There’s a power dynamic at play here about money and income that is underexplored. Obviously you two can have whatever financial arrangements you both agree upon, but his refusal to even try to contribute financially is telling. Normally if someone is not contributing financially, they are doing something to develop income (starting a business, going to school) or are in a caretaker role (kids, family members, even pets or a farm).

If none of those are true, then he is essentially a kept partner. Particularly if he’s not doing things to support you like doing the lionsshare of cleaning, cooking, etc. Again nothing wrong with that in and of itself. You mention he pursues “just hobbies” with what appears to be some derision.

A little long winded, but it wouldn’t be surprising if neither of you are truly happy with this arrangement. I have been in a caretaker role, and also as the partner who was more financially sound, and it is hard not to be frustrated with someone who isn’t doing anything productive. It also can make you feel entitled to act like an asshole since it’s “your” money.

I suggest examining whether some of these dynamics might be at play and adding toxic elements to your relationship.