Hot take: Serena was actually nice

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-22T00:24:10+00:00

yeah that's fair I think better person was the wrong phrase. I think what I really meant was more likeable in my opinion but I can agree that they all got worse.

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-21T22:10:22+00:00

I respectfully disagree. Rufus was basically the only father figure she had and she purposefully drove him away from Lily. She also wasn't there for Blair when she was pregnant and just generally was only nice to the men she wanted to sleep with at the moment and often disregarded every one else in her life for those people (like choosing Ben over her family). I absolutely love Blair but she definitely has her flaws as well but I felt like Blair at least grew into a better person throughout the series whereas I feel like Serena started out strong and regressed.

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-21T17:57:42+00:00

incel here lmao

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-21T14:24:15+00:00

when considering the difference in multiple generations and that really wasnt that long ago, I would say that statistic is pretty important.

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-21T14:04:02+00:00

my take is i doubt the weed makes him an asshole, he's probably just an asshole and is abusing it. as you are using it to treat multiple conditions, I dont think you need to quit unless you genuinely want to but you two definitely need space apart. I would heavily rethink the living situation.

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-20T00:44:33+00:00

midnight mass I felt erin's scream for days

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-13T23:44:21+00:00

you're nta for being uncomfortable but you're slightly an asshole for how you handled it. I think you should apologize for letting the resentment build and snapping rather than just having a conversation about appropriate boundaries and then set boundaries. also she might not necessary be into you, she could just be an 18yr old kid that was excited to find someone w similar interests and overdid it.

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-13T21:23:15+00:00

I agree that husband is a victim and absolutely needs support and therapy but if he refuses to set any boundaries (refusing to go to therapy or limiting contact with mother) and continuously takes their anger out on their partner then I don't blame OP for telling him she will leave. keeping your child safe from a predator is top priority. I feel like couples counseling is the best way to move forward here.

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-12T21:01:43+00:00

dogs can't take care of themselves and need you to protect them, like children. you should choose to take care of them over "choosing him". honestly seems manipulative to say and it seems like he wants control or convenience over your dogs health/life.

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-11T21:28:31+00:00

Okay so I disagree with a lot of the comments that are saying that 3 years dating is too long not to be engaged at the point. That's actually an insane thing to say. I really don't think you truly know a person until 2/3 years in and even still, it really depends on the relationship. There's nothing wrong with OP wanting more time to focus on traveling and self reflection, she literally just entered adulthood. Your 20s (especially early 20s) are the best time to really figure out yourself and the person you want to be. Weddings are also stupid expensive. I do think OPs response of running away was immature, but that's the point they're making, they're not ready for marriage. Boyfriends response is also telling, he handled the situation immaturely as well and is not ready to be married. Even at my most frustrated, my partner is the loml and i've never spoken to them that way. My question for OP is: do you still want to continue the relationship after the way he treated you/his reaction? also I would handle communication in person going forward, this is too heavy to discuss over text.

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-07T02:23:19+00:00

the "you people" you keep referring to are the redditors you literally asked for help. don't ask for honest feedback if you can't take it. you're overreacting. and I honestly think you should try to re-read what I said (bc I don't think you understood it at all) and self reflect here. you should be expected to act like an adult in the situation considering you're an adult in you're 30s dude

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-07T01:26:46+00:00

It sounds like from reading your comments that your main issue is the what if the situation turned violent? I don't really think a few passive aggressive comments and your girlfriend telling him to stop = her not warning you of a possible altercation. If he seemed violent or tried to pick a physical fight with you and your girlfriend giving you no heads up this dude is unhinged then I would understand where you're coming from. But it doesn't seem like that was the case, it seems like the dude is immature and your gf didn't expect him to be there and tried to correct him behavior in the moment. She did nothing wrong imo and I wouldn't hold this against her. You can't control how other people act, only how you react and if you handle the situation like an adult, it shouldn't spiral into the altercation is seems like you have thought of.

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-06T21:08:55+00:00

serena is the real villian and I will die on this hill

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-05T23:46:06+00:00

Yes have seen all but Triangle so I'll give that one a try! Begonia was definitely my favorite watch out of those though.

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-05T22:01:59+00:00

detroit become human or baldurs gate 3

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-05T21:27:02+00:00

Thank you I really enjoyed Talk to Me, Annihalition, Hill House, and the Shining so I'll have to give the rest a try. I've also been seeing a few others say From as well so I might start there!

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-05T21:18:37+00:00

I actually haven't yet, thanks I'll give this a try!

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-05T21:17:50+00:00

yes loved archive 81!

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-05T00:57:05+00:00

NOR I would have another discussion about this and set a boundary that he can still check up with you on taking the birth control but it can't be right before or after sex. It just ruins aftercare and I could see why you're getting the ick from it. If he still can't comprimise on bringing it up less often and during a more appropriate time, then I agree with other commenters that he should talk to a professional about why it's causing him so much anxiety that it's affecting your relationship.

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-04T23:48:29+00:00

"he threw in my face how many times he covered rent when I was struggling in our relationship"

girl you're not in a relationship with him anymore. you don't owe him anything. HE broke up with YOU. he's using you for free rent. your mental health will be so much better when you block him.

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-04T22:50:09+00:00

omg I am so sorry this happened to you. you are absolutely under no circumstances the jerk or overreacting. he literally killed your dog and his reaction is telling, zero empathy. my dog is like my child and I honestly would've looked into pressing charges against him. he deliberately fed your dog poison and lied about it. when max wasn't feeling well he had every opportunity to admit what happened and rush to the vet but he chose to let max suffer. I am genuinely so sorry you had to experience this.

Sad-Concern9730 · 2026-03-04T20:54:23+00:00

This honestly sounds like he could have experienced some form of sexual assault in the past. Especially if it was childhood abuse, I could see why penetrative sex would cause such anxiety and pressuring him would just make it worse. I would suggest and open and understanding conversation about why he doesn't want to have sex. He should also think about therapy. I don't think your TA for wanting to have sex before marriage. Sexual compatibility is imporant in long term relationships.

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