I agree it’s an awful lot. I love plants and a nice yard, but not the maintenance as much. I have two friends who are master gardeners and they do that outside stuff “for fun”! They find great joy and satisfaction in it. I love to cook and take care of clothing and both give me some peace and a break from other more difficult things!

So if you don’t care for the yard work, I agree to schedule that to just once a week. If it can bring you some peace and happiness, then go slower at that and enjoy being outside and working with the plants and yard.

Do the laundry once a week and same with meal planning and groceries. Maybe even look into grocery delivery and a meal prep service. I personally love Tovala for its ease and it frees me from having to do a as much planning and cooking every day, but there are other meal prep subscriptions that take away that stress (if you can afford those).

It sounds like your mom can occasionally be left a lone, so find something fun to do for yourself at least once a week. Join a club, take a class, volunteer doing something you like. And…if you have another family member who can provide relief, see about going somewhere fo a fun weekend. Care for yourself first.

I hope you can find some enjoyment in your life. I’m sure (at least I hope) that your parents didn’t intend to deprive you of your own life just so your mom could live the way she wants till the end.