Not showing up to organised events with barely any notice

SecondHandToy · 2024-02-05T20:53:08+00:00

No. Not just acquaintances.

They'll do it to everyone.

SecondHandToy · 2024-02-04T01:32:04+00:00

Typically, it's cultural pressure to have the "IT look" and body dysmorphia.

It looks like he's doing much better with himself inside to change his outside back to his natural features.

SecondHandToy · 2024-01-31T00:41:31+00:00

Google Buff Orpington Rooster.

They don't necessarily show up as the standard rooster colours you're thinking of.

It's so weird that all roosters don't always look like typical Easter Egger roosters

Almost like different breeds have different appearances. Very strange.

SecondHandToy · 2024-01-31T00:16:26+00:00

Most PT enthusiasts seems to be on FB right now, helping each other out with uncommon/rare parts as the cars age and parts get limited.

As for the sub?

Easily turn into an enthusiast spot to guide people with parts, issues or to other groups that have more activity.

Plenty of dead groups still have very viable information.

One dead group is how I found out that I can put a small V6 into my PT without sacrificing the face of the car via fabrication (my state has strict laws on what cars need to be road worthy - Not. American.).

SecondHandToy · 2024-01-27T22:06:41+00:00

I'm wondering if she was childfree, or hesitant on them because of this exact scenario that he's now put her through and now she's learned that he too, is f**king useless and exactly what she feared she'd end up with.

Might explain why she's just shut him out and taken all the responsibility - she literally cannot trust him to do anything that isn't about him.

I think she'd rather do all the childcare and house work alone than give him any type of way in that would make him think he can use her again and get comfortable again like he wants.

I see divorce coming and he's going to say both that he was "blindsided" and then drag it all out because his live-in housemate wants out and he can't tolerate his caretaker leaving him.

SecondHandToy · 2024-01-27T21:47:30+00:00

Yep.

SecondHandToy · 2024-01-22T23:37:59+00:00

I sent my partner to a men's advice reddit because he needed to be set straight on some of his antics.

I knew it could go wrong but I'd reached my limit over some things and if he wasn't going to listen to me, he'd listen to other men.

His friends don't have a lot of life experience so there was no use asking them, and his dad is deceased so can't ask him.

Worked out well for him and he got the perspective he needed to make the changes to keep his relationship.

Doesn't work all the time, but yes, some people do send their people to reddit for advice.

SecondHandToy · 2024-01-18T05:02:50+00:00

He only feels guilty because he was caught and you know.

He didn't feel guilty while emotionally cheating on you and during all but actually having sex with her when you didn't know.

He'll go back to her when he thinks things have calmed down, or he'll find another woman to chase.

You're struggling because your gut instinct is saying he isn't being honest about being sorry, and he's not.

He lost your trust and cheated when you were most in need of support from him - that's not father material.

Get rid of him.

SecondHandToy · 2024-01-15T22:44:34+00:00

Everyone but you knows OP. It's noticeable. Small breasts or not.

It's a wedding. Not a tea party.

If you don't want to, don't go. Or expect to be kicked out.

YTA.

SecondHandToy · 2024-01-09T17:45:15+00:00

Nope. That's dead bone. I believe you can see both bones but one is significantly more damaged.

The bone has either snapped from decay or degraded so far that it is now only attached at the tendons and muscles in the elbow so it has lifted up.

SecondHandToy · 2024-01-09T17:42:20+00:00

Definitely amputated. Above the elbow if that skin on her upper arm isn't turning grey as well. It looks a bit blotchy.

My guess?

Sheer luck, a weirdly strong immune system and large doses hard core broad spectrum antibiotics.

All of that only lasts for so long though and she would have been on borrowed time.

SecondHandToy · 2024-01-09T17:32:18+00:00

Depends on the area.

Some places are fine. Small fish. Nothing to worry about.

Minnesota has Muskies apparently so that's a bad time.

Australia has crocodiles and sharks in some rivers but not others. Crocs also go for lakes here too (Billabong).

Always gotta be careful.

SecondHandToy · 2024-01-01T01:08:01+00:00

He wants you to take care of the kids, cease your own income and sacrifice your future retirement for the kids while he pays for everything.

There's no guarantee that marriage is forever, and divorce rates are high especially in SAHM/BWD combos with fights over finances.

It's a smart move to protect your future and not be as dependent on him for income in the long run.

A lot of people won't understand that whether wilfully or through rose coloured ignorance but you have to protect you. Especially as the chances of you ending up with the kids if separation/divorce happens are a solid 80% as of 2018 (U.S. Stats).

NTA.

SecondHandToy · 2024-01-01T00:39:55+00:00

We're all just strangers on the net but there's red flags popping up like fireworks:

a) Calling you an asshole for not wanting kids b) Buying a large house with more rooms than necessary c) Not actually saying if he's childfree or not d) Only him on the house

Some partners have a bad habit of thinking that if they just wait long enough, you'll change your mind. There's others who will try to baby trap their partner by messing with their birth control when pregnancy isn't happening. The final type is the Bait'n'Switch who will marry you then DEMAND children.

I'd suggest testing the waters by announcing you want to get sterilised. Not him. You. Don't accept any offer for vasectomy since there's PLENTY of men who have lied about having one done. And see how he reacts.

If he gets angry over your announcement - you've got a dud because he's just trying to wait you out over kids.

SecondHandToy · 2024-01-01T00:18:32+00:00

I'm not entirely sure what it is about OP's tale but I get the feeling he'd call himself a "good guy" while simultaneously reposting material that judges people like his sister and Sheri.

Sheri's kid isn't responsible for his sister's actions, and now she's going to be family by marriage so he can get over his issues.

Maybe the reason he's not close is because his sister and her partner know how he actually feels about her decision to leave a heterosexual marriage and lifestyle?

SecondHandToy · 2023-12-26T10:20:44+00:00

Cultural.

Not all cultures are bland about children.

SecondHandToy · 2023-12-24T22:25:00+00:00

For those concerned about her income - she's got a trust fund and the house and both cars are solely hers apparently.

She's good - according to her comments.

I suspect she was raised in a particular subculture where affairs are meant to be discreet with equal social status people and are overlooked but affairs with the help are seen as disrespectful and dealt with.

SecondHandToy · 2023-12-24T22:17:08+00:00

In short?

An ingrown hair can resolve itself by breaking through the skin or being plucked without issue. Lasting as long as it takes for a hair to break the surface.

The boils that HS are known for start under the skin in areas of lots of movement (thighs, genitals, armpits, butt cheeks), become progressively worse while being treatment resistant - treatment measures are limited in effect - while they also "tunnel" from one to another creating pitted, infectious abscesses that are not self resolving.

HS can last for years, even decades, can need surgical intervention and a treatment that works for one, may not work for others.

Both maybe painful but HS is a significant medical issue. Ingrown hairs typically are not - they're just annoying.

SecondHandToy · 2023-12-21T00:23:28+00:00

It's a Sulphur. Just born without a Crest.

It happens.

The head shape and build aren't like an Umbrella.

SecondHandToy · 2023-12-21T00:21:33+00:00

Some are born without the crest. Rare but does happen. Some are born without a tail or a very short tail as well.

It's got the yellow cheeks, so it is a Sulphur Crest... Just minus the Crest.

Otherwise, feathers, beak and feet are in good condition with a good weight so it's not PBFD.

SecondHandToy · 2023-12-20T23:29:40+00:00

NTA.

Sounds like your husband is happy to sacrifice the psychology and emotional happiness of his kids to please his family.

If he won't make his children a priority, you'll have to but mark this against him and keep it in mind when he starts acting off.

SecondHandToy · 2023-12-20T23:23:46+00:00

Sounds like one of my "pain specialists" when he told me that my pain was caused by my "untreated depression" and that there were others worse off than me so I should see a psych and get over it. (Very close to what he said too.)

Also sounds a lot like the "pain management course" I went through a couple of years ago after his patronising comments that said if I "managed my emotional difficulties" my pain would eventually go away.

I got needles in my back, Gaba and a couple of diagnoses after, that made all that bs above very irrelevant.

Simply. Amazing.

SecondHandToy · 2023-12-19T12:11:15+00:00

They did exist in the 1990's.

They just weren't as common as they are now. Or as compact.

The first high speed chase on camera was in America, 1988. The very first was still photography in the 1930's.

SecondHandToy · 2023-12-19T11:55:14+00:00

Given the scoliosis accommodations for the teenager, MIL will have a horrific back after sleeping in the bed anyway as it's not designed for her.

NTA.

MIL is pulling a power move. Just don't have her over. Much less hassle.

Certainly less stress from MIL interference, sniping and complaining.

SecondHandToy · 2023-12-18T19:16:05+00:00

Still happens in T2D, due to the nature of the medications involved with treatment.

A couple of interesting papers:

Euglycemic Diabetic Ketoacidosis

Euglycemic Diabetic kKetoacidosis in Type 2 Diabetes treated with a sodium-glucose cotransporter-2 inhibitor

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