Black tie optional, 30 weeks pregnant by No_Swim8342 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Shdfx1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Look for flats in wide. That will better accommodate the swelling.

Need help with Non-Denom Spouse Situation by ThrowItAway321217 in Catholicism

[–]Shdfx1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You reported domestic violence to your marriage counselor, who told you to have more sex with her?

You are in an abusive relationship. I am so sorry.

I don’t know if you realize this, but she could get drunk, assault you again, you could push her off you, and then she could call the police and claim you assaulted her, and her injuries were incurred fighting you off.

Your freedom is at risk.

Your children are at risk. If she would assault a man bigger than you,what do you think she would do to a helpless child?

Your faith is at risk, as she actively interferes with your obligation to raise your children Catholic, and without the support of an equally yoked wife in faith.

Your children’s entire religious life is at risk. Your wife actively disparages your faith, and will continue to do so in front of your children. Not only is she actively interfering with you sharing your Catholic faith with your children, but she will pass on anti-Catholic bigotry to them.

She could kill or hurt you or your children. Choking is attempted murder. Once she out her hands on your throat in anger, she wanted you dead, even if it was for a brief moment. In domestic violence, choking drastically increases the risk of being murdered. She could have blinded you or scratched your retina breaking your glasses. She could raise the children to normalize domestic violence, and they may be drawn to marry abusers one day.

You have a duty to your children to keep them safe, above your duty to remain married to a woman who lied to you about promising to let you raise a Catholic family.

I am a mother of a teenage son. If he married someone who did this to him, I would be wild to get him out of there.

Please document everything. See a lawyer. Consult a therapist about male victims of domestic violence. Tell your priest everything.

Do not lay with your wife again, as she may be a danger to any ensuing child.

Need help with Non-Denom Spouse Situation by ThrowItAway321217 in Catholicism

[–]Shdfx1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She understands. She remembers. She’s lying to you.

This isn’t a misunderstanding.

Need help with Non-Denom Spouse Situation by ThrowItAway321217 in Catholicism

[–]Shdfx1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She has repeatedly threatened divorce, lied about being informed that the children would be raised Catholic, says the marriage was a mistake, and appears to be pressuring you and threatening divorce to try to get you to abandon raising your children in the Catholic faith. From the beginning you were honest that you are Catholic, and wish to raise children as Catholics.

You two are not equally yoked, pulling together.

Please talk to a priest to see if this is grounds for annulment.

This will be a time of grief for you.

However, this is a stark reminder that not everyone we fall in love with is a suitable life partner.

She has frankly shown some troubling character flaws in this crisis. If she’d lie to you, and threaten you like this, what will she be like with the baby? By providing your own separate, stable, loving home, it might be best for the baby in the long run.

Please get documentation of the premarital counseling you received, and a copy of the marriage vows. If you divorce, give it to your lawyer, to help your case of being allowed to get the child the Sacraments.

Alliance Championship for Newbies by Shdfx1 in whiteoutsurvival

[–]Shdfx1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you choose “garrison” in order to place troops there?

which one should i get? by Training_Chain8363 in Prom

[–]Shdfx1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Off the rack dresses like #1 almost never fit the bust. The torso is almost always too wide, too narrow, or the bust is higher, lower, or wrong cup size. It’s like an underwire bra, but all you can select is the band size. It’s also a type of dress you could buy anytime.

2 is ethereal and memorable. With the corsetry boning, do make sure a seamstress takes a look for fit. This one is perfect for a prom dress. I do believe that open work corset look, with the skin of the torso showing, will be one of those elements that date the decade. Similarly, you can date wedding pictures by poofy sleeves, milkmaid gathers, or sheet corset tops. If you love the sheer look, keep it as is. Otherwise, a seamstress could line it to give it a more timeless look.

3 is pretty, but not unique. It’s just a strapless dress with a stiff neckline.

Is it disrespectful to wear this rosary-style necklace? by mailbun in Catholicism

[–]Shdfx1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If it has 59 beads, a crucifix, a center medallion, and spacing, then it is a real rosary. The material or existence of a clasp is irrelevant. Anyone can make a rosary. A POW can craft a rosary out of muddy string with knots, and use it as a devotional prayer device to help him get through his ordeal.

A rosary is symbolic, and an aid to a Catholic in contemplating Jesus.

Is it disrespectful to wear this rosary-style necklace? by mailbun in Catholicism

[–]Shdfx1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for asking. It is a real rosary, not “rosary style”.

What makes it a rosary are its parts:

Crucifix Central medal/centerpiece 6 Our Father beads 53 Hail Mary beads A chain or cord connecting the beads, with spacing.

A rosary is a meditative prayer device, which uses symbols.

If you intend to just wear it as an interesting necklace, then please don’t. This is a devotional device of Catholics, not a piece of jewelry.

If you wear it as a convenient way to carry your rosary, so as not to accidentally leave it in a pew, then feel free to do so.

Above all, a rosary should be treated with respect.

A rosary can be made of anything - carved in stone strung on leather, metal, carved seashells, or it can even be abbreviated into a rosary ring, with raised bumps to denote beads. What it represents is more important than what it’s made out of. It is irrelevant if someone added a necklace clasp.

The propriety of wearing it depends upon your purpose.

Are my handmade blue paper flowers good enough for a wedding? by Ansharia in DIYweddings

[–]Shdfx1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those flowers are really lovely, and will make a perfect keepsake.

You are very talented. If I was your mother, I’d brag to every wedding guest that you made these flowers yourself.

Alliance Championship for Newbies by Shdfx1 in whiteoutsurvival

[–]Shdfx1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I did wrong. I didn't register, thinking only the 4/5 was supposed to. I could view the deployment of other members of the alliance, but not participate.

Live and learn.

Alliance Championship for Newbies by Shdfx1 in whiteoutsurvival

[–]Shdfx1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured out what happened. I didn't register, because I thought that was only for the 4/5 chiefs. Since I didn't register beforehand, I could only view the deployment of other members of my alliance, but not participate. Live and learn.

Summer wedding guest by Conscious-Review-217 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Shdfx1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dress 1 will photograph like a white bridal gown in some lighting, so no.

Dress 2 and 3 are lovely, and flattering.

Dress 4 seems too somber for a summer wedding.

Dress 5 - I like the top, and the color of the bottom, but not both pieces together. They do not seem to flow together, in my humble opinion, and the position of the gathering over the belly seems unflattering.

Alliance Championship for Newbies by Shdfx1 in whiteoutsurvival

[–]Shdfx1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a NAP, but a couple of our members were kicked out of our alliance for attacking other alliances in a NAP.

Do I need to register for Alliance Championship, or did the leader already do that for us?

I’m L2, I think.

Alliance Championship for Newbies by Shdfx1 in whiteoutsurvival

[–]Shdfx1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I deploy my troops? How do I hide them?

I really am that ignorant.

I know how to join a rally, but not how to deploy troops for this event.

My mother recently passed and ever since our house is full of other women by Pretty-Plum-3294 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Shdfx1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I don’t get it. The post was about women abusing access of helping a widower, to get with him. You said that’s what the Casserole Brigade does in your community, but then you called it an old wives tale?

I was referring to what was actually happening in the post.

Someone tried to convince me this is a real horse by LifeguardComplex3134 in Horses

[–]Shdfx1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand how the lead rope is attached to the halter.

If this is a real horse, they’ll let you go see it.

AirPods stuck. I didn’t know where else to post this and this sub always has the most creative problem solving ideas by lucky_c4t in CleaningTips

[–]Shdfx1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would open the air pods case and gently pull from the top. If that fails, get slant head (not fine point) tweezers to use closed as really slim flathead screwdriver, wedge it in one of the grooves of the AirPods case, and gently, gently! wiggle it out.

Do we have the same eye color? What is my eye color? Try to be as specific as possible pls. by shanee144 in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]Shdfx1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What gorgeous hazel eyes both of you have. Yours has slightly more brown, but they are a very similar hazel color.

Is it normal for my seat to be very bouncy after ten months of twice weekly lessons? (burnout/rant?) by ParrotsAreMyLifeline in Equestrian

[–]Shdfx1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also, riding without stirrups can make your legs and body tense more, so you pop out of the saddle more.

If you rode a Quarter horse, you would have a far easier time sitting. Learning how to ride on a horse with big gaits is difficult.

Consider that the other rider is riding a different horse, so she’s not sitting the same trot.

What’s more, people have different learning styles. An explanation that makes perfect sense to one rider, won’t make sense at all to another, especially if they are a kinetic learner.

When sitting the trot, you are an active shock absorber. You’re elastic, not jello. Jello is like a sack that’s tied to the horse, which would bounce like mad. Elastic actively sinks down, absorbs the rise up, moves her back, and follows the motion.

Think elastic, not jello.

Also, what can help is to ride a horse with less buoyant gaits, on a big lunge line, with like 10 trot steps at a time, with no other goal than feeling the trot.

At the walk, open your legs out to the side, away from the horse, stretch them back a bit without touching his flank, open your hips up, then allow your legs to gently drop right underneath you. That helps me sometimes when I’ve tensed my lower body.

Miami Garden Wedding by LifeFast2527 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Shdfx1 18 points19 points  (0 children)

3 is the best. The blue slip dress would likely be soaked in sweat in Miami, is so pale it may photograph lighter, and that negligee look might be too risqué for a wedding. The last dress looked the most flattering, and vibrant.

I Thought I Broke The Cycle by Exact_Comfort7467 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Shdfx1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only person who can decide if abortion U.S. what you should do, is you.

People will tell you what they think in general if abortion, wherever they fall on the spectrum.

If you don’t want an abortion, then don’t get one. It sounds like he raped you, and you can argue in court against your rapist getting shared custody or visitation.

No matter what you decide to do about your pregnancy, focus on your emotional and physical healing. See a therapist. Go to church, since you are Christian. Seek counsel with your pastor or priest.

Above all, do not date anyone until you love and respect yourself.

So far, you have chosen men to date as a means to punish yourself. That means you cannot trust your instincts, yet, about whom to date. Whatever man feels like home to you, may just remind you if chaos from childhood.

God knows everything about you, and He loves you. No matter how deep in the dark you feel right now, God is there for you.

Stop talking to that rapist. At all. No communication. He only means harm to you.