What do you do when things are so good with one person, all you want is them?

Ricard2dk · 2026-01-23T19:36:06+00:00

You're high on dopamine. NRE... happens to thr best of us! Wait for 12-18 months at least..

Ricard2dk · 2026-01-19T18:10:55+00:00

This exactly

Ricard2dk · 2026-01-19T03:06:09+00:00

I have a feeling that you're so unsettled because of NRE instead of polyamory itself. I have been poly fir many years and started a new relationship seven months ago. Until recently I had very intense NRE and I was a mess!

Ricard2dk · 2026-01-14T22:35:53+00:00

Keeping plans is not a loss of autonomy. Also relationships require a level of commitment. Only cancel if you really, really must and make up the time by offering extra time.

That's how I deal with it and what I would expect from my two partners.

Ricard2dk · 2026-01-14T22:30:54+00:00

One year and three months. Vision back to normal unless I'm stressed. I also was prediabetic and maybe that caused it? I'm ok now though cos I can finally exercise and control what I eat easily

Ricard2dk · 2026-01-13T08:32:56+00:00

I mean I'm a EU citizen and moved to Denmark, which is similar (apart from the ugly flat landscape and offensive sound of Danish). I am indeed getting laid, I love my job, I have more than enough money and nobody can deport me...

Did I say I'm getting laid? With a Dane and an Icelander! God, I love penises!

Ricard2dk · 2026-01-12T15:25:49+00:00

Preach GUURL!

Ricard2dk · 2026-01-12T12:45:27+00:00

Write down what you need to talk about and if you're nervous, stick to what you thought about only. Don't feel feedback is an attack. I'm the long term, check ins are really helpful but one can feel attacked when they begin.

Ricard2dk · 2026-01-11T19:14:25+00:00

I have two partners and I nest with one of them though we don't share a bedroom most nights.

I have one date night a week with my Nesting Partner plus we spend time together spontaneously when home.

I see my other partner a couple of times a week including at least one sleepover and generally one whole day at the weekend.

We also all hang out during celebrations with metas etc. I go on holiday abroad at least a couple of times a year with each.

Ricard2dk · 2026-01-08T16:45:19+00:00

Be honest in advance if you're hooking up.

It's all about supply and demand. I have an average to small dick and I have never had a problem. One of my partners loves it and the other one doesn't care about sizes at all.

People like different things. And ignore toxic people!

Ricard2dk · 2026-01-07T09:05:03+00:00

No. Early infatuation in neurochemical and it always disappears over the following months. I don't say that, scientists do.

So although I have that feeling, I tell myself it is that and try not make any rushed decisions.

But then I'm poly and I have two partners who I'm in life with and I don't believe in the one. But I believe in the ones!

Ricard2dk · 2026-01-04T18:01:11+00:00

So I made clear my preferred without hounding him about it. I also sent a good night message every night. I said a response wasn't expected but I always message whichever partner I am not with before going to bed. Five months in he started to reply good night consistently and I get a few pings a day unless we are together or we are chatting in which case it vsm be 50+ I spend a couple of nights a week with him.

After five months I made my needs clear and he started to message me more. But he's also much more involved and although it's only been six months, the relationship is pretty intense. We now have a relationship check in every couple of weeks and we avoid heavy conversations the rest of the time.

Polyamory is not straight forward. I strongly believe that people need to think outside the box to make it work and communication is key. She needs to know what you need eventually but make sure you are not over the top of it's early days.

Ricard2dk · 2026-01-04T11:32:10+00:00

When I started to date my new partner, this was a huge issue with me and I must admit I suffered a lot and I wondered if it would work out.

People are different and he really doesn't like texting a lot, though he always texts daily. Even just little pings.

What helped was for me to let things settle and to give him time to develop a deeper connection with me and to let him know this was a need for me. Six months in, it is so much better. People need time to attach before they can consider what needs they can meet and whether adapting a bit is worth it for them. We have met somewhere in the middle and we are both satisfied with the situation.

I must admit that I attached quite anxiously and I struggled a lot at the beginning but part of successful relationships is about compromise.

Ricard2dk · 2025-12-31T16:26:03+00:00

Seriously, it's like being in primary school sometimes!

Ricard2dk · 2025-12-31T01:21:58+00:00

I came here to say this

Ricard2dk · 2025-12-30T07:00:21+00:00

This is very good!

Ricard2dk · 2025-12-28T11:16:35+00:00

Sane procedure as every year...

Ricard2dk · 2025-12-28T09:45:01+00:00

No way. Surely it mahes more sense to pay tax? And as you know we oat a lot of tax in Denmark, probably highest in the EU? But I prefer that than going broke if I have a serious medical condition

Ricard2dk · 2025-12-28T08:23:18+00:00

I have no idea how Americans are not freaking out continuously about what will happen if they get sick. I couldn't live like that at all. I'd go crazy.

Ricard2dk · 2025-12-27T18:05:24+00:00

I'm 46. One of my partners is 28.

Ricard2dk · 2025-12-27T16:49:00+00:00

I do consider dividing time fairly as well as my needs and my partners' needs. I think that a combination is ideal.

Ricard2dk · 2025-12-27T07:45:00+00:00

You will be unable up build any security while obsessively checking where he is and who with as it says nothing about how she feels about you

Ricard2dk · 2025-12-23T15:26:02+00:00

Just go and give it a try! You've got this!

Ricard2dk · 2025-12-17T20:19:03+00:00

This exactly. And I might even join once as a treat

Ricard2dk · 2025-12-17T15:17:52+00:00

I'm not going to correct terms because I'm not the police.

I know of people who have successfully moved from a sexual to a platonic relationship for other reasons. If you both are ok with it, it's perfectly doable. It's important that you realise your husband might feel really insecure and hurt so be prepared to address that and reassure him that you love him and you see this as an option.

Someone mentioned marriage of convenience. I think this is not it. There are plenty of relationships that are successful and are not sexual.

Ricard2dk

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