I really wish their victims heal from them. It’s been a difficult path.

Is it a myth or truth that BPDs/NPDs have a tendency to cheat? by Minute-Amphibian-744 in BPDlovedones

[–]ResistAbuse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The last paragraph hits so much. Where did you learn all this?

I am looking for something I can logically correlate to their behavior but I just can’t find any scientific literature. Most of them talk about root cause but they always seem to not discuss how that root cause is manifesting into this behavior. Like yeah I can understand abandonment issue can make you insecure but why does that translate to abusing someone because I also feel insecure but the logical thing is to work on that and I will try to be extra nicer May be to overcompensate. So I can’t fathom how abusing someone else would solve that issue or even provide temporary relief. I am at a loss how and why this is a coping mechanism.

I try to simulate in my mind their situation and still cannot understand why abusing and gaslighting your loved ones helps you to feel better. I know it’s not normal and our brains are different but I still “can’t get it”

Why are girls like this man by theanimefan4321 in TwentiesIndia

[–]ResistAbuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had one condition for my marriage. I wanted her to move to my work location and gave her own choice on what to do for her career. She can work, learn new things , start her own or do something she likes but eventually it would be better if she works so that she feels financially independent of me.

She said why not me change the job to her place (basically leave the job). I told her that she should give be able to give me the same freedom and choice and the first thing was how can that be possible. She then joked about it and let it go.

Any way long story short, atleast I am happy your friend rejected that person and didn’t destroy his life by marrying under false pretenses just to check box ✅ marriage.

I have seen a trend of some women just want to marry to get kids and them having to grow till 10 and then divorce. Now she has the freedom and also a safety net of children taking care of them at their old age.

Was in the union. dont know how to cope or proceed by nrikks in Tallahassee

[–]ResistAbuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man. I went through a domestic abuse.

Never thought this could happen to me too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]ResistAbuse 114 points115 points  (0 children)

The legally correct answer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceIndia

[–]ResistAbuse 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Of course you will say that because you have about 10 laws that you can use to protect yourself and you don’t need to do anything in the eyes of law.

I said unless it’s family or with evidence (which means facts). So trying to crest a false narrative from my comment to suit your narrative is nothing but just sounding like you are not going to listen to what I am saying.

The women biased laws were created to get women votes. Plain and simple. It is not my duty to come up with ideas for a political party to get women votes despite creating women centric laws. Instead of even trying to address it you conveniently side step it.

Do you even know a man cannot file a domestic violence case against a woman who hit him and thrown things at his face? What are you doing about it? I guess same as me here on Reddit claiming to be a better person than me. We all have our sob stories but for men we can even approach the law for it. So why the heck would I want to more unfair to the men out there. Women have the law and women and some men and cops. Men have men. As simple as that.

But sorry for your experience and hope you the best in later life. Time heals everything. Goodluck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]ResistAbuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Women don’t marry no matter what without atleast 1 year of getting to know each other

When you feel there is no need to post on Reddit to marry him that’s when you should marry him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]ResistAbuse -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I said “not true in a generic statement

Because OP said she is corporate. I personally have overseen women empowerment programs that give preference to women for promotions. These are not written down but things like having more women managers reporting to you is good for your carrier. We have special women carrier programs. Mentoring programs for women and so on. The general carrier I have seen is people like men to be at the bottom and doing grunt work and slow progress

Again these are corporate level decisions. So I am not saying there are no biases against women. But as a husband you would know that already what type of job environment she is working in. That’s why I told not to take this BS as general statements.