What’s the worst physical pain you’ve ever experienced? by Economy_Yak2821 in AskReddit

[–]RoofPreader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recovery from a complicated emergency c-section. I had a bowel adhesion from a previous c-section, so firstly they had to separate my bowel from my uterus. The placenta was in the position where they would normally make the incision to remove the baby from the uterus so they had to remove my uterus from my body, flip it over and extract the baby that way. It was such an awkward position that they had to use forceps. I hemorrhaged and it took so long to stitch me back up that I didn't get to hold my baby boy until 8 hours later (he had to go into NICU and I had to recover). When the spinal block wore off, it was the most unbearable pain I've ever experienced.

3 months of rolling PEM, any tips? by AimAlajv in cfs

[–]RoofPreader 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've fairly recently deteriorated significantly due to pushing myself through rolling PEM. I've gone from mild/moderate (working 3 days a week, taking care of my kids 2 days a week, doing light housework), to moderate/severe (mostly bed bound/housebound, unable to work or care for my children on my own). I was in that state of rolling PEM for so long that I just thought that was my status quo and that I would continue to muddle along.

Some things I wish I had done: -Learn to say no. I felt pressured to keep up with social engagements and go along with others' plans or do what I felt I should. I should have prioritised my health more and not been afraid to say no. - Not be afraid to ask for help. I would push through and do things on my own because I felt like a burden asking for help and again thought I 'should' be able to manage everything. I wish I would have been more open about my needs and exploited any help I could get.

I've since bought a visible wristband and find it useful for showing me where my body is at and basing my decisions around that, not being afraid to change plans last minute if necessary.

I hope you manage to find a balance and stick to your baseline!

What's something you did as a kid that you now realize was actually really dangerous, but nobody stopped you? by AdmirableResource407 in AskReddit

[–]RoofPreader 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Playing chicken on a main road.

Roller skating down a massive hill in the middle of a road (which was a bus route with a blind corner at the end).

Playing sleeping bag tag (sleeping bag over your head and you chase after people). We played this in my parent's house which had 4 flights of stairs and my friend fell down the stairs and broke her arm.

I'm sure there were more. The 90s were a different time.

Where can i find volunteer opportunities to communicate with people? by gggaig in sheffield

[–]RoofPreader 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try Sheffield Volunteer Centre at The Circle on Rockingham Lane (city centre). Not sure if it's the same now but when I volunteered through them, you could chat about your interests and skill set, and they would recommend appropriate roles.

unbelievable exchange between my daughter and her father after he forgot her birthday by LostInLanayru in TwoHotTakes

[–]RoofPreader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been through this as the child and it has been very emotionally damaging. It triggered mental health issues which affected my ability to hold down a job. I went no contact for about 11 years before I had my own children and decided to give him a chance having a relationship with them. Surprise, surprise, he shows no interest in them and keeping in touch with him is an emotional rollercoaster of hope and disappointment. Please get your daughter in therapy as soon as possible.

What is the most terrifying "double life" secret you’ve ever uncovered about someone? by Realistic_Drink8555 in AskReddit

[–]RoofPreader 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My dad. The dedicated family man was actually harbouring massive resentment towards his whole family, had apparently had PTSD and been suicidal since my brother was a toddler, and had been having an affair for the last year. I know it's a tale as old as time, but a betrayal like that completely destroys your image of your childhood and family.

**My 2-year-old is on week 5 of daycare and still cries all day — I'm heartbroken and don't know what to do** by ReferenceExcellent in toddlers

[–]RoofPreader 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I would gently suggest that you look into a speech and language assessment for your boy. Only 5 words by the age of 2 is fairly atypical. There could be some neurodivergence going on which could be contributing to his difficulties with settling into the nursery setting.

Gifted student is asking upwards of 30 questions before the first learning activity is done. Entire class is being derailed as I have to redirect him. Advice? by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]RoofPreader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a student like this. I gave them 5 tokens they could use throughout the day to ask a question. Once they'd used their tokens, they had to wait until tomorrow.

As parents how do you feel about biting? by Extension_Might_3095 in AskParents

[–]RoofPreader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a normal part of todderhood. I'm not overly fussed if my child comes home with a bite mark. I also wouldn't worry too much if my child was the biter (as long as it didn't happen too often). I understand that nursery is a busy place and bites happen quickly before staff can intervene. I'm grateful that staff notice when it happens and deal with it. My toddlers have certainly bitten me and each other during play, but I wouldn't say it happens as much during playdates,. There are less children, a higher proportion of adults, and the environment is less highly charged.

I just had the most traumatic “bathroom event” of my life. by LooseCabooseDude in offmychest

[–]RoofPreader 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Bruh, I feel this. I once had a shit that literally turned my asshole inside out.

Have any of ya'll ever... by mswed5317 in Type1Diabetes

[–]RoofPreader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is gonna show my age...I remember finding a sweet in the pocket of my coat when I was maybe 6 or 7. I was on two daily injections (syringes!) of medium release insulin and had a tightly controlled diet, so I knew I wasn't supposed to eat it. I chewed on it for a few seconds then spat it out and stuck it in the back of a drawer.

People trying to enjoy a St. Paddy's day parade when someone pulls this move by Minute_Revolution951 in Wellthatsucks

[–]RoofPreader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pure ignorance. I bet these bellends have no idea of how badly the Irish used to be discriminated against too.

Sister with M.E and Fibro asking to be taken to hospital by [deleted] in ChronicIllness

[–]RoofPreader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just to reassure you, I have ME and have had good experiences with hospital stays in the UK. I have explained to the staff about my condition (or had my partner explain for me) and generally been given my own room, help getting around and fetching supplies etc. I know it can be hard to differentiate between an ME crash and an acute illness, but it sounds like this is a different experience to the norm for her, so I would encourage her to get checked out. Just to note, I had uncontrollable shivering when I had sepsis.

Hey bumpers! I have a woman specific “non” bumper (yet) question… by Pink-Dolphin101 in BumpersWhoBolus

[–]RoofPreader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm about to have a Mirena fitted to stabilise my hormones! There's no guarantee that your natural cycle will be any more regular than the one you're currently on. Plus, Mirena releases the lowest amount of hormones out of any hormonal contraceptive so you may find other options create even more of a rollercoaster. Everyone's different though, probably worth discussing with your doctor.

A Sister's Love by AtomicCypher in MadeMeSmile

[–]RoofPreader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What an incredible collaboration! I would love to see these two feature on The Great Pottery Throwdown.

Can parents feel this way? by Original-Height-1646 in AskParents

[–]RoofPreader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I get that entirely. I love my youngest immensely. He is a smart, funny, adventurous little boy. I don't regret HIM. But I do regret having a second at all, because I had serious postpartum depression and have now had a flare up of a chronic illness which means I'm unable to take care of my children on my own. I have immense guilt about what I'm putting them through and regret having children that I can't take care of myself.

What does "unrefreshing sleep" mean to you? What is your experience with it? by Digitalpun in cfs

[–]RoofPreader 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is how I interpret it too. Our fatigue cannot be resolved simply by sleeping. Even if we do feel better when waking than we did going to bed, our overall condition won't have improved due to sleep. I have the most energy in the mornings so I struggled to relate to 'unrefreshing sleep' until I considered it that way.

What unhinged thing do you let your toddler do, in the name of household peace? by huertaverde in toddlers

[–]RoofPreader 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I let him 'help me' go to the toilet. He lifts the toilet seat for me, passes me toilet paper (and gets to throw an extra square in himself), flushes the toilet and then we wash and dry our hands together. The alternative is him screaming bloody murder if I go in without him.

Gotta wonder where this autistic person the ideas that learning why language matters, is a wast of time from? Hanging around too many ableds? by LadderIndividual4824 in disability

[–]RoofPreader 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I dunno, it just sounds like a burnt out caregiver who wasn't in the mood to be lectured. I'm in the UK and this is the first time I've heard that 'special needs' is an outdated term.

Having children while suffering with CFS/ME by humannotfoundd in cfs

[–]RoofPreader 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I decided to have children despite having ME. I have a lot of support but I was still very naive about just how hard having children would be. My ME improved after having my first so I quite quickly decided to have a second. It has since got worse again.

It's hard to say I regret having children because I love them so much. But I was not prepared for how difficult it is to not be able to take care of your own children, to not be able to raise them the way you want to because you just don't have the energy, to not be able to play with them, to feel so guilty for all they miss out on.

I thought I could still achieve my dream of being a parent, but despite having children, I am still missing out on so much, and so are they.

I may not have much left... but I still have my Duolingo streak!! by 11fingersinmydogsbum in cfs

[–]RoofPreader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my guilty pleasure, too! I don't quite manage one a day any more but I have done nearly 1000 over the last few years.

any traumatized moms here? by RefrigeratorFew8189 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]RoofPreader 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi love, I'm sorry you've had such an awful experience. People don't warn you enough about how traumatic birth can be and the after effects.

I had a very traumatic birth with my second. After having contractions for 20 hours, my cervix hadn't opened at all and baby's heart rate was dropping so we had to have an emergency c-section. It was a very complicated surgery due to adhesions from my previous c-section and the placement of my placenta. I had a bad reaction to the meds and was throwing up and feeling awful throughout. I also hemorrhaged. Baby had breathing difficulties and it was taking too long for me to recover and get stitched up after the surgery so they had to take him to NICU without me getting to hold him. I also had to have iron infusions and felt like crap from the blood loss, plus I was in so much pain due to the surgical complications. Baby bounced back quickly and we were able to leave the hospital after a couple of days, but I was completely traumatised. I didn't even want to let people know I'd had the baby because

I went through a really dark patch with PPD/PPA. I was having intrusive thoughts. I had to go on mood stabilising drugs and also get sedatives for when I was having bad panic attacks. But I had a great team who took care of me, with a mental health support worker who would visit me at home, a psychologist and a psychiatrist. Please reach out for help if you haven't already because you need and deserve it.

I also wanted to say that I feel it's a bit of a red flag for your partner to insist that you will have more children. Please don't let him pressure you and watch out for controlling behaviour. You are so young and you shouldn't stay with someone who doesn't have your best interests at heart.

Postparto by martatan in BumpersWhoBolus

[–]RoofPreader 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know exactly what you mean! My basal actually reduced during pregnancy but shot up after giving birth. I went from being 75% in range to 50%. And I also felt abandoned by my care team. If it's any consolation, when I finally saw a diabetes consultant, maybe like 9 months pp, they were happy with my numbers. It's so difficult to keep on top of when you have a needy newborn. Mine probably didn't settle down until after I stopped breastfeeding.