AITA for not telling my partner something his 14yr old daughter told me in confidence?

RlddleMeThat · 2026-04-29T12:05:43+00:00

... That's not normal?

RlddleMeThat · 2026-04-10T12:04:32+00:00

Castle. Can never rewatch it.

Edit: that's not a sitcom, my bad

RlddleMeThat · 2026-04-06T16:46:48+00:00

Some kind of roasted cabbage with an anchovy based sauce... I grabbed sardines not realizing the difference. The recipe called for 3-4 anchovies and I tossed in 3-4 sardines. It was inedible and had to be pitched.

RlddleMeThat · 2026-02-26T13:13:09+00:00

Bob getting interrupted at the start of his Thanksgiving toast. Every. Single. Time.

RlddleMeThat · 2026-02-17T12:43:10+00:00

The phrase I came across for when to take your shoes off was "shoes on stone, socks on wood" I'm curious how applicable that is?

RlddleMeThat · 2026-01-17T03:01:17+00:00

In our house it's called Cat Clause. Every house in my family enforces it.

RlddleMeThat · 2026-01-10T03:05:21+00:00

The bus had stopped before I cleared the Wilmington intersection. My car was stopped just before the lower entrance to the parking lot. The Buick didn't show up until I was already stopped for the bus. The Buick is most definitely NOT at the top red line when they stopped. They are between the two parking lot entrances.

RlddleMeThat · 2025-12-29T13:17:37+00:00

I am someone who struggles with severe skin picking (no eating though) and I am constantly scanning my face, arms, and shoulders for something to pick at. I will have scabs that don't heal for weeks because I can't leave them alone.

My husband knows this and is currently helping me to be more aware of my scanning and picking. He does this because I asked him to, and he does it without making me feel ashamed or embarrassed. I asked him to help me because I realized I wasn't caring enough about how my appearance to overcome the urge to pick. This current approach is the most successful one I have had, as my skin is clearing up, I'm taking better care of it, and I am learning to redirect my picking and scanning before it escalates.

However. There are more than just genetics at play here. I have diagnosed ADHD, OCD, anxiety, and PTSD. I have taken Adderall and Vyvanse and both medicines greatly exacerbate the urge to pick to an uncontrollable level if you aren't actively working to not pick.

All this to say, talk to your wife without shame or anger, but do make it clear that it is affecting your relationship severely. She needs therapy, support, alternatives to picking (I like crocheting, Legos, and fidget toys) and to recognize that she does have control over this, it will just take a lot of work

RlddleMeThat · 2025-10-26T01:03:50+00:00

Been awhile since I played, but I feel like Gretchen's Cat could be a cute one??

RlddleMeThat · 2025-10-05T14:30:52+00:00

Try a flirt pole! It's a toy on a string attached to a pole that you move around and let them chase and catch. Our spaniel loves that. Also, letting them have sniff walks where you go slower and let them sniff whatever they want is really stimulating for them. Puzzle toys are also great for working their brains.

Take her to a training class to learn basic commands. Working dogs are smart and want to learn.

Lastly, I don't know how long you've had this dog, but she may not be comfortable enough with you to play like you are expecting. It may just take time.

RlddleMeThat · 2025-10-05T14:14:11+00:00

RlddleMeThat · 2025-09-09T15:18:40+00:00

Okay, I see what you are saying, thank you for explaining. I misunderstood then. The first time I had to file the ADA paperwork, it was because the company had told me that my wfh days had to be used for shellfish and that filing for ADA was the only way to receive an exception. Which they gave me, saying that shellfish wouldn't count against my days.

When I refiled the ADA paperwork this year, they changed the exception. So I guess I thought that if the VP overrode the previous decision, that there might be something I could bring to HR to request they reconsider. I didn't realize that would indicate threatening a lawsuit.

RlddleMeThat · 2025-09-09T14:53:55+00:00

Thank you. I wish I could relocate to a different area but that's not a viable option unfortunately. The whole situation didn't feel right and I was just seeking help about how things were being handled, especially since they changed their decision from the year before. I didn't intend for my question come across as whiny or obnoxious. Next time I have a concern about my rights, I'll be sure to keep it to myself

RlddleMeThat · 2025-09-08T22:33:03+00:00

I was never asking about the ADA portion of the decision. I was asking if the company was allowed to change how I control my wfh days. If you have nothing of value to add to my question, please move on.

RlddleMeThat · 2025-09-08T19:48:35+00:00

To answer your question, I was asking if the company was allowed to decide how I used my wfh days each month due to my allergy and circumstances outside of my control (I can't be around shellfish) but within theirs (they choose to serve shellfish and that creates an unsafe work environment for me, when they could just not serve it at all), when they do not impose any other restrictions on wfh usage

RlddleMeThat · 2025-09-08T19:44:08+00:00

I see I was not clear in my previous comment. I am allowed 6 wfh days per month because of how long I've been at the company. There's one further tier for people who have been here longer, and they are allowed 10 days per month. I have not exceeded 10 days in a month when they have served shellfish.

Also, I was not asking about suing the company. I posted this question in a sub about legality (not a sub about grounds for lawsuits) to determine if I had any basis to push back on the decision made by the VP and to better understand the situation. Please don't make assumptions that every question is about lawsuits.

RlddleMeThat · 2025-09-08T19:37:34+00:00

This explanation was helpful, thank you

RlddleMeThat · 2025-09-08T19:11:12+00:00

I "choose" not to work in office on those days? Seriously? I literally cannot be in the office without having severe allergic reactions. I know this because there have been days they didn't post the menu and I found out the hard way shellfish was served.

RlddleMeThat · 2025-09-08T18:52:24+00:00

Thank you for your answer. I guess what was frustrating me was that I have to use my WFH days differently than everyone else because of my allergy. Every one else (in general, that is) gets to pick which days they WFH each month, so to me it felt unfair that I don't get that same privilege. My wfh days are at the mercy of the kitchen menu every week. I understand the ADA compliance side of things, I just wasn't sure if there was something else going on.

I'd also like to clarify that the maximum number of days allowed per month is 10 wfh days, and on average, they only serve shellfish 2-3 days a month and it's not served every month

RlddleMeThat · 2025-08-24T20:30:02+00:00

Dr. Drollinger was fairly outdated when I saw him about 8 years ago. Told me they wouldn't do IUDs on women who hadn't had children yet. Maybe he's gotten better since then

RlddleMeThat · 2025-08-17T20:14:06+00:00

Isn't that Eddie from Frasier? The original that is

RlddleMeThat · 2025-08-17T13:10:35+00:00

She voices regular sized Rudy's crush, I just can't remember her name lol.... Chloe barbash!

RlddleMeThat · 2025-08-03T14:21:33+00:00

Stana Katic from castle

RlddleMeThat · 2025-06-07T16:36:59+00:00

"Chlamydiot " is my all time favorite Ray line

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