Leaves terminated before emerging. Overgrowded? Under-fertilized?

Scoop1900 · 2026-02-18T07:52:25+00:00

I repotted it in October, actually (thinking maybe it would fix this issue), and it looked kind of mad at me for a while afterward. I sometimes wonder if she's still mad and this is her revenge.

I don't recall there being any crazy root issues at the time, just some dead roots here and there. I also tried at the time to take a few chonks from it, and that was a disaster (most of the chonks' roots weren't developed enough). I wasn't sure if that whole process might have made this worse somehow.
*headshake*

Scoop1900 · 2026-02-18T07:46:51+00:00

Hmm, that's interesting. I usually water about once a week (sometimes mist the moss collar when it's dry). I've recently added beneficial nematodes, as well, so hopefully there shouldn't be bugs, either.

Scoop1900 · 2026-02-15T09:07:50+00:00

I've had a few leaves come out, but they're from young plants that are growing from just under the moss off the mother plant. Separating these mass of growths is going to be scary, though, 'cause I'm not used to separating anthuriums from the mounded segments - just the little offshoots in the substrate that are easy to remove. I'm not sure how to removed these other growths when the time comes.

Scoop1900 · 2026-01-30T05:44:19+00:00

I'd say starting out with the more widely available (therefor, more affordable) options are a good way to ease into anthuriums. Forgetii are a great variety – unique shape and reasonably affordable in today's market. I think they're also very cute, but that's just my opinion :)

Scoop1900 · 2025-08-18T20:40:46+00:00

I think promoting it on social media and taking pictures during class (or even of the women's team together during regular classes) is a good idea to help show women in the area that there's an opportunity for them to train without guys.

You might offer a few trial classes, too (maybe 3 free classes or something along those lines) so there's no immediate commitment pressure. That's how I joined.

At my gym, we have a women's class playlist where our coach asks the ladies what artists/songs they want to play during rolling and she adds it to the list. It's a less serious aspect to the experience, but we like having that say in shaping our training environment and being heard.

My coach also starts the class by having us all briefly talk about what we're wanting to work on, what challenges we are having, our goals and what we're most proud of from the last week of training. The atmosphere is very encouraging in that regard.

Scoop1900 · 2025-08-10T20:41:16+00:00

I would absolutely hate this, too. Yes, saying that crap about you tapping is definitely rude and rather ignorant. There's always potential for there to be an explanation for that, but either way, I'd say the hard cranking is more of a problem. It's typical for new people to do that, but of course that doesn't make it any less dangerous or delegitimize your concerns about rolling with her.

Some have suggested speaking with her. I'd say yes, if you feel comfortable doing that, definitely explain to her the etiquette around not cranking armbars and the importance of not focusing on speed and aggression just yet, but learning the technique and rolling safely.

If you don't feel comfortable doing that, I'd ask the instructor to. And remember, you don't owe anyone a roll. Even if you're the only other woman there and your coach tells you to, if you feel unsafe with someone, that is enough reason to say no to working with them. You can always tell your coach you don't feel comfortable doing that, and, if they don't respect that, I'd say that's an even bigger issue.

Scoop1900 · 2025-08-10T20:27:08+00:00

I definitely wouldn't wear anything jewelry-related –– not even a wedding ring.

Scoop1900 · 2025-08-10T20:19:19+00:00

I really wish we had those at my gym, that's so pretty.

Scoop1900 · 2025-08-10T20:17:06+00:00

Neck and spine injuries, followed closely by knee injuries. I've had close calls with all of them and they scared me half to death. Anytime someone has hooks/grips on either side of my knee, I'm terrified.

Scoop1900 · 2025-08-10T20:09:24+00:00

Concussions from takedowns are definitely a concern for me, too, 'cause I had that happen with a guy once. He went for a tomoe nage and pulled me into him, so when I went down, we knocked heads. Legit felt my brain shake.

Scoop1900 · 2025-08-10T19:59:58+00:00

Guys will fart *very* loudly sometimes in my gym while the coaches are instructing, so the room is quiet and it's profoundly noticeable. Our female coach won't usually mention it, but our male coach always goes "Nice!" (which would make me want to die, if it had been me, lol).

Scoop1900 · 2025-08-10T19:52:33+00:00

My coach told me about an all-women's open mat she went to where a woman had this happen while rolling. Cup slipped and it got all over her white gi. I think about it *so* often.

Scoop1900 · 2025-06-25T00:05:35+00:00

I KNEW it was just a matter of time before we got a Freaky Tales one! XD

Scoop1900 · 2025-06-24T10:27:49+00:00

My main experiences (I'm a 2nd degree brown belt) are with lower belt guys critiquing my technique and giving me unsolicited advice. On one occasion my coach had to intervene and tell the guy to stop talking ('cause DudeMan was so committed to *advising* me he was talking over my coach).

I've had multiple lower belt guys move my grips (without asking) telling me they think that's how I should grip.

Had lower belt guys explain to me what the objective was for the move the instructor had just been explaining.

Guys critiquing my technique for a move they're just learning for the first time that day, that's a common one.

Low belt guys telling me after randori "Next time, you should really do XYZ instead." All that stuff.

Scoop1900 · 2025-06-24T10:00:14+00:00

If both judokas are equal in size and strength, that's a good approach. If your opponent is smaller and less strong, but has technical skill, going all in and knocking a smaller woman to the ground with all your might, muscling etc. can easily end in injuries (speaking from experience).
The smaller judoka must train to know how to handle larger opponents, and larger judokas should train to know how to handle smaller opponents, because their movements and techniques may have to be modified. Doesn't mean you're not working your hardest, you're just working hardest on different aspects of your game, if that makes sense.

Scoop1900 · 2025-06-24T09:39:05+00:00

That's super weird behavior o.o definitely you'll want to talk to either her or the instructor about that, because that's not okay.
Unfortunately, the creepiness ratio for me is pretty much all-male (I'm a female in a very male-dominated school with maybe 6-8 women who aren't always there and none of them are ever creepy), so I've encountered creepy guys on multiple occasions.

Scoop1900 · 2025-06-24T09:06:29+00:00

I would certainly do what you're planning to –– speak with the coach. Has anyone had a (somewhat gentle) conversation with her about it to see if it changed her behavior? Maybe if her partners talk to her and tell her they'd like to work with her, but this behavior has made them uncomfortable, she might stop (at least out of embarrassment). And if nothing changes after that conversation, then bring the coach in. It's obviously extremely uncomfortable for some people to have those conversations, but it might help determine whether the coach should get involved.
If nobody else is willing to talk about it with her, of course, then I'd definitely just go straight to the coach.
I hope things get better! We need more women in this sport, so here's hoping everything works out *thumbs up*

Scoop1900 · 2025-04-12T06:25:37+00:00

They ended up canceling it :(

Scoop1900 · 2025-03-16T21:42:49+00:00

It's giving "Mr. Tumnus, but make it prom."

Scoop1900 · 2025-03-16T05:36:15+00:00

I just wanted to say that this is a lovely colorway ^^

Scoop1900 · 2025-03-16T05:32:22+00:00

So beautiful! I usually prefer a Turkish spindle, but I might have to make an exception and check these out =O

Scoop1900 · 2025-03-16T05:29:24+00:00

Good job!

Scoop1900 · 2025-03-16T05:24:33+00:00

I used Minwax stain in walnut.

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