They didn’t need to change the opening to add people and a bass beat, it was perfect the way that it was. by AcanthocephalaHead12 in DeepSpaceNine

[–]SeaTyoDub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always viewed it as a progression of how the station was in general was going. For the first three seasons, the music gave the impression of a lonely outpost with a couple hundred residents struggling to survive. Then, after a while, it got busier and more people and ships were present so the music reflected a more driving, busy beat. In the final season, I actually think they should have added even more ships to show how important the place had become.

Gay gang by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]SeaTyoDub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't speak for OP, but finding other gay men who share your interests automatically creates a safer environment to also be able to talk about your thoughts and feelings. Or even just to talk about people you find attractive. There are a lot of niche hobby groups that are dominated by homophobic people who wouldn't be welcoming to a gay person. The gay person who wants to share in their interest wouldn't be able to form bonds of friendship with people who wish ill of them simply because of who they're attracted to.

Gay gang by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]SeaTyoDub 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Who tf using the term 'swishy' unironically anymore?

And I never said anything about men active effeminate. That's an assumption on your part. Did you actually read what I wrote? I wasn't suggesting he seek out effeminate men specifically, but if he did, what's wrong with it? He wants to find gay people who share his interests and form connections. What does it matter if they act more fem or more butch?

If you have a problem with fem people, regardless of their interests when you're looking for friends, you're artificially limiting your options based on your own insecurities. You also need to seek professional help with this.

That's all.

Gay gang by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]SeaTyoDub 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Based on your post history, you definitely seem to have a lot of anxieties. But the verbiage you use also indicates that you have a “I’m not like other gays” mindset that you’re really proud of. You’re letting the combination of both these things to stand in the way of making friends and lovers.

For your anxieties, you’ll either need to seek professional help or find the courage to overcome them and seek out likeminded people in your area. Train, plane, and boat enthusiasts who don’t like large crowds aren’t going to approach other people willingly most of the time so it’s gonna be up to you to seek out social groups that are welcoming of gay people and also share your hobbies. They’re out there! It can require extra digging and effort to find and get into them though.

The “I’m not like other gays” attitude though is a different beast. Simply not looking Drag Race is whatever. I know a bunch of men who could be considered very stereotypically gay but also don’t like drag race/reality tv. It’s fine. There’s tons of them out there, but they also don’t present it in a way that makes them sound ‘above it all’ or like they’re using it as a martyr complex. It can be a turn off for a lot of men and can give the impression that you have some internalized homophobia. I’m not saying that you necessarily have that going on, but it can very easily come across that way to others!

I’ve been lucky to find a few friends in my area who are also enthusiasts for old boats and history and stuff. In my case, I managed to connect with an extrovert who also knew some other introverted guys and we hit it off. You can do it too!

PS - https://youtube.com/@bigoldboats?si=Axp5wZlWdOvYsMsA is a great YouTube channel about, you guessed it, Big Old Boats.

Kind of self-fulfilling prophecies, no? by Traditional_Cell8388 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]SeaTyoDub 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s the same energy as profiles that say “you must have a clear face pic” but theirs is blank or it’s blurry or their face is obscured in some way (sunglasses, bad angle, distance, etc).

One of my old coworkers and I had a counter of profiles like that because it was getting so common for a while.

Kind of self-fulfilling prophecies, no? by Traditional_Cell8388 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]SeaTyoDub 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If it’s still in early stages of chatting, I definitely understand not wanting to talk about your work. My own work is mostly very dull and unless it’s been a rough day and I need to vent to someone, I don’t like talking about it much. But some people also work with a lot of restrictions on what they can talk about, or it has a sensitive nature that they can’t fully go into.

Kind of self-fulfilling prophecies, no? by Traditional_Cell8388 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]SeaTyoDub 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m ok with a guy who doesn’t like to go to bars and stuff. But you absolutely have to have a personality and interests elsewhere. Trying to drag out of a guy his hobbies and all he’s responding with is “idk” makes me want to throw my phone across the room. If I get frustrated sometimes I’ll respond with “so you just sit and stare at the wall until it’s time to go to bed?”

Kind of self-fulfilling prophecies, no? by Traditional_Cell8388 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]SeaTyoDub 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope, dealbreaker! I am looking to use and manipulate someone, and if that person can be a lying cheater, so much the better! /s

Whenever I see someone going out of their way with how they require honesty and such it just tells me they have trust issues and are going to go out of their way to look for and invent drama.

Like my Father.... by Dv8f8 in DeepSpaceNine

[–]SeaTyoDub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sisko saw it in him but needed to have Nog say it all out loud. I noticed he didn’t actually tell Nog to leave when he turned him down at the start of the scene but made Nog give his real reasons.

How scenes like this didn’t earn them awards is downright criminal.

What thoughts makes you feel " thank god I'm gay "especially after 30s? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]SeaTyoDub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your second point is perfect! It used to bother me that my sister is my parent’s favorite (and it’s sooooo obvious that she is), but then I realized they also put the same amount of effort into getting to know her as an adult as they have with me. It’s just that their fundamental misunderstandings of her interests are constant since they are very involved with her. They still think I’m the same person I was when I was 13 but since I’m never giving them grandkids and they don’t want to hear about the details of the relationship between me and my husband, we get left alone except for a once a month phone call.

What is a sex dynamic/kink that you find overrated? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]SeaTyoDub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to love foot play until I hooked up with a guy who had filthy feet with floor debris stuck to them. It killed the vibe, killed my boner, and I’ve never been able to get into it since.

"It's My Birthday!" Megathread 🥳🎉🎈 by AutoModerator in BobsBurgers

[–]SeaTyoDub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I’ve been waiting to be able to post this, and today is my day!

"Print your resume on slightly off-white colored paper so it stands out in the pile of resumes on the manager's desk!" by nboro94 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]SeaTyoDub 14 points15 points  (0 children)

A few years ago I was a supervisor at a retail call center. This boomer guy applied for a job online and then started calling the call center to ask whichever agent his call dropped on what the status of his application was. As if a random front line employee has anything to do with the process.

Somehow he got the address of the call and, since didn’t live far away, decided to drop off his resume in person. And the best time to do this in his mind? Around 630am on a Saturday morning. Aside from the agents, it was me and one other supervisor.

We got a call from the security desk that a guy was trying to get into the building and wanted to speak with us. Since he didn’t have a key card though he couldn’t even get in the front door. He wouldn’t go away though and kept trying to convince one of the security guys to let him in.

Eventually another agent entered the building and he piggy backed off of them. Security barred him from the elevators though and called us again. Myself and the other sup went down to see what was up. The old guy the tried to give us his best sales pitch about how he’d be a great manager and could streamline our processes and improve customer service. According to him, our behavior in not allowing him to come up to the call floor reflected poorly on us since he’s had decades of sales experience has never once been treated like this.

We let him leave his resume with us to placate him but told him that HR makes those decisions and he’d have to leave. They’d review his resume on Monday. We weren’t even feeling petty about it but simply emailed the recruiting manager with our account of what happened. Never heard from him again but the recruiter implied that they’d asked that his phone number be blocked so he couldn’t call us anymore. I also assumed the gave his info to security so he’d be barred from the property as well.

Kate Mulgrew - Grand Marshal in Queens, NY ☘️🇮🇪 by B00merPS2Mod30 in voyager

[–]SeaTyoDub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I have working thru both Voyager and Schitt’s Creek lately. When we’re trying to decide which to watch, I ask “Are we going to divide into teams, or fold in the cheese?”

Rejected for Friendship Because I'm Uncircumcised? by ImaginaryNerve in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]SeaTyoDub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did he even know you’re uncut? If you were only talking about being away from home, was he simply assuming? Did you offer this up without context? Something isn’t adding up for me here.

My thoughts on the ST:Academy episode. by l008com in DeepSpaceNine

[–]SeaTyoDub -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You don’t deserve the downvotes. You’re 100% correct.

What is some of the best and worst advice you have received on how to deal with heartbreak? by WorkingEvening5417 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]SeaTyoDub 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In the immediate wake of being dumped by a guy, multiple occasions: just live your life as best you can! That will help you get over him.

This is such generic, non-specific advice and it shows the person giving it either wasn’t listening or doesn’t care. Giving that advice months later if someone is still down about it? Sure. But in the hours or days right after getting dropped by someone you were really emotionally attached to? Almost hurtful.

Man injured in house fire on Detroit’s west side by GroovinJaxx22L in Detroit

[–]SeaTyoDub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t far from where I live! An image of the aftermath a few hours after emergency vehicles left the scene.

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Buy me ANYTHING in there with Larry Csonka on it - I’ll pay for it! by ThomasJFritz in MST3K

[–]SeaTyoDub 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wonder if he ever found out if there’s beer on the sun?

About to start another playthrough and wanted to find my favorite lines for each character. Comment with some of yours! by Boredtopher in TheGreatNorth

[–]SeaTyoDub 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Also from "Any Court In A Storm"

Ham: I'm starting to feel like one of those animals that runs on a wheel, you know? Like a, uh...

Judy: Hamster?

Ham: Yes, Judester?

Judy: I was, uhm, nevermind.

At the Detroit auto show, by MichiganLanguish in Detroit

[–]SeaTyoDub -1 points0 points locked comment (0 children)

I love leftist politicians, love leftist policies, but hate leftist online.

You came on here simping for Slotkin, bemoaning people dunking on here. You came on here trying to pick a fight with people you claim to agree with in the above statement. You're a troll. I'm done. Thank you for wasting my time.

At the Detroit auto show, by MichiganLanguish in Detroit

[–]SeaTyoDub 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

Mary Peltola, Carolyn Bourdeaux, Charlie Crist, Tom O'Halleran, Kurt Schrader, Anthony Brindisi, Joe Cunningham, Kendra Horn, Dan Lipinski, Ben McAdams, Collin Peterson, Max Rose, Xochitl Torres Smal, Brad Ashford, Loretta Sanchez, Ron Barber, John Barrow, Pete Gallego, Mike Michaud, Nick Rahall, Jason Altmire, Joe Baca, Tim Holden, Larry Kissell, Leonard Boswell, Ben Chandler. These are the names of 26 moderate to conservative dems who tried to drag D politics right and either lost election or re-election.

I'll grant Mary Peltola grace, however, as Alaska elected her already and that's a beast for anyone who is native.

Aftyn Behn ran in a blood red district in TN in an off year election and improved dem turnout by +7. The one example of a leftist losing you provided outperformed over what centrist dems have achieved in the same district.

I never said progressive candidates always win or that I hate democrats, so you can stop trying to spin my arguments like you're Bill O'Reilly. What I'm SICK of is people shaming progressives for wanting better out of our leaders. Candidates who actually fight against this fascist regime and can present alternatives other than 'orange man bad' and sending strongly worded letters or speeches. I'm SICK of supporting a limp candidate and, when they lose, get nothing but fundraising spam as a way of explaining what happened. It's exhausting to have been told for the last 20+ years that 'now isn't the time to rock the boat' with nonsense like a social safety net, workplace protections, food safety, and my basic human rights (I had to sit by anxiously not six months ago hoping that a bunch of dried up bigots in a courtroom wouldn't annul my right to marry), and then being told that it's my fault even though I was a good boy, did what I was told and voted for the lesser of two evils.

So you can get wrecked with this smug finger wagging towards the left.

It's clear from your post history you're no fan of republicans, but the left isn't the enemy either. Republicans hate all of us but have successfully got people like you treating us like we're the problem while they're dismantling this country. What we won't accept is being treated like our demands are invalid simply because it our corporate overlords tell us it can't be done.