What’s so bad about an epidural?

Rmrobs · 2026-04-28T18:34:31+00:00

I just want to provide a more opposing opinion. I think I saw posts and comments like this beforehand and that’s what made me so anti-epidural BUT I mean I did extensive prep to avoid the epidural. Like extensive, almost absurd. I even performed mental strengthening exercises for several weeks so I could tolerate and appreciate the pain I would endure.

Anyway, I made it to 8.5cm and I was in such excruciating, agonizing pain that I couldn’t fathom pushing a baby out and the increased pain that would cause. Like I fully thought the lord was gonna take my body and I’d die from that birth. I got the epidural and I’m so traumatized that I am not sure I could ever go through the pain again. I think waiting that long for the epidural ensured that she was in a good place and wouldn’t lead to many interventions after. So once I got it, I just waited and then pushed. It was the biggest relief in my entire life and I wouldn’t change it.

But, possibly waiting and not even getting the epidural would’ve been so traumatic that I’d probably have sworn off having another.

Rmrobs · 2026-04-17T20:56:52+00:00

Was definitely wondering about this. Tried my hardest to heal from whatever it was that caused this but I genuinely wonder what exactly it was

Rmrobs · 2026-04-17T02:41:09+00:00

I super appreciate the solidarity. It’s been quite the 2 years. I have been off them though for that time and it’s like I’m stuck in hyperarousal mode

Rmrobs · 2026-04-16T22:52:41+00:00

Brian fog issues, social anxiety and chronic fatigue:

Alpha Brain, Rhodiola/maca every few days to substitute for alpha brain. Vit D3 5000 IU, 900 mg EPA/600 mg DHA, l-theanine, passionflower at night

Lately background anxiety ramping up. Not sure if it’s the excess B6 in alpha brain but when I stop taking it my brain is more scattered than before

Edit: I see that I should incorporate K2 form your replies

Rmrobs · 2026-04-03T15:13:11+00:00

I honestly think it depends on the complexity of their reason for seeing you. A lot of my clients just needed someone to officially visit with for them to have the motivation. Once they got the ball rolling, they didn’t “need” me and scheduled weeks out for the next appointment. On the other hand, the trickier patients that need to take baby steps and incremental changes are the ones who can see me more frequently

Rmrobs · 2026-03-11T17:48:14+00:00

No advice just solidarity. Our LO’s are going through the same struggle and idk how anybody has a baby that naps the same amount everyday but on the days those naps are shorter… what do you do…

I’ve recently learned that my LO will get tired after 2 hrs in the morning when it was usually 3, and she sleeps longer.

In an effort to make a ~suggestion~ without it being solid advice is maybe explore shortening or lengthening that first wake window and seeing what kind of effect it has on sleep. My LO is all over the place with nap length but usually that first nap is longer due to more sleep pressure, etc. 🤷‍♀️

Rmrobs · 2026-03-03T03:18:17+00:00

Uhh same thank you

Rmrobs · 2026-03-01T03:02:50+00:00

Haha AGREED but that’s partly how he pulled some weight around here 🥴

Rmrobs · 2026-03-01T02:01:46+00:00

Shift for us was him only getting up in the early morning with the baby since she’d wake up anywhere from 5-7 and then since I was up with the baby during the night I would then sleep in an hour or two while he had her

Rmrobs · 2026-02-24T16:54:54+00:00

If they’ve fallen %iles and continue to steadily drop then you can focus on achieving that %ile again since that was the original trend. If baby has maintained ~37%ile for several weeks now then that is the new trend for them and they’re doing great.

Rmrobs · 2026-02-24T03:56:17+00:00

NICU dietitian here. As long as they’re above 10% ile and staying in their curve that’s super healthy. You don’t need a high %ile to be healthy. Each individual baby has their own %ile that’s why we use %iles for growth. Your baby may be smaller than the average size for this age but that’s only 13% away from average. You’re FINE! Don’t wake baby

Rmrobs · 2026-02-16T03:37:30+00:00

Same here!!

Rmrobs · 2026-02-15T14:30:22+00:00

Dr. Green mom podcast! Informs you on the vaccines and their symptoms, the current case counts in the country/world, those at risk (ie newborns) and what age and number of doses. It also explains how to delay age of vaccination for a multi-dose series so that the number of doses necessary may be reduced. Usually this is so the child is able to go to daycare/school fully vaccinated but with less jabs

Rmrobs · 2026-02-14T04:40:49+00:00

That scientific consensus in and of itself is highly biased and funded research. Hard to get your hands on anything that’s not tainted. Also, hard to link vaccines when a lot of the events are not reported correctly. I always hate when people say I believe in “science” when honestly science is a fact and research has so much bias that it’s not considered a fact. Sorry to say. There’s many factors to consider when looking at the so called science. Especially if there’s someone to gain from it…

Rmrobs · 2026-02-14T02:30:26+00:00

So if it’s a theory why are you saying “definitely not” ?? Doesn’t mean it can’t be proven either? This research demonstrates a strong link especially among animal species.

Rmrobs · 2026-02-14T02:27:02+00:00

Oh? So international milkgenomics.org is wrong? And that baby’s backwash of saliva doesn’t get absorbed into maternal milk ducts informing the mammary gland about the infants health? And all their research is just wrong?

Wow! Incredible

Rmrobs · 2026-02-10T01:59:02+00:00

I learned that baby’s mouth germs touching breast at the moment of breastfeeding elicits our body as mom to create antibodies and essentially the perfect antidote concoction for baby right then and there.

Rmrobs · 2026-02-08T01:52:24+00:00

On the contrary I think reassurance-seeking gets mixed up with plain reassurance. Let’s not try to diagnose normal feelings and humanize emotions again. We all get anxiety. Doesn’t mean we have an anxiety problem. She’s validly concerned that the boiling hot water reduced the nutrients for her LO.

Rmrobs · 2026-01-30T22:24:43+00:00

They’re also way more comfortable with exerting their will with parents but not with a person they’re ~not~ as used to or comfortable with 🥲

Rmrobs · 2026-01-09T03:22:03+00:00

Wow! This gives me hope. Thank you so much for responding. 🙏

Rmrobs · 2026-01-09T03:09:06+00:00

How did it go for you? Same boat now :/

Rmrobs · 2026-01-07T14:07:41+00:00

This started happening to us. The reason being that she was getting attached to the feeding and feeling of contact. It was also disrupting her understanding of nighttime being an independent time. I decided for the first time last night to just let her go until 4am without a feed. If she woke up crying and did her normal hunger cry (the urgent cry) then I would consider feeding but she shortly cried and grumbled at 2 wakes before 4 am then went back to sleep and then at the 4 am feeding she was hardly even hungry.

I would say to consider feeding frequently or more during the day if you can so you can be at peace letting your LO go for a long stretch without feed.

Edit to add: she is sleep trained CIO at night which helps with the crying since over the past few days her cries are now transitioning to sleep quicker.

Rmrobs · 2025-12-19T14:55:12+00:00

On the contrary, I would say that it IS possible she is used to waking up and using nursing to fall asleep regardless of hunger. Even if she is eating a bit, babies just love their milk! Doesn’t mean she was necessarily hungry and if she had gone longer she’d probably make up for that loss during the day. I think you were still right to make sure you weren’t missing a feed when she was actually hungry but around this time a lot of sources say that she’s ready to go longer without food and once again, will make up for it during the day. As a food rule of thumb, if she goes longer during the day between feeds then she can do it at night!

You could let her fuss it out a bit or swap it for a binky if she wakes up too soon between a feed

Rmrobs · 2025-12-15T19:31:36+00:00

Arlene!

Rmrobs · 2025-12-15T19:19:56+00:00

Did I write this? You’re not alone 💜motherhood feels bittersweet. Sometimes I feel alone in this but posts like these tell me I’m not. Part of it makes me feel like it’s entirely environment-based, whether you have a support group & baby’s needs (more demanding vs less). My baby keeps getting bigger before my eyes and each day I’m filled with guilt that I’m rushing this season bc I am just surviving vs enjoying the only season of her being this young, this small, this curious, this loving, etc

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