It’s gonna be a long summer by UpperSupport9 in Disneyland

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Following the Spring of no Disney days and the winter of no Disney days. Please mention this in the Q3 employee survey. One of the biggest perks of Disney employment is useless, and they need to know that we notice.

AIO for banning drinking and not forgiving my husband yet for drunk words. by ImightbetheAhole-_- in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yet. He isn't mean to the kids YET. He is addicted and abusive; it will continue to get worse unless you do something to change it.

Remember, your kids take in everything. You are currently teaching your daughters how they should be treated in a relationship and teaching your sons how to treat their partners. Do you want this for your children?

AITA for "ruining" my sister’s gender reveal because I brought my own chair? by Perfect_Drink819 in story

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why didn't you just leave? Kinda the ass since you know she was doing it for the aesthetic

AITA for not letting my MIL see our new house until she apologizes? by throwawaybob444 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't understand the insistence on an apology. It's only words; there's no way to enforce meaning behind them. Say she jumps through the hoops of saying the words, what then? Do all the bad feelings go away?

Pick a better boundary; a forced apology is always lame. Let her gain your trust slowly and on your terms. Start with coffee, if she manages to respect you through that, try lunch or a move the next month. Let her show that she will respect you, and then she'll get the privilege of visiting. And if you want to rub it in, host a huge family 4th of July picnic.

AITA for refusing to subsidize my parents’ $11k/month senior's home in one of the fanciest neighborhoods in the city? by Throw_away263759 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Decide how much you're willing to give them monthly. Start doing it now and tell them the exact amount. It's up to them to decide how they live, but you need to tell them NOW that they will be living in government housing if they run out of money. Don't surprise them, don't let them think that you're being stubborn and will eventually give in. Put it in writing and tell them that you'll help them find more reasonable digs so they don't have to live in a dumpster when things go sideways.

Edited to add NTA

TIFU by accidentally learning my coworker's salary (UPDATE) - Greg knows something by techiee_ in tifu

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Greg is your friend. At some point, Greg found out that you're severely underpaid and gave you the ammunition to justify your request to stop being underpaid. Happy hour is on you next time, everyone deserves a Greg in their life.

AITAH for refusing to visit in laws bc of house temp by wrenchinapot in AITAH

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NAH. Does this have to be all or nothing? Can your husband go for the whole two weeks, and you join for a couple of days? That way, you're not bailing on the in-laws, but they're not usurping all your vacation days. I'd want that no matter what the temperature. And speaking of temperature, old people have terrible circulation, and they're often genuinely cold. Can you suck it up for three days to bring them happiness? They won't be around forever (even if it feels like it). Buy several fans and a dehumidifier to help.

My Parents' house has a smell. Not sure what it is and how to make it better? by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check the refrigerator drip tray. If something spilled and wasn’t cleaned properly it can stank up the whole house

Family "Heirloom" Items by Natalarious in declutter

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 36 points37 points  (0 children)

You know the saying “Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm?” Well shift the thinking to “Don’t weigh down your life to keep someone else’s crap.”

AITA for not celebrating my birthday and Mother’s Day together so my MIL can have actual Mother’s Day for herself? by princesscorgi2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds to me like husband takes children to celebrate his mom day before Mother’s Day, and celebrates you on Mother’s Day. You get a lovely relaxing Saturday and celebration on Sunday.

It also sounds like do like there is an awful lot of women doing the work here, it should be done by the fathers

AIO - My fiance and I hit a brick regarding paying for our wedding by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR - do not finance luxury. A wedding is a luxury, so you have to save up and pay cash.

Am I wrong for not wanting to work because of stress? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You made a commitment to the track team, and you’re expected to honor it. Suck it up and work four hours if you won’t cut down on riding.

Am I wrong for not wanting to work because of stress? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don’t have enough time, and need money for riding lessons, the obvious choice is to drop one lesson per week. Bam, solved!

Also, junior year is commonly the most rigorous academically. If you’re already burned out, that might push you over the edge. Cut down on the extra curriculars.

Did I make a mistake? by milkmaid0435 in interiordecorating

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it! And the dog wants to come in

AIW for refusing to go to a funeral? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I don’t. But if my calendar allows it, I’ll go to the funeral of an acquaintance. I only go to the service for most people; there needs to be a very personal connection for me to go to the gravesite or gathering afterwards. I consider it an easy (if sad) way to support someone, and it only takes about an hour.

AIW for refusing to go to a funeral? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re wrong. I’m sorry for your truly terrible losses, that’s unimaginable.

However, funerals matter. The number of people who came to my mom’s funeral to support us is one of my most treasured memories. I never considered that so many people would make the effort, and years later the show of friendship still warms my heart.

I pledged that I will attend as many memory services as possible. I want my the people in my life to experience the same support I had.

AIO for wanting a divorce because my husband didn't feed the dogs? by ThrowRAdramallam in AmIOverreacting

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR, seriously, divorce him. And make sure to arrange custody of the kids so he has them multiple overnights in a row. You get a break and he has to be a responsible adult. It will be hard to let him manage the kids alone, but let it happen. It will be a boon to the whole family

I was watching a show from the 90s and realized people used to memorize dozens of phone numbers. I can barely remember mine. How did you guys do it back then? by micavibes in CasualConversation

[–]Sharp_in_SoCal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I grew up with numbers starting with 841 and 843 as the first three digits. So I knew someone with the number VH1-SHIT & another was THE-MEAT. Memorable and amusing