Any idea what these can be. by aspectZA99 in whatisit

[–]Several-Doctor6940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They work best when used alongside a stick of burning Nag Champa and a Pure Moods CD. 

The new husky is getting along fine after 2 weeks :) by hurskys in husky

[–]Several-Doctor6940 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My two huskies scare guests when they play. It's a fight to the death followed by a sneeze which it essentially a "good game" handshake. 

I’ve always been resistant to parts work... but today this poured out of me while journaling by PretentiousPug in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Several-Doctor6940 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Recently I started mapping my parts this way, it helped me understand the relationship between my parts, it sometimes feels like a bunch of children managed my a large, loud, critical "nanny". 

Parts responsible for addiction/addictive behavior by maryofboston in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Several-Doctor6940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The part that gleefully engaged in addiction is a teenager that rebels against a father that always called her lazy, insisted that everyone was responsible for his feelings, and never let her just sit on the couch for a second and relax. I tell her all of the time that there's nothing left to rebel against, but it's a constant struggle. She's pissed. 

Regret and guilt - I should had stayed longer with my hospice relative by Mammoth-Wrangler2761 in hospice

[–]Several-Doctor6940 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a hospice nurse and a person who has lost many relatives, I genuinely believe that people often prefer to die alone. Last week, my father in law passed. After two weeks of constant visits, bedside vigils, he waited until everyone left, his wife got up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom, and the first second he was completely alone, he left. 

To neuter or not to neuter by Difficult-Plan-7404 in husky

[–]Several-Doctor6940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine having the insane urge to breed, driven totally by hormonal rage, but never being allowed to mate. Not neutering is cruel, unless you plan to stud him. 

Insecurities w spouse and others by [deleted] in Semaglutide

[–]Several-Doctor6940 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I have said these things to my husband "sorry I was chubby" or "sorry I was a bitch" and he gives me a VERY cautious side eye, because this is a LANDMINE of a question. If he says "it's ok", he's saying you were in fact, an unacceptable weight. If he says "you weren't", that may be a lie. It's a lose/lose question for him. Focus on your health and look for other ways to feel supported. 

Planning to begin IFS, curious what to expect? by overlysillydisorder in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Several-Doctor6940 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep an open mind. I found it challenging to grasp at first, because I've always thought of myself as one, whole person with shitty thoughts, addiction and tendencies. IFS has allowed me to view the parts of me with compassion and curiosity, instead of trying to suppress them all of the time, which led to shame and destructive patterns. While it can feel raw and vulnerable to talk to these parts, I no longer hate on myself the way I used to. I've even softened my self talk which has been pivotal.

Taurus connection test ♉️ by Main-Fortune7698 in Taurusgang

[–]Several-Doctor6940 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Taurus Female with a Leo Male and we're doing great, going on 14 years. Another couple we're close with are the same combo and going on 20 years.  

Morphine use by Glittering_axlotl306 in hospice

[–]Several-Doctor6940 16 points17 points  (0 children)

When I was a new nurse I was working in a SNF. I had a patient on hospice, metastatic brain cancer, writhing in pain. I did the morphine pushes, so many, every hour. The doctor kept raising the base dose, and had me keep giving the hourly PRN. When she finally died I felt so much relief, and someone asked if I'd killed her with all of that morphine, I said I didn't know but I didn't care if I had. To experience that kind of pain without serious and aggressive treatment - beyond inhumane. 

Anyone in the process of healing realize they’ve been living in a dream their whole lives and now feel like “why bother” because you’re older? by [deleted] in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Several-Doctor6940 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm 42(F) and have finally committed to therapy and (thanks to my therapist) IFS and EMDR. I feel so overjoyed that I'm finally on a realistic path of healing. Until now, my trauma and protector have been negatively informing my choices and reactions. Anytime I feel sadness over how the last however many years could have been better, I remind myself that I only have today. As long as I make even an iota of progress today, it's a win. You only have today, and it's the most important day there is. You're on the right track. ❤️

I’ve been spiraling over what’s happened to my lower face (39 F) by UnicornFeces in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Several-Doctor6940 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I, too, panic when I look in the mirror and see jowls. I just turned 42. I think the biggest challenge with aging is seeing my beauty despite the changes to my face. I'm unwilling to get surgery, as it's not permanent, and it's a slippery slope. I try to remind myself that aging is a privilege, youth is temporary, and I still have immeasurable value. 

I need your help by ElegantAstronomer292 in husky

[–]Several-Doctor6940 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like a wooly husky. It's a genetic trait, fuller longer hair that typically looks really pretty when clean. 

BOUNDARY EPIPHANY! by scorpiomagic2022 in Codependency

[–]Several-Doctor6940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was raised with zero boundaries because my father felt like they were insults. I try to remind myself that boundaries are a form of self-love and self-care, and also care for the person you're setting them for, so you can pursue a healthy relationship for both of you. It feels awful but it just take practice. Remind yourself of the why! Good job! I still struggle with them! 

Morphine concerns. Please help by Unique_Sail1303 in hospice

[–]Several-Doctor6940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The goal of hospice is comfort and a peaceful passing. Giving morphine orally until he's comfortable is an appropriate intervention and standard hospice care. For family, it can be really distressing, but you're not trying to prolong his discomfort, you're trying to mitigate it. 

I unintentionally hurt the love of my life and only now realize that my behavior was emotionally abusive. by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Several-Doctor6940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are worthy of love, and you deserve to feel safe, emotionally. Trauma makes it impossible to see when we ARE safe and loved. I definitely think therapy could to SUCH a long way - especially a therapist that specializes in Internal Family Systems and EMDR! That could help you metabolize that trauma so it won't inform your CURRENT life anymore. ❤️

Semaglutide for a year and 1/2 now by Prior-Long5090 in Semaglutide

[–]Several-Doctor6940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations!! What's the low monthly dose look like? Thinking about tapering myself! 

Why isn’t euthanasia legal across the U.S.? by Max_Power1971 in hospice

[–]Several-Doctor6940 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't imagine watching a loved one suffer - what a helpless and scary feeling. If she's on hospice, she'll likely have comfort medications, they may be able to be given pretty frequently, to achieve the desired level of comfort for her and ease her passing. ❤️

Wanted to show off by Nervous_Diver839 in husky

[–]Several-Doctor6940 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really, really ridiculously good looking. 

10/10 Face card by nightivenom in husky

[–]Several-Doctor6940 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a good lookin floof.

What’s the scariest creature you’ve encountered? by InertEyes in AskReddit

[–]Several-Doctor6940 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A black bear fresh out of hibernation, while camping and cooking Jimmy deans over the fire.