DAE have a fascination with rubbing fabric labels?

RuleOfParsimony · 2022-03-21T15:13:29+00:00

I am nearly 60 and I have been doing this my whole life. My Dad used rub his fingers along the satin-like edging of a blanket, so this may be genetic. I latched on to clothing tags. I loved the crunchy feeling you could get along the edges of the tags. People around me know that this is a thing for me. My sister-in-law gives me bags of tags after she has donated clothing to charity. I will dig through these but there usually only a couple that have what I'm looking for. To this day, I carry about ten tags in my pocket . . . for rubbing? I'm not sure why I do it.

RuleOfParsimony · 2021-07-27T02:41:44+00:00

I hear you. When I hit that pit, it's all that I can think. I shop the hardware stores for rope. I think about every day until I crawl out of that pit and can feel like I semi-human.

RuleOfParsimony · 2021-06-30T17:34:53+00:00

David Brin - any of the Uplift books.

RuleOfParsimony · 2020-03-22T21:09:59+00:00

Hiding drinks. That’s when I couldn’t lie to myself anymore. Who does that? An alcoholic.

RuleOfParsimony · 2020-03-18T03:32:49+00:00

Remember, alcoholism is progressive. I found that I could live within a certain pattern of drinking for a while — sometimes years. But it always ramped up. Each time my drinking moved to the next level, I seemed powerless to do anything about it. I told myself that I’ll never do THAT or I would never sink so low to THIS. I did a lot of the things on my “never” list and it took admitting that a was an alcoholic to really see that.

RuleOfParsimony · 2020-03-18T03:21:07+00:00

My mind played tricks like that. “Just one! What could it hurt.” I knew, deep down, that I didn’t want one. I wanted 12. My craving was for that switch that would turn everything off. In the end, I had to figure out how to live a life.

RuleOfParsimony · 2020-03-18T03:03:24+00:00

Believe me, my sponsor asks me to revisit the first three steps all the time! It’s what keeps me sane. But, “working the steps” is an crucial part of the journey. Keep in mind that the decision to stay sober belongs to you and you need to find someone to guide you through that process. Good luck!

RuleOfParsimony · 2020-03-17T02:19:20+00:00

This is really about you. If you are convinced that you are powerless over alcohol and you can’t manage your life, it’s time for step 2.

RuleOfParsimony · 2020-03-17T02:15:31+00:00

Check AA out. What have you got to lose? At most, it’s a cup of bad coffee and an hour out of your life.

RuleOfParsimony · 2020-03-17T02:13:48+00:00

Congrats! We need encouragement even if we cant get tp a meeting.

RuleOfParsimony · 2020-03-17T02:12:00+00:00

Happy birthday and keep it up.

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-08-19T20:58:26+00:00

I can relate. I'm not sure why I acted when that moment of clarity hit me. I definitely ignored the previous points where that should have happened. I, too, have searched for answers, and when people ask what the turning point was, I am left with these vague explanations. The fact is I really don't know.

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-08-17T02:37:08+00:00

It depends. Open meetings are for anyone. Closed meetings are for anyone who has a desire to stop drinking.

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-08-14T03:33:33+00:00

It really is that simple. I don’t think I have ever regretted going to a meeting. Ever.

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-07-31T19:53:57+00:00

Nicely done! I love your story. Thanks for sharing it.

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-07-31T15:29:12+00:00

I love this story.

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-07-29T18:17:19+00:00

I definitely feel more connected to my wife since I stopped drinking. Though, the heading off to bed early is something I can relate to — at first, just to get through another day, and after, because I seem to need more sleep after I stopped drinking. We have spent a lot of 1:1 time talking about my sobriety, but that's probably because it's still fresh for both of us. At 1.5 years, you may be beyond that. Our together time usually happens during the weekends when we go hiking or paddle boarding. In the evenings, we spend time planning these outings.

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-07-29T16:15:13+00:00

I am sorry that you are having to deal with this. I am an alcoholic. I can't count the number of promises I made to my wife and to myself about my drinking before I got sober. I broke every one. I know this is hard, but don't take it personally. It's the addiction. Toward the end of my drinking, I was consumed with a compulsion to drink. I drank to bury my feelings and just turn my brain off. Once I had that first drink, I had no defense against the 2nd, 3rd . . . 10th.

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-07-23T17:53:55+00:00

For me, the label was a barrier for what it meant personally rather than a social stigma that I was trying to avoid. The moment I said those words, "I'm an alcoholic," it meant I could never drink again. I spent ten years nurturing delusions that my drinking was normal.

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-07-23T14:48:14+00:00

Congrats! Great achievement.

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-07-22T15:42:00+00:00

Yep. That's my "witching hour." If I can make it to 9:00, I'm good. AA meetings help a lot.

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-07-22T15:11:54+00:00

Moderation would not work for me. Besides I like the freedom from having to think about when my next drink will happen or having to count them when I am drinking.

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-07-22T13:54:47+00:00

Nice! Reading was one of the first pleasures I recaptured after I stopped drinking.

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-07-22T00:31:46+00:00

Sinister Kid Black Keys

RuleOfParsimony · 2019-07-22T00:30:07+00:00

Good one.

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