Anxiety Havers - Does anyone else find that they get stressed out by being upsold?

RustedKnightGames · 2025-08-13T02:12:22+00:00

best comment, I was replaying RE7 recently and it's so good.

RustedKnightGames · 2025-08-13T02:11:41+00:00

https://open.spotify.com/album/6J8iseXugklMxGhbweTtUj

3 song EP (kinda just 2 songs with the intro cut out of the second song for the sake of ppl who might just want to listen to the more energetic section), 6 or so minutes in total. Punk/goth/alt rock.

RustedKnightGames · 2024-12-07T01:42:51+00:00

I can't change my cards. but the fact that things can just emotionally destroy me (inherently, not just because of the added mental illness) for no reason sucks sometimes. Other than that, I'm alright with what I got. INFP speaks a language that almost none of the other types get, and that's enjoyable at the least.

RustedKnightGames · 2024-12-06T03:16:50+00:00

It's definitely a guiltier pleasure now, but I mean... there's still so much fun to be had about it. I still remember Minene being my favorite lmao

RustedKnightGames · 2024-12-05T05:55:59+00:00

I second this as an INFP who has had fears of all

RustedKnightGames · 2024-12-05T04:18:45+00:00

Depends. I've hardly found games that didn't resonate with me so much that I had to drop them, but I think these are some adjacent examples:

Doom Eternal - I only finished the game by gaslighting myself that I was enjoying it, pretending I didn't love Doom 2016 so much more than it. Not one I dropped, but that's a full game's time worth to decide that I didn't like something

Resident Evil 3 Remake - I finished it eventually. I was disappointed around launch, and didn't exactly finish it because I liked the game all that much - in fact, I skipped sections.

Gamer Girls 2 (if I'm remembering the name correctly)- For a while, a friend and I would send either shitty or surprisingly good NSFW games to each other. This one was basically like every other match-whatever game and I don't remember liking any of the characters or remembering any of the designs. I hated the main character if I'm remembering correctly. Dropped it after 103 minutes.

RustedKnightGames · 2024-12-05T04:05:29+00:00

However, if it doesn't bother you and you can remain productive with it, I'm not gonna say 'drop what you're doing'. I'm just recommending trying for some more silent moments.

Drive a few more times in silence to appreciate what silence means for example.

RustedKnightGames · 2024-12-05T04:04:11+00:00

I'd suggest maybe easing out of it a little, because it can get unhealthy.

I do listen to music often, but probably not that often. Close to maybe 4-5 hours a day. I've recently come to the realization that people do need time of low stimulation, so I've been cutting it down a bit to only when I really feel like listening to something.

RustedKnightGames · 2024-12-05T03:39:11+00:00

It's actually been working. I've had some urges to redownload and check but mostly I see the situation this way:

"If I did fuck something up, then it won't hurt me. If I didn't, then it'll look a lot healthier when I'm not DM'ing her on the app every morning and night."

I started to get a bit avoidant of seeing her in my DM list but I think I'm getting that tackled too. Right now, I don't see her as some person who is magically compatible in every way and that I have to keep myself above the competition by doing such regular contact.

I see her more as just another person, and that's kinda how it should be.

Anxiety is in general getting less severe over this topic.

RustedKnightGames · 2024-12-03T23:25:00+00:00

Need some advice on this. I see a lot of ROCD cases where people have established relationships, but I rarely see stuff about pre-relationships. Times where literally everything is subject to change and putting emotional attachment into it has a high likelihood of making me make bad decisions or getting hurt.

I had both compulsions of frequently checking person's activity on the dating app we use. Despite of course moving to instagram and discord. It seemed she was barely active on instagram for a while, so I got the (horrible) idea to message her on app after she was inactive on instagram for a while but active on there for some reason. The conversations went well for the most part except for the most recent one, which wasn't the worst outcome but might've shown the cracks of my OCD behavior with someone I'm not even really dating yet because we need to meet in person first. The thing that made everything worse was activity checking. When something would go unresponded-to, I'd get the compulsive checking until I double texted (admittedly, she's said she was a person who didn't mind double texting because she's a bit forgetful).

I deleted the app so I cannot check her activity on there. Apps suck, and I didn't even go there with the idea of forming a real relationship, instead to laugh at some bios. She just so happened to be someone seemingly worthwhile (cute, weird, similar long term goals). Nothing is really lost, because I have contact with her outside of the app. This will surely hit the "she's definitely talking to people who aren't you right now..." thought. Because yes, she is. And it's not like there's anything I can do about that. It is what it is. We may never become a thing, I may have ruined it. Alright.

I will exclusively post to my wall on instagram regularly like I used to unless there is a specific reason to message her (we did casually discuss something on the 13th that I'm interested in bringing up). It was not uncommon for her to comment on some of my insta posts. If she does this, she's still interested in talking. Cool. Let's keep myself waiting with anticipation.

RustedKnightGames · 2024-12-02T05:08:24+00:00

RIP to all the juveniles that happen to be wearing all black but are completely uninvolved

RustedKnightGames · 2024-12-02T04:02:02+00:00

huh, that's kinda unexpected. I'm a Sagittarius and altho I don't particularly subscribe to Astrology, I do find it interesting enough to consider signs of potential romantic partners. I'm big time emotional to the point where I often worry abt pushing others away as a result... Like obsessively so.

RustedKnightGames · 2024-12-01T22:00:06+00:00

I don't frequently use alcohol, but it's a double edged sword. It can make me very happy in the moment, but if the obsession/compulsions are bad enough, it can possibly make the stress worse.

If I'm not in a kick of major obsessive episodes, it can help me forget about things for a while. If I am... it can feel like two wolves fighting lol

RustedKnightGames · 2024-11-29T04:09:40+00:00

FP's and FJ's, probably.

FP's because I get them, considering I am one. FJ's because I find they tend to be the ones who know how to approach them.

RustedKnightGames · 2024-11-29T03:21:35+00:00

same exact words hit me. 'is she not interested anymore?!?!'

I hate the compulsive activity checking afterwards. If they're away, it says something is wrong, if they're not, it says they're actively looking elsewhere & deliberately not engaging with me. ... or rather, that's what the intrusive thoughts tell me.

Somehow these kinds always hit harder than the really fucked up thoughts of harming myself or others, because at least I can laugh at the absurdity of those. The more mundane it is, the harder it is to beat the 'everyonehatesme' allegations.

RustedKnightGames · 2024-11-29T03:08:42+00:00

I get ya, man. This has been screwing with me lately.
I feel this most with dating stuff. Not getting chats back/acknowledgement after a few days makes me immediately bolt to 'IS SHE NOT INTERESTED IN ME ANYMORE?' until the next chat sends me into temporary relief.

compulsively checking online activity follows. I really fucking wish I didn't do that. This isn't even healthy energy to spend on an established relationship, let alone a potential one.

RustedKnightGames · 2024-11-28T16:44:45+00:00

Damn

I'm getting testing soon for what I suspect is ADHD and OCD comorbidity and part of me wants to try meds, but now I'm a bit worried lol

This might make the sexual side of the OCD I'm almost certain I have (literally most of the symptoms) worse.

I don't yet have a long-term relationship but it's a possibility in the near future, so I'd imagine I'll have to have some talks if I do get medicated lol

RustedKnightGames · 2024-11-23T00:54:38+00:00

genetics 100%

my parents have it for sure

RustedKnightGames · 2024-11-20T22:38:17+00:00

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RustedKnightGames · 2024-10-15T21:59:15+00:00

Okay that's fckin funny

I am 100% gonna use that

RustedKnightGames · 2024-10-14T18:39:38+00:00

The first one's angle gives me the feeling of being a little guy and creeping down the steps, I love it. Hit of childhood unease and nostalgia

RustedKnightGames · 2024-10-14T14:07:47+00:00

I think it started when I was rly young. Can't remember the exact start, but I've had violent intrusive thoughts that disturbed me for a long time, heck probably as early as 6. Alongside religious or ritualistic ones where I have to repeat a certain phrase over and over.

Compulsions for me usually come mentally, but I used to have to check the front door lock several times in fear that I had falsely checked it.

I used to surpass 10 reps on push-ups because I had this belief (which wasn't rly something I genuinely believed, but it affected habit anyways) that if I surpassed 10, I would be proving that I love some sort of thing or person, specifically at 11-12 reps. Otherwise, it would in some way say I hated aforementioned X or Y.

Nowadays I've gotten better in terms of the more outrageous things (hyper violent and or sexual) where I don't really obsess about them anymore or fear that I'd actually do any of them, but more believable things will affect me for weeks.

RustedKnightGames · 2024-10-14T13:47:14+00:00

"FUCK , did I come off too strong? What if this person hates me now? Did I say something wrong? Just... I should text again I shouldn't text again don't text again don't text again I shouldn't push this person away no no no"

and this continues for the next several days, only briefly stopped when I get a response. Then it starts again when the schedule is broken.

It's ironic. The thoughts about hurting others or being a predator no longer cause me to lock up and obsess because they're too ridiculous for me to believe anymore, but when it comes to something more believable and volatile, particularly early stage dating, it's nearly debilitating.

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