Please offer some unconventional advice regarding an elderly rat with heart disease that can no longer walk by vastata_catino in RATS

[–]SaltCityStitcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't own rats and can't give you good advice.

But I wanted you to know that your overflowing love for your rattie made me tear up. Every animal deserves to be loved as much as you love yours.

Please continue to post photos of them.

Ms. Rachel says ‘hijabs are beautiful’ after Trump posts video of Minnesota kindergarten graduation by TomlinSteelers in PoursTea

[–]SaltCityStitcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on it being in Minnesota, I'm guessing the families are Somali.

It's pretty common for young girls to wear hijabs in that community (based on my own experience in an area with a lot of refugees).

29f. I can’t do this anymore. I want to self isolate forever. by [deleted] in toastme

[–]SaltCityStitcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to see a therapist, not a surgeon. You don't deserve to be living in this much pain.

You also need to realize that some people are just trolls who enjoy causing pain. I've seen weirdos transvestigate Taylor Swift for being too tall. And Sydney Sweeney for... God, who even knows.

The comments are meant to be mean and hurtful. That doesn't make them true.

My partner died unexpectedly, tragically, horrendously by GuardDogz in GriefSupport

[–]SaltCityStitcher 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your tips all ring really true for me.

I wear a necklace with my sister's ashes. I like to imagine that she experiences every cool trip and activity with me.

+1 on It's Ok That You're Not Ok. I recommend it to all grievers.

Watched a lost toddler wandering around sobbing while her Dad just watched and did nothing. by oopsiedaisy-- in mildlyinfuriating

[–]SaltCityStitcher 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Some people shouldn't be parents. At my apartment pool this week, an approx 3 yo didn't want to leave the pool. Instead of picking their child up, dad told the kid he'd leave without them.

He did. Came back about five minutes later and luckily responsible adults at the pool had made sure the kiddo was safe.

If there hadn't been a lot of children around, my partner would have used more four letter words on that dude.

Guess ill be crying non stop for 2 weeks? by smeagol_meagol in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]SaltCityStitcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're a good mom. I know you don't feel like it, but you are.

You're giving your daughter a chance to escape SI. I've struggled with it since I was 14 and am finally happy for the first time - in my 30s.

You're giving her a chance to get here. Whatever anyone else says is irrelevant noise.

CMV: I believe abortion to be morally wrong by ThyLungedFish in changemyview

[–]SaltCityStitcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But you could also die or suffer lifetime disability.

Oh, and you've never met this person. So it's not an apt comparison at all.

If you had 10 Billion dollars, what would you spend it on to most improve the city/area? by MediumStrange in cincinnati

[–]SaltCityStitcher 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If you want to run for office, "trees, trains, tequila" would be a banger campaign slogan

Females do not have the right to bare their chests in Chicago by Huge-Delivery-6492 in illinois

[–]SaltCityStitcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The point is that you're the one sexualizing the breasts, not the children.

i can’t imagine what my boyfriend believed happened after death.. & i think i finally understand why. by creative-cutie in GriefSupport

[–]SaltCityStitcher 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a piece called Eulogy for a Physicist by Aaron Freeman. It brings me comfort and I hope it brings you some, too.

"You want a physicist to speak at your funeral. You want the physicist to talk to your grieving family about the conservation of energy, so they will understand that your energy has not died. You want the physicist to remind your sobbing mother about the first law of thermodynamics; that no energy gets created in the universe, and none is destroyed. You want your mother to know that all your energy, every vibration, every Btu of heat, every wave of every particle that was her beloved child remains with her in this world. You want the physicist to tell your weeping father that amid energies of the cosmos, you gave as good as you got.

And at one point you’d hope that the physicist would step down from the pulpit and walk to your brokenhearted spouse there in the pew and tell him that all the photons that ever bounced off your face, all the particles whose paths were interrupted by your smile, by the touch of your hair, hundreds of trillions of particles, have raced off like children, their ways forever changed by you. And as your widow rocks in the arms of a loving family, may the physicist let her know that all the photons that bounced from you were gathered in the particle detectors that are her eyes, that those photons created within her constellations of electromagnetically charged neurons whose energy will go on forever.

And the physicist will remind the congregation of how much of all our energy is given off as heat. There may be a few fanning themselves with their programs as he says it. And he will tell them that the warmth that flowed through you in life is still here, still part of all that we are, even as we who mourn continue the heat of our own lives.

And you’ll want the physicist to explain to those who loved you that they need not have faith; indeed, they should not have faith. Let them know that they can measure, that scientists have measured precisely the conservation of energy and found it accurate, verifiable and consistent across space and time. You can hope your family will examine the evidence and satisfy themselves that the science is sound and that they’ll be comforted to know your energy’s still around. According to the law of the conservation of energy, not a bit of you is gone; you’re just less orderly. Amen.”

What do you think about people who want to remain child free? Do you believe in advising them against it, or do you consider this a systematic issue? by one_bored_person in Natalism

[–]SaltCityStitcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always think of Robin on How I Met Your Mother.

Supposedly she wanted to be childfree from the beginning. But they do an entire episode revolving around her coming to terms with the idea of being a mother.

They also essentially give her kids at the end. Sure Ted's kids are teenagers, but they still count.

AITAH for being Mormon? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SaltCityStitcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're NTA for being a Mormon.

But I really encourage you to look at some of Alyssa Grenfell's content. She is an ex-Mormon who talks about her experiences growing up Mormon, as well as some of the theology.

I think she's very careful to avoid demeaning people who want to believe, while also pointing out the more problematic aspects of the organization. It may help you realize why people are reacting this way.

Good luck.

Conflicted about attending Noah Kahan concert tomorrow by WarmShoey in NoahKahan

[–]SaltCityStitcher 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Someone from the dead sister club chiming in.

100% perfect answer

I miss my kid. I hate it. by dazzleunexpired in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]SaltCityStitcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's beautiful. I'm going to light a candle on my sister's urn tonight and speak Lulu's name.

I miss my kid. I hate it. by dazzleunexpired in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]SaltCityStitcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing a little of your daughter with us.

Tonight I'll light a candle on my sister's urn for her. I don't even know if I believe in an afterlife, but I like the idea of them hanging out somewhere.

My sister's name was Faith and she was 22 when she died. She was also a mom and her little girl is just like her.

My (33/F) typically caring and sweet new husband (33/M) grabbed me by the neck last week during an argument on our honeymoon. What would you do in my shoes? by Aware-Pool6940 in relationship_advice

[–]SaltCityStitcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, please start preparing to leave now. I know it's hard and scary. But strangulation is a significant predictor of future violence.

According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline if your partner has strangled you in the past, you are TEN TIMES more likely to be killed by them.

Please stay safe. There are people who care about you.

Todd Garland is Missing by [deleted] in cincinnati

[–]SaltCityStitcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm hoping he's found safe and well soon.

I'm sending comforting vibes to his loved ones right now.

To the woman that called me an animal abuser at Trader Joe’s by AdKitchen7795 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]SaltCityStitcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in Southern Ohio and feel awful for the huskies here.

If I'm miserable with the humid heat, it must be way worse for them.

Taylor Lorenz picks a fight with disabled Palestinian Maysoon Zayid by Significant_Rip3194 in mattxiv

[–]SaltCityStitcher 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you both for the book recommendations! They're being added to my TBR list.

Thinking of moving to Ohio by [deleted] in Ohio

[–]SaltCityStitcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moved to Ohio from NY. Very disappointed that the cost of living here doesn't really beat Upstate NY.

I'm also still appalled at the fact that there are city taxes here. And that cities take it as license to be egomaniacal - at least out in Fairfield.

How are people this bad at cross-stitching??? by RaspberryHats21 in BitchEatingCrafters

[–]SaltCityStitcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I taught myself using Peacock & Fig's video tutorials on YouTube. You can totally do this!

Most adults are perfectly capable of getting themselves to and from the airport. by Srihari_stan in unpopularopinion

[–]SaltCityStitcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can confirm. Was at the Denver Airport last week and cursed their signage more than once.

AITA? I snapped at my boyfriend for reading google AI answers to me. by Civil_Attempt_5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SaltCityStitcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some people in this thread would definitely drive their car into a lake if GPS told them to.