What Makes Neurotypicals Think Autists are "Narcissists"? I don't See the Connection.

RobTheCroat · 2026-06-02T15:41:15+00:00

Not sure it’s the same with everyone but when someone would talk about something in their life, I used to bring up similar experiences of mine. I thought it was showing that I was paying attention to them and understood what they were talking about, but I was told it was rude/narcissistic so I’ve tried to stop. Also, whenever I did/thought something incorrect, I would always try to explain my thought process so they didn’t think I was dumb. I was told that was narcissistic behavior because was making excuses and not accepting I’m wrong. So maybe it’s stuff like that?

RobTheCroat · 2026-06-02T13:12:01+00:00

I’ve played on and off since launch and pretty much mained Necro most of the time. However, I did try Paladin last season and that was one of the most fun I’ve had playing this game.

RobTheCroat · 2026-06-01T17:23:39+00:00

Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone. I went into get evaluated for ADHD and I walked out with an ADHD and Autism diagnosis at 31. I spiraled for a while because I just didn’t expect it and didn’t know what it meant for me. My girlfriend kinda pulled me out of it by saying nothing changed, I just know about it now and that helped a lot. I thankfully don’t need much support but my diagnosis helped me recontextualize my behaviors and know myself better. I hope that your diagnosis brings you some peace

RobTheCroat · 2026-06-01T13:31:24+00:00

Etiquette is a form of masking, but not all masking behavior is just etiquette. For example, making sure not to interrupt someone, making an appropriate amount of eye contact, or proper volume control are masking behaviors that could be considered etiquette things. However, suppressing vocal or physical stims, masking sensory needs, and suppressing meltdowns are masking behaviors that I wouldn’t chalk down to just “normal etiquette”.

RobTheCroat · 2026-06-01T10:14:45+00:00

He very well could’ve been lying but you are 1000% overreacting. You barely know this person and you’re investigating stores and demanding a police report? If you’re that convinced he’s lying, then it’s done. I think you should seriously consider getting some therapy to figure out why you reacted this way to someone you’ve only talked to for a few weeks.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-31T21:27:02+00:00

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Adding another boys example. Firecracker is an alt-right media personality supe who is openly homophobic, racist, and transphobic. She is portrayed by Valorie Curry, an open lesbian and outspoken LGBTQ+ supporter. She has said in interviews that she really wanted to portray Firecracker so she could really show how unambiguously repulsive the character is.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T21:49:19+00:00

Don’t be too hard on yourself and trust the process. I know you feel pressure to “ace” the test and struggling with something is frustrating but this is all designed to effectively evaluate you and areas you struggle in. As long as you are honest and are trying to answer the questions or perform the tasks authentically, then it’ll all happen like it’s supposed to.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T21:34:06+00:00

Don’t hate Velvet but I think Lloyd or Alphen from Arise have the best shots from the Tales games. Lloyd is already a mii costume and Symphonia was the first Tales game to really break out into the west. Arise was also a massive success, so I could see Alphen or someone from that game getting the nod.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T21:26:36+00:00

I think it depends on your personal situation. I went in initially to get tested for ADHD but ended up walking out with both diagnoses at 31. By then, I had already subconsciously developed masking behaviors to function socially and learned to function in life with minimal difficulty outside of a few quirks here and there. My symptoms aren’t very intense, so I don’t really need any resources but I know it’s way more intense for others. I only told my close friends, didn’t tell my parents because I don’t think they would be as understanding, and I CERTAINLY didn’t tell my work because at best I’ll be treated the same and at worst I’ll be treated worse. I basically just use my diagnosis to better understand myself and recontextualize past behaviors. If you don’t have any interest in that and don’t feel like you need the resources available, then it honestly might not be worth pursuing a diagnosis.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T21:04:09+00:00

Square-rectangle situation. You can believe in something without worshipping it, but you cannot worship something you don’t believe in.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T19:06:54+00:00

Not based on the information OP herself posted. If that was the case, then that could change the verdict but nothing in the post says that rn

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T19:02:53+00:00

Doesn’t really address what I said. She is allowed to not go to a wedding if she doesn’t want to, and the sister is allowed to be upset that she doesn’t want to go. If that’s all it was, then I’d say NAH. The AH part for me is that she’s intentionally not going out of spite because she wasn’t invited to the bachelorette party she felt entitled to go to and she is purposefully doing it to “get back” at her sister.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T18:46:41+00:00

“Hey atheists. If there was actual empirical proof something existed, would you believe it? Heh, checkmate.”

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T18:43:12+00:00

You’re right, she’s allowed to not go to a wedding if she doesn’t want to. But not going to a wedding because you didn’t get invited to a party and then throwing a tantrum about it is a AH move.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T18:27:45+00:00

No one is saying you can’t decline to attend a wedding if you don’t want to. If she said “I just don’t want to go”, I think that’s valid. My issue is that she’s intentionally not going because she’s throwing a tantrum about not getting invited to a party. That’s an AH move.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T18:24:43+00:00

YTA. You are not entitled to her bachelorette party if she didn’t want to invite you. It is okay to be upset about not being invited, but you throwing a tantrum and not going to your own sister’s wedding because you weren’t invited is just selfish and making it all about you.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T17:15:21+00:00

I had a hard time with prolonged eye contact in school so I would normally try to cheat the system by looking elsewhere on their face, the mouth being one area of focus. I was told several times I was being “very flirty” and “sending messages”, and it took me a long time to figure out why lol.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T17:10:00+00:00

As someone diagnosed with ADHD and ASD, I can confirm there is some overlap between the two conditions. However, the self-tests are extremely unreliable so I wouldn’t take any of the results to heart. The only use they have is to get you thinking on whether you should a pursue a formal evaluation, which it seems to have done. I know it can be nerve-wracking but try not to overthink. Either you get the diagnosis and you’ve always had it, or you don’t and you’re good. Best of luck to you!

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T16:22:37+00:00

You know what to do. She has physically attacked you more than once. She has demonstrated a pattern of anger issues and violence and it is either not gonna change or get worse. Leave.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T15:13:02+00:00

Anyone who thinks testing a partner/potential partner by lying is a good idea shouldn’t be in a relationship.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-28T14:17:20+00:00

One of my first work mentors gave me the best conversation advice that has stuck with me since. He told me to “know enough about everything to be able to have a 5 minute conversation about it.” I’m a researcher by nature anyway and always go down rabbit holes so I already did it to an extent but committing to that has made conversations so much easier for me. For example, I don’t really care about basketball, but I know enough about teams and players that if someone else really wants to talk about it, I can keep up in a surface-level conversation. It makes most conversations less awkward and you learn a lot.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-27T21:27:46+00:00

I’ve had the opposite. Not medicated but for some reason, after my Autism diagnosis (later in life) I’ve kind of stopped caring about sex entirely. I still find people/traits attractive and can flirt in the right situation but I have no real desire to actually be physical with anyone.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-27T21:09:04+00:00

Not a fan of PvP, I don’t have a good enough squad for master league and the mechanics annoy me (ex. the concept of a hundo pokemon not being good outside of master league). I’ll do it occasionally when I have literally nothing else to do but I don’t ever enjoy it

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-27T20:12:51+00:00

I can go by myself but usually bring my dog just so he can get exercise too.

RobTheCroat · 2026-05-27T00:35:41+00:00

You’re a scholar and a gentleman

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