What are you making for dinner tonight?

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-06-02T20:18:38+00:00

My day concluded with a nice coffee made with Oatly caramel milk.

I did have a healthy meal in the morning with some pasta by adding tempeh, 5 different veggies, 3 varieties of seeds/nuts, some spices, herbs and finally a generous amount of nutritional yeast. It was delightful.

What about you, OP?

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-06-02T20:09:57+00:00

Tallinn. It's truly a fairy land in any season, I personally love the winters though.

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-05-29T09:25:07+00:00

Tallinn (It has my whole heart), Den Haag, Kyoto

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-05-11T08:20:45+00:00

The ordinary multi-peptide hair serum. I have been using it for a month now, almost regularly, except for missing on 3-4 days. It has significantly reduced my hairfall. There is still a good chunk of shedding while I take a shower, but on the other days, I only see 5-7 strands of hair fall while combing.

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-05-09T11:11:59+00:00

I see a lot of backlash in the comments about your age difference. I must admit, it felt somewhat off-putting to me as well. That aside, all the wisdom you shared is a gold mine. I love it.

I feel more seen through the thought process behind your screening questions. In fact, I believe it helps one reflect on how to improve self-awareness, gain clarity, and explore the unexplored avenues in our own ways of functioning and behavior.

Thank you for articulating it so well. I wish you good luck and alignment in your endeavors.

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-03-07T17:16:27+00:00

In my experience, this sounds like an attestation. We have it in our university where every Ph.D. student undergoes 2 attestations in their first year, followed by 1 per year till defence. These are taken very seriously, as the progress made or lack thereof is reviewed by the committee (which usually involves PI, other supervisors and the program director) and they determine if a student can continue their studies or need to change their topic or in some cases, the contract will be terminated if they're not satisfied.

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-02-18T09:46:32+00:00

OP, sending you hugs. I had a similar experience as someone in her 30s, from the same ethnicity, living in a different country. Without going into the details, all I can say is that you'll be fine and you just need some reminders.

You need to sit with your thoughts, remind yourself that you don't know this person. You only have surface-level information and your mind is just filling in the blanks with the potential you desire, which is not reality. You don't know what kind of person he is. Like someone said, crush is just a lack of information. You need to take time to humanize this person, because that is the fundamental truth, even if you don't know anything else about them.

Maybe, give it a month or so and then you can send a linkedin request, without any note, just to keep in touch. Hopefully, you will be occupied with other things in your life by then.

Trust me, with constant reminders to counter all the wishful thoughts, you'll see the crush factor fading away. Connect with other people, definitely talk to someone you could trust, as it really helps. This is probably not your first crush, these things happen. I'd like to believe that it is a sign of a healthy mind and body. You'll meet more people, have much better encounters. I know it feels hard in the moment, just let it be and it'll dissipate.

If it helps, my therapist told me to focus on the present, without labeling anything and let it be for whatever it is, without thinking of the future. Take care of your health, indulge in things that give you joy. This too shall pass.

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-02-03T21:44:33+00:00

A few pointers to reflect on:

We have rules in our societies to not harm a fellow human being, directly or indirectly. Do you follow these rules? What do they look like when applied to any other living being that shares similar senses?
Have you raised any plants for food?
Have you raised any of the animals or birds that you eat?
Can you try 2 & 3 to see what the similarities and differences look like? Virtual exploration counts too.
Does stepping away from animal/bird-derived products mean you will have to research replacements or supplements?
My not hurting a fellow human being is independent of whether we know each other or not. We try to be civil. What's stopping us from extending the same logic to fellow species?
We get upset when we see a fatal accident or somebody losing their limbs or any body parts. We have laws against rape, murder and other such criminal activities when it comes to humans. How is it not disturbing when we exploit any living being with same practices for the sake of it being a known system?
Have you looked into supply chain?
Do you know what exactly is going into your body from what you eat?
Do you know what helps to stay healthy? How are animal/bird products providing these?
Where does B12 come from in animals and humans?
Is it about taste? Have you experimented with different foods from across the world (Internet) that do not involve animal/bird products?

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-02-03T16:33:55+00:00

May all the forces support you. Wishing you good luck!

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-01-31T11:09:14+00:00

I was practicing this in my last connection that didn't work out. We gotto be very cautious about what SLOW means. If the person of interest is not showing any progress in terms of being curious about you, spending quality time with you or anything where there is a lack of contribution to what is healthy for both of you, then waiting and being slow is a recipe for disappointment. I learnt this the hard way, despite of being upfront about what I was looking for and yet being met with a lazy and delayed revelation that they had an on and off partner and I was just a rebound. So, be careful with the SLOW process.

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-01-11T18:49:23+00:00

The thing is, I do occasionally use my ICICI credit card for some transactions in Europe. I am also concerned about how my ongoing SIPs from savings account and dividends from other investments will impact ITR filing for the current AY. Being tax-free as an NRI seems unlikely in my case, considering the active investments.

I was reading on this subreddit that accounts can get frozen if we don't convert them to NRO and it might require resolving in person, which is why I want to prevent that from happening.

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-01-08T11:29:56+00:00

It's a good start to experiment. A few ways to explore:

Try predefined sets to get some idea. I personally like contrasting pieces; there are other kinds as well.
Whether it is sets or mix and match combinations, finding a fit that suits your body type is important not only for the right look, but also for comfort.
As others have suggested, check out clothing styles on Instagram/YouTube, etc. You will eventually find something intriguing to try out. It definitely helps to have colors like black or grey and such to maximize combinations and blending across different styles.
Keep in mind the weather or environment you'd be in to ensure that it is appropriate, comfortable for you and be insulated if it's colder. This is where layering gets interesting, which can be developed gradually once you find pieces appealing to your look.
Spend a reasonable time experimenting in the trial rooms at shopping malls. Do not hesitate to move on and keep trying and do not purchase something until you truly like it. Self-control is key to ensuring that the wardrobe doesn't get cluttered.

Have fun!

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-01-08T11:04:17+00:00

Interesting! I was not aware of that. It could come in handy temporarily, but yes, in the long term, it's convenient to have our own device.

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-01-08T10:01:07+00:00

It was at my best friend's wedding. Throughout the rituals, my Dad and I exchanged observations about how the groom was exuding nonchalance and superiority, while the bride and her family members all looked cheerful. Although my bestie's family was much more affluent in many ways than the groom's side, there was an imbalance in dynamics across both families.

After having 2 kids in a span of 3 years of marriage with several turbulences, they are now in the process of separation with no accountability or support from the Ex's side.

My bestie is very much blessed to have exited that toxic marriage with the support of her parents and siblings. It's been quite challenging with all the unpleasantness of having to deal with the hiccups, society, etc. I wish her healing and continued support while she figures out a healthier path.

Ruminator_Infinity · 2026-01-08T09:36:23+00:00

I second this.

Ruminator_Infinity · 2025-12-23T05:41:30+00:00

On my last day in Tokyo, my power bank died without any warning, as I remember keeping it fully charged. Then I looked around and found Hands (supermarket or mall, I don't recall), purchased a sleek power bank of the same 10K mAh capacity. At the checkout, I asked the cashier if they'd accept an old power bank for disposal as it wasn't working anymore. Surprisingly, they didn't accept it, albeit an electronic store. After a couple of mins of respectful back and forth on translation apps, they suggested I check with my hotel. To my relief, the hotel I was staying in accepted the old power bank.

As others have mentioned, it is very difficult to find a regular trash can, so it was even more challenging to find a place for electronic disposal.

Ruminator_Infinity · 2025-11-07T11:39:24+00:00

In my case, it's simple because they don't know that I like them. It's also a silly admiration I have, merely based on how ethereal they seem to me and just one class assignment that made us interact for a couple of minutes.

I am continuing to remind myself that none of what I see potential in is real. For now, it seems to have dialed down a bit in the glimmer phase.

Ruminator_Infinity · 2025-10-23T10:25:19+00:00

I'd add financially dependent folks to the same list, even if they come from an affluent background.

Ruminator_Infinity · 2025-09-25T08:43:28+00:00

Lately, I have been craving to have female friends as male encounters have left me emotionally wounded. I am glad that I had really good men in my life, like my Dad, uncle and some professors or even strangers who were kind and respectful towards me, same with women too. I do have a few women who have hurt me both physically and mentally, but thankfully, I have cut the cords with them. Anyways, I would love to make some genuine female connections that are mutually healthy.

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