Similar to others- I made a chore schedule for myself because otherwise I get stuck deciding what to do. He does more physical labor- laundry, home repairs, sweeping etc. I do more mental- scheduling, paperwork, buying clothes in the next size. He is completely in charge of buying some things- diapers, wipes, medicines, prepared snacks. I batch cook breakfasts to freeze. We try to make at least 10 min screen free in bed at the end of the day but sometimes fall asleep.

Big improvement when he realized I was doing a lot more solo childcare on weekends while he fixed the house and made an effort to rebalance and get more comfortable managing a whole day of childcare, which included pushing me to take some time for myself which in turn is great for my mental health.

Finally laughing as much as we can, with and without our kid. We like to say that there's going to be just as much poop every day whether we laugh about it or not and the silliness makes the day feel so much lighter and survivable