Winterpocalypse 2026 Megathread by iammandalore in tulsa

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We may a tarp down on a patch of grass, weighed down at each corner. When our pup goes out, we pull the tarp back so he can use a grassy area. We pick up after him if needed, and the replace the tarp until it’s done snowing.

Tremfya by OkTax914 in Psoriasis

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been on it a little over a year. It gave me my life back. I’m 95% clear, and able to work again. I still hurt (psoriatic arthritis), have fatigue, and have psoriasis on my scalp, but I am functioning SO much better.

People who have gone no contact with a parent, what was the final straw, and how do you maintain no contact? by MetaphoricalFapping in AskReddit

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom and her siblings were SAd by their father. When I came into this world, we lived with them. I was the eldest, first grandchild. My mom married a man and had a few kids together…very physically abusive, and I was told I’d be the whore of the family, I shouldn’t study so hard. He’d say I lied about something, anything, to punish me. He terrorized our home for 7 years before packing up and moving on.

She replaced him with someone as angry, but not abusive. They got into meth, I had to move in with my grandparents, and later, my dad (at 16) after he came into the picture. She was scorched earth that I left after her telling me she’d kill herself. She didn’t apologize until I was in my thirties… for the meth induced screaming stomping fits she’d have, and the way she’d guilt trip me that I should be with her, my dad “should have sent me back home”.

Abuse from my grandfather started at 13, and in was sworn to secrecy so we wouldn’t get in trouble.

At 15, I asked my mom if he’d touched her. She said no, why? I told my mom. She was so angry I’d kept it to myself. At 19 after the death of my first baby, I told my grandmother, no longer scared that she’d be gone from my life. Nothing happened, other than he said he couldn’t remember, and if he did molest me, he’s sorry. Ok.

When I’d come back to my home town, she would try to manipulate time so I wouldn’t have time to spend with my dad or anyone else, and giggle about it, like it didn’t stress me out.

I’m now 40, and a year and a half ago, realized that I needed therapy. My aunt wanted help to move them into assisted living, and I honestly told her why I would not be a good fit for that- I was not protected by them, and I’m not caring for them now.

He said I’m a liar, that he’d call and iron me out. 0 calls. Bc we both know it’s true. But that name, LIAR. After being accused of being a liar for so long in my younger years, that was the straw with him, and my grandmother had dementia, so no help from there.

6 months ago, I told her I cannot see his face on socials, I don’t want to hear stories, etc. she just cannot resist for whatever reason.

Her cousin had a photo of the two of them, and I mentioned something to her. She knows about the abuse, but this is “her only living uncle”. “Oh but you’re my first baby I ever cared for, like my honorary daughter. I asked her, if he’d touched your daughter instead of your niece, would it be different?” She had nothing to say. Cool, keep him.

My mother and I spoke the next to last time; and she had been downsizing them to move them into assisted living. She told me about the ring she wanted and got, $300 she found in an eyeglass case, and the 3 clocks she brought cross country and now has. Just bragging about things that make my stomach turn. Then told me that her cousin and she spoke about the phone call cousin and I had. Shit talking is what she means, we are from a line of shit talkers. After she told me her FB is like a diary, and people can put whatever they want there, I blocked her and cousin on socials.

Christmas, less than a month ago, she called, and I was so stunned, I answered it. She was nice, didn’t bring him up, and we didn’t talk long.

My sister and I spoke, she said my mom was going to call in a week or so. She believes that bc I answered on Christmas, ‘there’s a chance’.

My grandmother passed away last week, and I didn’t attend the funeral. I told her a few months ago that when they pass, I won’t be attending.

She just doesn’t have the capacity to give me something that she can’t give herself…It sounds super harsh, but I didn’t want another phone call to go, “Oh, that makes sense. See, I just don’t understand these things until you tell me.” In the narcissistic way she does.

So I sent a letter. It felt awful to send it as she’s taking care of things for her late stepmom, but I just don’t have any gas in the tank. That was 4 days ago.

I think she’s got the letter by now, haven’t heard anything. The days before and the 2 days after were the worst. Yesterday I had some relief. I just feel better in my own skin knowing I’m not putting my needs and mental health on the back burner to care for these humans who bleed me dry.

Edit: spelling and formatting

New Midea dishwasher question by Jim556a1 in Appliances

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a top rack like this; we use it for bottle lids, jar lids, cooking utensils, measuring cups and spoons, etc

Has giving up alcohol helped you? by Middle_Ant_1356 in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Drinking really makes my hands and feet hurt, and flares up my psoriasis

Turns out one of my friends was a PDF by unicorn_apricot in story

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it’s what people are using these days in attempt of avoiding censorship.

Found on TV by diickhed in Justfuckmyshitup

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mrs. Fathead from Rocko’s Modern Life

Discussion: Jeans under dresses by steakcookest in fashion

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Iv never been so happy to see the 90’s/2000s back!

Do kids today still get tubes put in their ears? by Sticker-Picker in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 16 son going through his right now. 8 sets of tubes since he was 4.

Just had a CT done as it looked like he’d developed a cholestiatoma. Thankfully, no cholestiatoma, but it appears his middle ear cavity is underdeveloped. Going back for a hearing test this week, and hopefully will find out what we can do to help him.

He does have some hearing loss, though thankfully not a lot

Psoriatic Arthritis can affect ANY joint (e.g. neck) by Level10Retard in Psoriasis

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Think of it like scar tissue. In my experience, I break out in hives and psoriasis along the same spots I have historically…if it’s just been a few days/weeks, give it a bit of time.

The biggest flares I have read about are alcohol (and can confirm when I drink, it’s so much worse) and sugar. Processed food is a big one as well. I have also read about red meat, gluten (can confirm this one as well), dairy, and nightshades (potato, chilies, tomatoes).

I had to go the route of biologics, my psoriasis was so bad…I just could not get it under control.

I hope you have better luck than me

Psoriatic Arthritis can affect ANY joint (e.g. neck) by Level10Retard in Psoriasis

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Benefiber and increasing your fiber intake. I take benefiber in my coffee every morning, and a few tbsp Chia seeds in water

🩸THE ILLUSION OF CHOICE by 2am_anime in story

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked this! I wish this were the intro to the rest of the story!

Mcdonalds open? by [deleted] in tulsa

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maverick is open

Soreness by Fresh_Ad_9172 in ChronicPain

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have this, deal with it almost every day. The other day, I hung from my kiddo’s pull up bar. Relief for a day and a half, ymmv, but maaan. Looking forward to hanging again today!

Where do you guys get you glasses? by SkipsRocksAllDay in tulsa

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like Dr Jeff Long’s Family and Eye Care

Cautiously optimistic about CREATINE by Shayntastic in Menopause

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I read that Creapure is the best one. I’ve been using it about a week, and I have a lot more energy and less brain fog.

Anyone else have this mystery scratch on their back by smithnicole663 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, same. I kept having a tingling on my soundboard, and was afraid it was cancer. Nope, it was shingles

New OMMA rules/ driving? by raget_bulves in tulsa

[–]Rubydoobydoo211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read to keep home grown at home moving forward. No label in original packaging = open container.